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Following on thread of what things irritate you, what things do you not like about yourself ...

64 replies

Bumblelion · 01/07/2008 16:41

I might be repeating somet of the things mentioned on the irritation thread but, reading some of it, I thought "oh dear, that applies to me".

Being honest, what do I not like about myself.

Sometimes I am selfish and only think of myself - putting myself first without thinking of consequences.

Always seem to be late (although not for work now trains are running 10 minutes earlier!). I hate being late (and my eldest DD seems to be following in my footsteps). e.g. invited to a 'do' (wedding (even my own), christening (even my childrens'), party, etc.) I always give myself enough time to get myself (and the children if they are invited) ready ... but for some unknown reason I seem to go into a time-warp and whereas I gave myself, say, 2 hours to get everything done, suddenly I find I have 10 minutes left to get myself showered, wash hair, dry hair, get dressed, do make-up, etc. It is not that I meant to be late but it does seem I have a 'lateness' fairy following me, thinking I have all the time in the world whereas I don't. Time just seems to run away with itself.

I also say, for example, (last night) tonight will be an early night for DS (after having 2 sleepovers at the weekend) and he needs an early night. Next thing I know it is 9:45 ... okay, we did have secondary school open evening and didn't get home until 8:15 but I can't believe it took me 1.5 hours for him to shower (10 minutes) and me to cook dinner (quicky one - pizza in the oven). Probably took him 10 minutes (if that) to eat dinner. Next thing, I like to sit down with him and talk about the school (on other thread I mentioned he was in a new form with NO children from his primary school - all changed now!) but, then suddenly, I look at the time and it si 9:45. So much for an early night!!

OP posts:
CountessDracula · 01/07/2008 16:42

I am too impatient

I am too irritable

Bumblelion · 01/07/2008 16:42

... P.S. Excuse the typing errors! Too much sunshine/alcohol at lunch time (and at work).

OP posts:
NigellaTheOriginal · 01/07/2008 16:44

I am an airhead. I forget things. I put things where they shouldn't be. i loose things. I miss appointments.

I am also fat and ugly and a bit stupid but that's probably a whole new thread and probably should be in the mental health bit.

justageek · 01/07/2008 16:45

quite a lot really,

i absolutely detest my temper and lack of control, i actually get angry because i get so angry, its pathetic.

I am very domineering and never seem to realise till its too late then feel awful and grovel only to do it again at a later date.

I think the world shoud revolve around me sometimes, and get huffy that it doesnt.

I am terribly forgetful and i think people that know me think i do it on purpose!

I am not a naturally maternal parent, i find it really hard to show my affections and be playful.

KelaH · 01/07/2008 16:45

I am lazy. I know things need doing but just don't do them. So DH does them instead (without complaining) and I feel guilty.

Kimi · 01/07/2008 16:49

I have for too bad a temper

I want everything done yesterday

I am a clean freak and hate mess

I say things in a very abrupt way without meaning to

maidamess · 01/07/2008 16:50

I have to be the funniest.

I judge EVERYONE. And hate myself for it.

I'm bossy.

Other than that I'm just about goddamn perfect.

Anchovy · 01/07/2008 16:50

I am quite chippy. I have my particular hobby horses and can be quite persistent with them. This is more pronounced when I have had a couple of drinks .

I am quite bad at taking criticism.

CountessDracula · 01/07/2008 16:50

oh yes I'm bossy too (part of my impatience)

CountessDracula · 01/07/2008 16:51

Oh and I am very black and white
I either love something or hate it

I can change my mind though!

I am working on that hone

2shoes · 01/07/2008 16:51

I can be boring
I and I really can hold a grudge.

Anna8888 · 01/07/2008 16:54

I'm superfically friendly but basically deeply uninterested in committing myself to friendships. I'm appallingly bad at returning calls/emails etc.

Cadbury · 01/07/2008 16:54

Today, I don't like most things about myself.

I am horribly obese, hopeless at driving, very short tempered and worst of all, when I feel low about myself, it's dd1 that gets shouted at.

I don't deserve her.

justageek · 01/07/2008 16:55

oh what anna8888 said too.

pagwatch · 01/07/2008 16:55

I get every nervous when I meet people and I talk too much to compensate. It is really irritating. It sounds so me me me .

I avoid people too much.

And i hold a grudge like 2shoes ( we had better not piss each other off )

swiftyknickers · 01/07/2008 16:56

no maidamess i HAVE to be the funniest!!

am irritable and snap and DP and DS too much

am a bit too judgey

BalloonSlayer · 01/07/2008 16:57

I tend to think everything is about me, ie if someone doesn't seem happy today I think it's because I've upset them.

I am selfish (see above).

I am lazy, eg always skiving off on to mumset.

I live in a daydream (mental skiving).

I shout at my kids.

Oh dear . . . I don't sound very nice do I? I am trying to improve though.

dittany · 01/07/2008 16:57

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HonoriaGlossop · 01/07/2008 17:01

god, anna, that's me too! I kind of THINK I'm open to meeting new people but I always pull back....accept invites to people's 'do's' and then just can't face going at the last minute so I cancel....leave texts un-returned for days

that's so bad

I am impatient and if I want to do something I just cannot wait.

I am also too unassertive at times. I have TOO strong a sense of responsibility and can't prioritise my own needs - because I work, I want to be with ds in the evenings and I just do not do ANYTHING outside the home, exercise has been non-existent and it will do DS no favours if I peg out and he says "well, until she died of a heart attack, she was ALWAYS there to put me to bed"

This is quite cathartic!

Anna8888 · 01/07/2008 17:03

MN = commitment-free network

Amphibimum · 01/07/2008 17:03

i cant take criticism at ALL.
am fickle and faddy and never see things through.
i procrastinate lots
and i have been all 'airhead' for the last few years which is so irritating now.

HonoriaGlossop · 01/07/2008 17:06

that's true, Anna! (mate, chum)

Amphibimum · 01/07/2008 17:07

oh yes, like anna, i am a rubbish rl friend even though i really genuinely like/love quite a few people. oh well!

cyteen · 01/07/2008 17:12

my extreme risk-aversion

my self-sabotaging procrastination (e.g. instead of sitting down to work on a story or write a song or make some other effort to fulfil my potential, I will lie on the sofa watching Deal or No Deal and then hate myself, vow to do better tomorrow, repeat)

both of which are driven by a fear of failure that seems to be hardwired into me.

UnquietDad · 01/07/2008 17:13

Sometimes when I do presentations I

findmyselftalkinginshortbursts

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likethis

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and...

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leavinglong gaps...

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AndIrealiseIamtalkinglike

DavidDavis