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Original poster

to be shocked at a mother feeding her 7 and 4 year old DS's yoghurt with a spoon?

258 replies

Anna8888 · 02/07/2008 13:04

Franco-American mother I know a little - her DSs are at the same school as my daughter. They were having a picnic lunch in the park yesterday and she fed them each a yoghurt (in its entirety) with a spoon.

OP posts:
TheFallenMadonna · 02/07/2008 13:53

Oh come on! I do not believe that you wouldn't have noticed it. People watching - one of life's great joys. Along with (silent) judging natch

AuntieSocial · 02/07/2008 13:54

I'm sensing an undertone from this thread that goes along the lines of:

"I have an extremely independent 3.7 year old who I like to boast about publicly (nothing wrong with that part btw) and my chosen method for extolling the virtues of both my child and my own parenting is to sneer at the minituae of somebody else's parenting".

Kewcumber · 02/07/2008 13:55

better get back to having no life judging woman in park feeding 7 year old child youghurt is FAR more interesting than my cash flow model.

TodayToday · 02/07/2008 13:56

She wasn't absentmindedly spoon feeding the 4 and 7 year old having just spoon-fed the 6 month old was she? Like when I find myself cutting up my DH's food straight after I have cut it up for my DDs.

I find it a bit odd too.

noddyholder · 02/07/2008 13:56

Its unusual but none of your business frankly

Mutt · 02/07/2008 13:56

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Kewcumber · 02/07/2008 13:57

you think a 3.7 year old never being spoon fed is "extremely independent" bugger me now I'm shocked. My DS is G&T then.

onebatmother · 02/07/2008 13:57

Gah.
This is really making me cross.

Being fed yoghurt proof that he is being infantilized in the matter of feeding and/or any other? NO

Anything else untoward which would necessitate concern for the child (beyond mother being very convinced SAHM, of course)? NO

Child fed yoghurt beyond the legal age for yoghurt-feeding? No - hey, there IS no legal limit on yoghurt-feeding, I just looked it up!

Very competitive critical concerned mother on bench next to my family inwardly note-taking things that I do differently from her, for reasons to which only she is privy? Gosh, I do hope not, because she will have plenty to tut about.

Aitch · 02/07/2008 13:57

ROFL you are all WEIRD BEYOND BELIEF. of course feeding your NT 7-year-old is bizarre. even if she couldn't be bothered with the mess, it's still freakishly anal not to let a 7-year-old have a spoon. honeslty, some of you take this non-judgey thing too far. you'd fall of your seats if your pals did it.

Aitch · 02/07/2008 13:58

off typo.

VictorianSqualor · 02/07/2008 13:58

Oh go on Anna.
Just a playdate then?
See if they open their mouths at teatime expectantly.

AuntieSocial · 02/07/2008 13:58

No Kew, I've just read Anna's posts before about how adult and independent her daughter is.

Whatever, judge away, nothing to stop you, it's a free country.

onebatmother · 02/07/2008 13:59

I don't love you anymore Aitch.

Kewcumber · 02/07/2008 13:59

thank you Aitch - was beginning to think I had been hypnotised into a wierdy "Agreeing with Anna" universe when she's really being barking mad.

TheFallenMadonna · 02/07/2008 13:59

Anna - you need to start with some self-deprecating posts I reckon. In the hands of a different OP I suspect this may have gone differently...

Mutt · 02/07/2008 13:59

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OrmIrian · 02/07/2008 14:00

Yes. It is bizarre. And I speak as someone who sits on the fence so much i've worn a place for my bottom.

TheFallenMadonna · 02/07/2008 14:01

I did not have this one down as kicking off...

Kewcumber · 02/07/2008 14:01

so have I auntiesocial - trust me I've had my share of heated run-ins with Anna. Doesn;t make her wrong all the time. I thnk are reacting because its her. And I really don't think Anna would feel that her DD feeding herself would be worthy of boasting at nearly 4.

I think spoon feeding a seven year old is wierd - even if Anna agrees with me.

MrsMattie · 02/07/2008 14:01

How can people get worked up either way over something so trivial? Fucking hell.

onebatmother · 02/07/2008 14:04

I think spoon feeding a seven year old is wierd - even if Anna agrees with me.

themildmannneredjanitor · 02/07/2008 14:04

" She does it all by herself, with a fork or spoon. I'm just as surprised at the mother as at the children..."

i am seriopusly impressed that ANYONE can eat yoghurt with a spoon!

Kewcumber · 02/07/2008 14:05

MrsM - I'm only stioll posting for the novelty value of agreeing with Anna.

If it was a stranger I probably wouldn't care much but I was shocked by a friend who did it and yes I did think she being incredibly controlling of him. And I didn;t think it was good for him - so sue me for having an opinion. I was tactful enough to keep my opinions to myself of course but I don't have to on MN.

themildmannneredjanitor · 02/07/2008 14:05

with a fork i meant!!!!!!!!!

TotalChaos · 02/07/2008 14:05

very very odd indeed. Mind you my gran used to spoon feed me till some ridiculously late age like 3 or 4 as she just couldn't abide mess . Suspect if DH could have got away with DS being spoonfed till he was past the messy age he would have