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AIBU- PPT and the impact it will have on DV

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Pumpkinsky · Today 01:17

AIBU to be concerned about the potential wider implications of the ongoing injunction request currently in the news?

My understanding is that "PPT" is arguing that if ITN and The Guardian publish the story and identify him, the consequences could be so severe that he may take his own life. He is relying on Article 2 of the ECHR, the right to life, to support his argument for maintaining anonymity.

But I can't help thinking about the message this potentially sends, particularly to those of us who have experienced, or are experiencing, abusive relationships.

Threatening suicide is something that is frequently used as a tool of coercive control. It's a way of shifting responsibility, silencing the other person and controlling the narrative. It can make victims feel that speaking out, seeking help or holding someone accountable could make them responsible for that person's death.

My concern is where this argument takes us. Could it establish a precedent, or at least provide a further justification for men who seek to silence those speaking about their abuse? Could the right to protect someone's life increasingly be used as a reason to prevent accountability for their actions?

Of course, threats of suicide must always be taken seriously, and nobody is suggesting otherwise. But there surely has to be a distinction between protecting someone's life and allowing the threat of self-harm to become a mechanism for suppressing information, silencing victims or avoiding scrutiny.

I worry about the wider implications of this, particularly for those who already know what it feels like to have someone else's threats used to control what they say, what they do and whether they feel able to speak out.

Am I alone in thinking this is a really concerning line of argument?

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Yellowflowerdress · Today 01:40

The person didn't consider if their actions could cause/contribute to the suicide of others but now wants to say their own actions could cause/contribute to their own suicide and that should be the main priority. I don't think that should be allowed.

LadyGAgain · Today 05:29

100% this 👆🏽

OutOfTheOtherSide · Today 07:56

We must never allow these threats to get in the way of a legal process but I think he has more of a case about trial by media. There are people in other threads who just assume he is guilty because they've 'seen the evidence' 🙄 That's not how civilisation works - there are legal processes that determine that. The keyboard warriors have only seen the click bait. There are other 'celebrities' whose lives have been destroyed by media stories which have turned out not to be true. It's a difficult one and I'm not sure what the answer is.

Pumpkinsky · Today 09:13

I agree, I don't think it's black and white and I appreciate in real life there isn't trial by media. My worry is it could set a real precedent for allowing abusers to say they will end their lives to silence others in a way that hasn't been seen before.

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MatildaTheCat · Today 09:16

Link please?

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