to have had a bit of a row with another woman at work who reckons I had a hard labour because "I Wasn't doing it right"

[Notalone]

She actually believes that the reason she had a 6 hour labour start to finish is because she had her breathing sorted and the reason I had a 27 hour labour is because I didn't. She also said it is not painful and I am lying about how hard I found it. Also I had to have stitches - again because I wasn't doing it right and didn't listen to the midwife whereas she did. I am afraid I kind of flipped a bit at this point and said it might have had something to do with the size of her fanjo and not bloody breathing at all

Ok. Rant over!

bl**dy hell, skribble!

YANBU!!! The cheek of her! My labour lasted for 4 days, yes FOUR days so what does that make me? ....and I needed stitches. And it was bloody sore!

Did this woman give birth to a mouse?

Sumomum - when some one tells you they've had a complicated birth ending with emergency cs, it's quite hard to smile and say oh that's great. People feel they need to acknowledge you've had a difficult time. It doesn't mean they aren't pleased you've had a healthy baby.

:-O for goodness sake I can't believe some silly woman would even try to say that to someone... breathing doesn'teve tsake away the pain you're just focused on doing something else. I had hyper stimulation and then had to have a caesarean but the pain I experienced killed me. I love the answer back (hahahaha!!)

Thank god I was right! Afterwards I actually caught myself thinking I may have been too harsh but really she is and always has been a very rude cow with opinions that are a bit odd to say the least.

BTW her "child" is 14 and she still refers to him as "my little boy".

can i just say ( if no one else has) that my labours were all shorter than 4 hours and that is not down to anything I did .
And for what it is worth it was never easy and i would have prefered longer. Each one was scarier than the last and fast labour usually means fuck all pain relief

So she is a knob but mums who have short labours don't usually 'boast' about it because a) it is pretty frickin painful going from 0 to 10 cms in a matter of minutes and b) nothing we did made it fast because nothing we tried slowed the dam thing down.

I really hate this kind of attitude. I musn't have been doing it right either after nearly 48 hrs in labour. Bad mum me!

Silly woman. I am very of your exccellent retort!

I remember one very competitive friend being disappointed her baby turned out to be an undiagnosed breech, because she had been doing everything perfectly! Naughty baby!

Well I'm a disaster area, having had two c-sections!!

well I was in labour for three days and then had an emergency c section so I must have not been trying at all...

It's eemie's second law of childbirth...

people who have an easy labour always think it's because of something they did right and the rest of us are just missing a trick.

Poor saps

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F*, I was 3 days in labour (stopped counting the hours), wonder what she would have said to me!
Even more interesting, I wonder what my response would have been
Saying that, couldn't hear the midwife over my screaming lol

haven't read the thread - but I would have punched her. Simialr happened to me - a 'friend' said "It wasn't as bad as you said - I guess I just deal with pain better" - Felt like saying 'that's becuase you're insensitive'. Screw her.

BitTiredNow I have a friend like that- she aparrently has a much higher pain threshold tha we mere mortals

Bittirednow - "it wasn't as bad as you said ... I just deal with pain better" - a spectacularly stupid and ignorant thing to say. As though childbirth were the same for every one.

Pruners - of course it's not true but some people talk as though it is

So annoying. Ignorant and arrogant.

Notalone - presumably now she has her breathing sorted she will be having any dental work done without pain relief?

so, notalone, what did she say when you told her it was to do with the size of her fanjo then?

Notalone - her 'little boy' is 14? Not exactly recent memory then is it!
I must have got it wrong, only ever got to 2cm and even after 2 days induction had to have emcs - and poor dd was poo stained for a week after being in meconium so long! (20 days o/due)
She would never have come out on her own, I would have lost her if I'd relied only on bloody breathing.
What did the silly ignorant cow say after you commented on her bucket fanny then?

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twins = 23 seconds - for both

you are all rubbish.

i win

Well after I mentioned the size of her fanjo she sort of spluttered a bit and then changed the subject. Serves her bloody right - she has no idea