AIBU to worry? (Temp accommodation)

[Fedupcreative86]

Hi all,

I left my ex-partner (DA- control, coerceon and mild stalking) and moved to another city (with evidence from police, GP and WA) last year, where they agreed to help me. I have been in temp accommodation for a year at the end of this month whist bidding on HA flats (Band A, but no luck yet). Today I recieved a voicemail from the city council from a man saying that he is taking over as my housing officer and wants me to get in touch "to dicuss a moving on plan". As I've never been in this situation before and I'm a very anxious person (my anxiety has gotten worse since I left my ex), I'm worried about what this means. I'm worried that I'll lose banding on the HA register for some reason (evey flat I've bid on I've heard nothing). Also, I'm unhappy in the temp accommodation I'm in atm (shared house for vulnerable women) and worried they'll move me somewhere worse. Or even worse, they'll say they no longer have a duty to help me and I'll be sent back home with nowhere to go 😢

Sorry about this, I know im being dramatic but my anxiety is through the roof and I have a great fear of the unknown. Its a bit late to ring him back now and the council offices here close at 4pm, so I'll ring him tomorrow and let you know what was said, but for now I'd appreciate any advice or experience to calm my nerves. TIA x x

Sounds positive. Take the help 🙂

You're not being unreasonable to worry as you have been through a really horrific time which has only really changed, rather than ended. I can understand your anxiety. They're not going to kick you out onto the streets, they will try and put things in place to get you back on your feet an find yourself housing. Do you work? If not they will likely support you with getting a job to be able to afford somewhere, thats usually part of the 'plan'

@worldshottestmom no unfortunately I don't atm, but I'm looking. Private rents in this city are quite expensive, the cheapest being in shit areas. I don't want to lose my HA banding either.

It sounds like you need a moving on plan! The system is failing you at the moment, hopefully he’s trying to help you better navigate getting a property.

You shouldn’t lose your banding but may be expected to bid more regularly or on more properties, nice area or not unfortunately.

Ah Okay that makes more sense, it is highly highly likely that they are getting in touch to help you look for work so you can have a steady income and stable job to afford rent. You will get more points if you have a job and will find social housing faster. It won't just be about this but I imagine it will be a focal point based on similar situations I have been through in the past. In any case, try not to worry. They will just be trying to help you. Best of luck x

Thanks for the replies everyone. I didnt get too many replies so I don't know if any of you will see this, but positive update:

I have rung the housing officer and the convo went really well and he was lovely (said he'd actually come out of retirement to do this job). He wants to help me find permanent accommodation as a PP said. I explained to him about being unhappy in my current temp accommodation and he said he was aware of that (they must have had that on file), and I explained that my worst fear was ending up in a really rough part of the city (I'm in Liverpool for clarity- great city but there are some really deprived/troubled areas- i grew up on an estate in my hometown myself so no judgement, but studied and worked hard to get out of there and dont want to end up somewhere like that again). He reassured me that he was not going to do that and would try to match me with somewhere in my preferred areas, and is also looking into more suitable temp/move on accommodation for me (not shared). He said he can definately help me 😊. So hopefully looking up for me finally as I was beginning to lose hope and regret leaving. Thanks everyone x x

Wishing you luck for a fresh start.