to be acknowledged for a long contribution in an advice thread?

[moanylisa]

I have changed my name out of embarrassment, but I joined mumsnet recently, lurked a few days, and dipped my toe in the water with a couple of innocuous contributions. I didn't really expect a hello or anything, but today I totally knocked myself out with what I thought was some good (asked for) advice on the relationships thread,with loads of personal stuff in it. The OP popped back on and lengthily replied to someone else while totally ignoring me!! Is it because you have to "earn your stripes" on here and get well known before people talk to you? I feel a bit put out, and a bit of a saddo for lurking all afternoon to see if anyone comments on what I said- pathetic I know! So, AIBU?

[dal21]

YANBU

But would be amazed if it hasn't happened to everyone at some point.

[belgo]

moanylisa (good name by the way) - I get annoyed when this happens. Some people are very rude. I recently saw a reply to a thread which was totally ignored with the original poster typing a rather rude 'bump' straight after the advice, having failed to acknowledge the post at all.

[littlewoman]

Now that is rude.

[fryalot]

belgo - that's happened to me too. Tis really annoying.

Another thing that I have had is: someone asks for the answer to something (not advice, an actual question with an answer), I answer it, and I give a reason for my answer so that it is obvious to everyone that, not only do I know what I am talking about, but they can now work it out for themselves...

Then, another poster comes on and posts "doesn't anyone know the answer to this because I want to know too"



(there was no xposts involved, btw... twas about ten minutes in between.)

[Nighbynight]

moanylisa, this sort of thing has happened to me too - maybe the person just didn't agree with something you said. they could have said "thank you everyone" or something like that though.
Hope it doesnt put you off posting on mumsnet. your current nickname is unforgettable, so everyone will know who you are now

[fryalot]

(moanylisa is a FAB name, btw )

[Teuch]

I don't expect any thanks. I post my mindless drivel on MN because it feeds my feelings of self-importance and I feel extremely virtuous.

Post or don't post.

[notcitrus]

It happens - people reply in a hurry, get names mixed up, the site doesn't update comments before they post (comments posted after you start typing you won't see until after you've sent your reply, so if it takes you 2 hours to respond then you won't see anything that's been said in that time).

I find that over time it balances out - you don't always get credit or thanks, but your reputation as a knowlegeable, helpful and polite person will grow. I post loads on another site, and there's some threads where a couple regulars tend to ignore me. But then one day someone replied arguing with me and both regulars dived in saying "Oi! Listen to notcitrus, they know what they're talking about" - which was a pleasant surprise.

Hang in there.

[Teuch]

And I don't think it is necessarily a clique thing, either.

I read posts and if I can respond I do - I rarely notice who is posting tbh.

[daftpunk]

no yanbu

but i never reply to anything with more than about 20 words.

dont think its a cliquey think either as i never look at names.