to be angry that there are no female doctors..... untill wednesday!!!

[charlotte121]

everyone in the chat thread thinks i am but I have a right to see a female doctor and having to wait nearly a week to see one isnt good enough in my opinion. I have a valid reason for wanting to see a female doc and although im in a lot of pain I really cant see a male doctor!

If expat was pissed off with you she wouldn't still be on this thread. We've all had one of "those" days.

Got any wine in the house??? Go pour yourself a glass.

hope you feel better soon, anyway, charlotte

expat- I do find it difficult to deal with what happend because when i finally plucked up the courage to tell people no one believed me that it had happend and the people who did said it was my own fault because i had been drinking. It doesnt help that I keep seeing the guy who rubs it in my face and takes the piss out of me over the whole situation. Last time he told me to go "run home and tell my mummy some more lies about him"
It doesnt alow you to get over it whe they're up in your face like that.

island i do have wine... i shall pur myself a glass when the sprogs are asleep.

that's why you need to see a therapist who deals with women who've been assaulted, charlotte.

i was date raped and had been drinking and messing around with the bloke and for years a) couldn't believe it happened b) blamed it all on myself.

it's surprisingly common. when i 'came out', an astonishing number of friends had had similar experiences.

Charlotte - I am so sorry about your experience. I have also been assaulted and I was much, much better about it after counselling.

I think you should perhaps consider changing GP in the meantime. My GP surgery has 5 doctors and 4 of them are women. I didn't choose it for that but neither would I choose to have a bloke doing my smear so I do see where you're coming from.

And I doubt anyone thinks you're an idiot. Sexual assault can leave lasting mental scars and you're not an idiot for having them.

don;t give it a second thought, we all have hormonalunreasonable days when we are knackered and poorly

lol i stood up the other day and wet myself... the joys of having kids eyyy.
My sister was assulted by a taxi driver once but she didnt believe me when i told her about her friend attacking me. that hurt alot as i thoguth she would understand. Did they spike your drink? Someone did that to my drink in a night club once, luckily my bf was with me and took me straight to my mum but its horrible what it does to you.
How long did it take you to get over what happened? I wasnt raped, but i was only 15 when it happened. was too scared to tell my mum as i had been drinking and i thought she would be angry with me coz of that.

no, my drinks were not spiked.

i'd gone to a university party and drunk way, way too much, like many 18-year-olds.

but i do know a number of women who were 'roofed'/had their drinks spiked and were raped.

I expect theres a lot of women who dont know it has happend as well. God there are some evil men out there. You cant even trust your friends.

Just read OP and first few posts...

As a female doc working in breast surgery where as you can imagine the majority of patients would prefer to see a woman this is a tricky one. I would always support the right of patients to request a woman if they wish but also the service has to be able to work. At the moment its fine as I am a registrar and so about an equal number of people request to see the consultant. So what when I am the consultant? Is it reasonable for me to see ALL the patients in the clinic to accommodate their preferences while my male juniors sit around eating cake and playing minesweeper and the clinic nurses get pissed off as the clinic over runs and they don't get home until an hour after they were meant to? And the same patients whose requests I was trying to accommodate then put in complaints as they were seen late?

I think I will try and accommodate as much of this as I can but not if it resulted in the above situation!

Sorry I know this was a bit of an aside - just trying to give another perspective... I don't think the OP is unreasonable to request a female doc but is unreasonable to complain that one isn't available. Sometimes thats just the way it is. Like others have pointed out females have the right to take holidays! And I don't think you should turn down male docs who apply for a job who are better qualified than the females applying because you need more female GPs either. Can you imagine the uproar if the reverse happened?

Hi Charlotte, just to say don't talk to the surgery about the female doctor issue (except to ask if they will be taking on any more doctors when they move). They won't know whether other practices have ore female doctors. Ring up the PALS service at your local PCT (the number will be on their website). They can tell you which practices in your area are registering new patients and which have the most female doctors. You can also get an idea using NHS choices (just put your postcode at the top) www.nhs.uk/Pages/homepage.aspx although this won't tell you what sessions are provided by who (lots of doctors do less than 10 sessions patient facing).

I absolutely believe you Charlotte. Lots of my friend have had similar experiences, and I have had near misses myself which made me very upset. It's so common. I think you are NOT unreasonable for wanting a female doc, only unreasonable for expecting your particular female doc to be available whenever you need her regardless of her personal circs. I think you need to either have a different surgery or to find a good GUM or family planning clinic where you can pop in and ask for a female doc.