DS2 is DP's first child, and his parents first grandchild.
I get it, he is their PFB/PFGB, and as such I make allowances.
I think I'm a pretty good daughter in law, I always make the effort to go and see them, make sure DP puts effort into their relationships, and overall, I butt out of their relationships with him and my children.
As PiL's go, they're great, Dp's dad makes some cringeworthy comments sometimes but who doesn't? His mum never ever interferes and would help at the drop of a hat.
This isn't a MiL bashing, I like her, a lot.
But I really hate Winnie-the-Pooh. (There is a reason behind it, someone very hurtful as I was growing up was obsessed, so not nice connotations for me)
When I was pg, MiL and I went into toys 'r' us and I was buying baby bits, didn't know the sex so could only buy cream, and she pointed out the WTP stuff. I told her how much I hated him, and had never dressed my other two in it for this reason. She told me she had already bought some WTP stuff so I said, Ok, we'll use it, thanks very much, don't want to seem ungrateful, she said not to worry in future she won't buy it.
When I'm in hospital DP's Dad looked after the older DC's and when they came to visit me DD told me FiL has bought baby some WTP stuff and she told him I didn't like WTP. When he gave me it he said 'I know you don't like WTP but I do so I bought it' jokingly. Rather than say anything I just smiled, and said to DP that as he may have bought it before he knew I wouldn't mention it and just dressed the baby in it if we went to their house.
MiL's sister also bought all WTP as presents. Again, gave benefit of the doubt, her DC's are the same age as my eldest two and she likes WTP, so no reason why she wouldn't buy it if she didn't know.
Now they ALL know I really don't like it.
DP comes back from work the other day and had popped into his mums on the way home. There were clothes there apparently from his Dad. I think it's really lovely the way they buy the stuff for DS2 and am grateful they care, but it was winnie the fucking pooh, again!
After the comment dp's dad had made I wasn't impressed, seemed like a 'I don't care what you like, I'm buying my grandson whatever'. So DP calls his mum about something else, and just drops into conversation about the WTP thing and the comment his Dad had made. Turns out she bought it not his Dad, and I know she knew how much I disliked it. If I had a girl and said I really hate pink can you buy purple, she would, so why can't they go into the mothercare superstore (where they shop) and get one of the other 50 outfits in there for DS2 that aren't wtp???
I know it seems ridiculous, but IMO it's not about WTP anymore, more the lack of consideration. One thing I ask them not to buy and they keep on buying it.
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