to be acknowledged for a long contribution in an advice thread?

[moanylisa]

I have changed my name out of embarrassment, but I joined mumsnet recently, lurked a few days, and dipped my toe in the water with a couple of innocuous contributions. I didn't really expect a hello or anything, but today I totally knocked myself out with what I thought was some good (asked for) advice on the relationships thread,with loads of personal stuff in it. The OP popped back on and lengthily replied to someone else while totally ignoring me!! Is it because you have to "earn your stripes" on here and get well known before people talk to you? I feel a bit put out, and a bit of a saddo for lurking all afternoon to see if anyone comments on what I said- pathetic I know! So, AIBU?

ah so, i need a
post it note and pencil beside laptop and note down all the ignorers, thats where i've been going all kwrong!

lol learn to hold a grudge!

i namechange here and there for security amusement and so know some folks, but they dont know me!
lightbulb moment, i guess am not helping

Don't get me wrong, most people are lovely and acknowledge, but some don't, has been a spate of them recently for me which is irritating. Mostly because I am not saying what they want to hear probably, which is mildly amusing.

I don't actually have a list , just I'd remember if someone posted asking again and might not bother unless they were in dire straits. I'm not such a saddo that I scribble people's names down in a 'must not help' little book or anything!

i'm new to this also, but i've quickly learned some people reply to comments v personally, gets to the point were there being aggressive and rude. but because they have been on here for a while, others stick up for them saying they know was xxx is like and they accept xxx abussive attitude.

i no longer even post on a thread if i see certain people as i dont wanna get into an arguement with these people.

Recent poster and yes I have been thinking that so much of MN is a clique - hope the spelling is ok (!)

However, will probably persevere as I have had very supportive advice when I've asked for it. I only want to give the same back - and get a bit of communication with others in similar situations

99% are lovely and give great advice.

just read what i wrote again. only a small fraction of people get on my wick

I think it's a different feeling when you're giving your professional opinion as it's advice you normally get paid to give, and so it is a bit more galling when thanks are not forthcoming. The OP gets free advice from a professional and doesn't have to pay, so a thank you is called for really.

If I was to advise someone on my field of expertise I would be a bit narked if they didn't say thanks. Thankfully it's so dull it's never come up!

When I witter on about what sort of breast pads worked for me, then I don't expect so much of a round of applause!

I have adopted the attitude of that means I win (they know that what I am saying is right but they don't want to admit it)

yanbu
but it happens to everyone

hello moany and welcome
you're partly right people do respond more to those they know
I'm still the last poster on leads of threads!
trouble is you've namechanged yes? so all your new friends don't really know who you are so we'll all ignore you again

flowery you're cool on unemployment.

remember my q about pregnant colleagues?
well the employer of one has a mat. leave policy being checked out by solicitors so might get something and the other has mysteriously turned up again telling everyone she has been re-employed until the month after her baby is due! havn't managed to find out what's really going on yet rumour is a sol was involved)
hijack over sorry

well it could be worse.....

several times I have put considerable effort and thought into a reply only for some sod to come along and post 'BBMousey is talking a load of old bollocks'.

I don't think I'm part of any clique - no one will have me - I prefer to think of myself as a 'MN hermit' wandering aimlessly from thread to thread posting rambling bollocks succinct and intelligent advice and inevitably killing each one stone dead

flowerybean: it's a legal point that I'm making an issue about. HM Customs and Excise Legal Department have been pondering the point for ages! Grrr....

Without boring you about the details, entered into a compromise agreement with company x (after working for them for circa 12 years) in December 2007, and had DS in February 2008. thereby past the 25 week statutory requirement for maternity pay.

The query is whether or not by making me a payment of (xxx), means that company x has fulfilled their statutory obligations.

I say, 'no' on the basis that one cannot contract out of statutory obligations.

At this stage, all I want is a decision. Any decision is fine as then I can either appeal or get maternity allowance?

Any ideas for getting HM Customs to make a decision?

We are so broke at the moment

fbb i was only kidding about the notes

I know, I'm so stupid! And look, I have started to come back and compulsively THIS thread now, after saying I was going to watch telly! I feel really cheery now though, guess I will just have to remember that when I go back to being ...the other one

ilovemydog you couldn't copy and paste and bung that in a new thread in Employment could you? Makes it a bit easier that way. I'm off to bed now but will ponder and come back tomorrow.

NO ONE has acknowleded my post although it would appear that I haven't killed this one yet (WooHoo).

Think I'll wander off to the relationship topic and try to work out who you are Moanylisa - stalking is the highest form of MN flattery you know (plus I have nothing else worthwhile I can do while BF my hungry monster)

Hello moanylisa, think you've really braved the water now

What occasionally narks me is when I post a comment or advice & someone else repeats exactly the same thing a bit later on & they get the thanks!

But MN is really witty and full of good advice. I've learnt tonnes on here. And I love reading the weekly round-up, 'tis brill - have you signed up for that?

You see Moany i just hijacked your thread to talk to flowery and she totally ignored me
I still think she's cool and really kind

(she probably can't remember what the hell I'm on about-and cares even less )

BBM stop talking a load of old bollocks; you have lots of useful advice - I for one have been stalking you around the nappy threads for months

flowery, we need a new topic "thanks to flowery", you have helped a lot of people, and we are all grateful!

Moany it's true, you have to be Moany now, otherwise we won't know it's you!

BigBadM0ousey you are just the best [acknowledges]

BBMousey - that would be so cool! Hint: art-related ! XXX Night for now, glass of wine with DP beckons, shall check in in new obsessive way when he goes to loo, lol!

Oh no, now I have to acknowledge you all back! OK here goes...

moanylisa I should admit I have trouble remembering names on here so I might not make a particularly good stalker. I do however remember Washersaurus because I always imagine her as a domestic goddess surrounded by piles perfectly laundered clothes and nappies (we have discussed this before ) and I hereby acknowledge chukkypig's valuable contribution to this thread.

Manners maketh man etc. I always click on "threads I am on" before delving in to anything new. I like to catch up with earlier convos and thank people who have helped. If you are new make sure you acknowledge others and hope the good manners rubs off and a big welcome to MN btw

Well the best way of feeling completely valued is by getting your MN tip of the day published. Mine was published about 6 weeks ago and I glowed with pride for days.

I am frantically racking my brains for new tips - but I can't think of any more.

1dilemma sorry, I was on my way to bed!

Good news there's been some progress - I just refreshed my memory about it!

What about when you post a really witty line and nobody tells you how clever you are? ... Bastards

Don't worry, ML. You'll soon get used to it and know which ones rub you up the wrong way, etc. If you aren't aknowledged, the fault was not with your advice, but with their manners.