to be a bit disappointed not to receive any kind of thank you from niece

[MaryAnnSingleton]

for her present ? I think she thinks her mum has thanked us for it,which isn't quite the same thing, particularly as she was 21. It was a really nice present too,chosen very carefully and I wanted to hear what she thought of it

I think at age 21, your niece could have made the effort to say thank you. She is clearly old and capable enough. The excuse that she is too busy does not wash with me. It takes two minutes to write a card, pick up the phone, send an email or send a text. I think not thanking smacks of ungratefullness (sp?). As if the present was expected and hence does not require a response.
I am assuming she would have received quite a few presents turning 21, so has she not sent anyone a message?
And relying on her mum does not wash with me either. If she is 21 she is an adult. Yes her mum may have mentioned the presents, but as a 21 year old that does not mean she can cross it off her to-do list. I have not yet come across this as my dc open their gifts in front of the giver and say thank you straight away. However, if for some reason the giver is absent, we always write a thank you note, or now he is nearly 9 he sends a lovely e-mail.

I think not acknowledging the present in any way is a bit rude.

The thing is, 3 weeks have gone past now, and she is probably too embarressed to mention it now....

that's ok Uriel - it all just seems to have got out of proportion to my first post ! I just think that whether or not the receiver likes the present the thing is to just say that they got it ( it was sent by post) and just thanks, no need to say it wasn't quite the thing !

June Bug - funnily enough I gave her really nice writing paper at Christmas (suggested by her sister as a good present!)

Basic good manners to send a thank you for a received gift.

I'd feel the very same way as you, MAS, and for all the reasons you've stated.

Thanks Tnoog - I didn't think I was being too unreasonable

Excuse me OP but Tnoog! Are you Tnog??????

I've been looking for you!!! If you are you!!!!

I wondered that !

MAS could it be she?
I haven't found her for EVER!
If you find her will you give her my love??!!??!!??!!

do a calling Tnog thread

It has to be Tnogu. Who else would very dare to assume such a name!!!

I want to but once I think she felt a little harrassed because loads and loads of people joined and a great cry of Tnogu where are you echoed around the vast acreage of mumsnet and I think it might have been too much!!! Don't blame her really.
I might do a discreet one in Culture Vultures!
Big hug to you MAS.

and to you too !