And not a choreographed performance.
If someone wants to go to a registry office then have a small meal in a pub after and spend 2 grand that's up to them.
If someone wants to spend 40 grand and have a luxury wedding in a castle with all the trimmings that's up to them too.
It's people who are small-minded and think there is only one way to have a wedding, I've found out ours has been 'commented on' by friends because it didn't have certain 'traditions' that apparently all weddings should have.
I even had a friend tell me they were 'stressed' because they didn't know the colour scheme 8 months in advance. It's ridiculous, who cares?
We weren't interested in things like that, we just wanted a celebration and party.
I just told people we were happy with what we were doing, I'm fed up with others forcing their own opinions onto you and not just letting people do what they want.
We weren't interested in getting into debt and we don't have that sort of money, I wouldn't dream of commenting on other people's weddings.