Sobbing in bed 😢

[alwayscryinh]

my 2 year olds dad is horrible. (Current partner)
our son has been poorly this week so more winged than usual. Now I’ve got it.
anyway… my partner sleeps on a fuckin matress every night in the living room apparently because he’s a bad sleeper and gets annoyed if toddler wakes up

tonight it got in top me. I had a cry & said I want to cuddle in bed. He said “you wanted the fucking baby stop moaning all the time you remind me of my mother”

im so sad sick of being alive. I’ve got no family. No friends. Absolutely nothing.

Please contact Women's Aid, you do not deserve this treatment and it will get worse.

But please get away from this man ❤️

Already done it. Women’s aid can’t do much x

Im so sorry. You and your baby deserve a normal man who will love and take care of you both. That thing sleeping on the mattress isnt good enough for you.

You haven’t got nothing. You have your 2 year old who needs you. I think you’ll feel better once you’re away from this man. Can he move out? Then concentrate on your child, and yourself. Go to toddler groups. Or get your child in nursery and do something for yourself. Get a job (if you haven’t already) when they’re older and you might meet friends there. You won’t always feel like this. But I guarantee this relationship isn’t helping you. Being with someone who doesn’t treat you right is never better than being on your own. And please go to the GP if you really feel like you don’t want to be alive

Just leave him. Think of your child

You do have something, a child who loves you unconditionally and needs you. Fuck the man baby off and focus on yourself and your child. You might find you feel much better without him around. You definitely don't want him in bed with you!

What is your living situation - is the property owned with a mortgage or rented.
If it's mortgaged or rented - whose name is on the mortgage / rental agreement

If you can get rid of him, do so. ASAP.

So sorry, you don’t deserve this, you really don’t. Maybe try and think about what’s best for you and your little one. It’s not him.

Can you givevus some back story. why is dp sleepingbin the lounge. Has ds been in your bed?

Do you have an exit plan?
Have you considered, or asked about emergency refuge?

https://womensaid.org.uk/information-support/the-survivors-handbook/i-want-to-leave-my-relationship-safely/

Have you considered applying for urgent council housing?

england.shelter.org.uk/housing_advice/homelessness/emergency_housing_from_the_council

Tell him to leave

Exactly this.

You are ill right now, everything seems overwhelming. Wait until you are well, then take you lovely DS who loves you beyond anything, and get out.

You have your child. You have yourself. And your future. Make good choices now to help your future self. Start by setting yourself up to be independent.

Look for mother and toddler groups to build friendships.

Get some free legal advice on next steps, th man you are living with is not a good partner nor is he a good father.

He is however a good waste of your time, you deserve better as does your child!

You do have family, you have a child who needs you.

OP, this is the circle of life. Sometimes you’re at the top, and sometimes, like you in your current situation, you’re at the bottom. It’s always moving though, and it doesn’t have to be like this forever.

If you can’t make leave, find ways to build yourself up so you can. One step at a time

I think your current partner perhaps deserves the title of ex partner if this is his pattern of behaviour.

If you can' get him out of your home or he owns it or whatever, I would consider start to make plans to get out. Apply for social housing..if working, stash money into another account. Basically start sorting out your exit plan to get yourself free of living with someone who is not invested in this relationship with you, or your child.

Sorry you are sick to be alive but please keep strong for your little one and get you both out. Totally get that it's scary but you will, in time, feel much more peaceful than be with someone who makes you feel like life is so bad you don't want to be here.

Cuddle your son.

Good advice. This man is making you feel bad. You need to get away from him. He probably makes your DC feel bad too. Seek help in escaping from him.

Genuine question - does this ever work?

This. Why would you want to cuddle such a pointless creep?

Better to kick him out, and give you and your child the chance of a decent life.

Please take the advice that everyone here is giving you. Your son and you both deserve better..Take care of you and him..Life will get better. Concentrate on getting a plan to get away from him.

You have family: your son. You can make friends.

Would anything in your life be worse if this man wasn't in it? Get rid.

Who owns the property you live in.
Do you have no friends because your partner made you feel bad about seeing them.

Time to end this relationship and move on. Stay single for a while with a little one so young. I hope you feel better soon and life improves