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Weekend break dilemma

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Feduptryingusernames · 24/10/2026 19:01

Hi, I'd like some feed back please in relation to the following. 5 mature ladies, been friends for 30 odd years, holiday together once a year. One friend is my best friend, although never made obvious to the group. The issue is I have a holiday let which is vacant next month and I'd like to make use of it. The property is 2 bedrooms, very small and not equipped for 5 adults. We have previously all stayed there (didn't mind hosting for everyone when younger but it's too stressful when you're near retirement age) but it was not comfortable and this time around, I intend asking only 2 friends to stay. How do I put this without causing offence to the 2 who don't get invited? Two ladies in the group have serious FOMO issues and despite the crush, would never volunteer to step back as others have previously when dates/times collide with their existing plans and we have all been trying to agree holiday dates. The fact we've all previously squashed into the house doesn't help and for this reason, I suspect the 2 uninvited ladies will feel especially excluded. Please advise.

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Pippa12 · 24/10/2026 19:07

Could you not just ask your best friend? Or, maybe ring and discuss your reasons first. Maybe suggest 2 go in nearby B&B and split the cost across the 5?

We have exactly the same friendship set up, 5 girls, best friends for 30+ years and holiday together every year. I personally don’t think I could do this.

tastal · 24/10/2026 19:09

could you do two separate trips? One with two then the other with two? Or pick a date you know the two aren't free?

roseymoira · 24/10/2026 19:11

How horrible for the ones being excluded. Just do an additional trip with just your friend if you want to

Skybluecoat · 24/10/2026 19:12

I have a similar group of five and we are 60 and been friends since we were 16, so I understand the dynamic perfectly.

Just invite your “bestie “ which will be understood by the rest of the group. It’s that or you invite everyone and hope some of them can’t come!

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