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Manspreaders - do you call them out?

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Floofydawg · 14/10/2026 15:57

I've just done a 4.5 hour flight; when I boarded the plane the bloke in the seat next to me had his legs spread such that they took up literally half my seat space. Oh he'll move, I thought to myself as I sat down. Did he fuck move. So I thought I can either sit here seething for the duration of the flight and trying to make myself as small as possible, or I can call him out. So I did. His wife tittered, like I was joking. But he bloody moved his legs.

So I'm posting this to encourage others to have the difficult conversation instead of being embarrassed about claiming your own space that you've bloody well paid for!

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Cleanit · 16/10/2026 19:14

Applestroodle · 16/10/2026 19:00

@Backswiftly

You were saying? Did you read the whole thread? It was a hypothetical situation.

So actually your 6’4 husband does manage to sit without man spreading? You were making out it was an impossible feat for him @Applestroodle

Applestroodle · 16/10/2026 19:30

Cleanit · 16/10/2026 19:14

So actually your 6’4 husband does manage to sit without man spreading? You were making out it was an impossible feat for him @Applestroodle

No, I ended up sitting next to him. So, his legs were able to encroach into my space.

It really is a good idea to read the whole thread before posting.

Bordercontrol · 16/10/2026 20:37

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Yetone · 16/10/2026 20:44

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But she did say that they try and book extra legroom seats.

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latetothefisting · 16/10/2026 21:19

ClippyMuldoon · 14/10/2026 18:36

Rubbish. My husband is 1m97 and manages to sit without taking anyone's space. I'm 1m78 and also manage so tell your husband to behave.

(6 feet 6 and 5 feet 10 for those of you in the 19th century)

Or just...in the UK?

Katemax82 · 16/10/2026 21:50

amicisimma · 15/10/2026 13:19

I was getting into my seat on a train when the train jolted and I lurched and trod heavily onto my leading foot. But it didn't hit floor, it hit something which suddenly moved. Turned out the guy in the seat behind had stretched his feet right through into the floor space in front of my seat. I landed heavily in my seat and he got a telling off from the older guy sitting next to him. He didn't complain about being stamped on and I forebore to mention the temporary pain in my ankle.

Someone did this to my husband. When he moaned about it later I told him not to put his feet under other people's chairs

Katemax82 · 16/10/2026 21:52

Also my daughter was sat at the end of the aisle at the cinema and the man behind her stretched his foot out so his stinky trainer was right next to her arm rest. She was upset so I swapped chairs with her and flung myself down into the chair so my elbow hit the man's trainer and he soon moved his foot back to where it should be

Keepitsimples · 17/10/2026 10:08

Katemax82 · 16/10/2026 21:52

Also my daughter was sat at the end of the aisle at the cinema and the man behind her stretched his foot out so his stinky trainer was right next to her arm rest. She was upset so I swapped chairs with her and flung myself down into the chair so my elbow hit the man's trainer and he soon moved his foot back to where it should be

I am trying to imagine this in real life and I can’t!

Keepitsimples · 17/10/2026 10:15

Gherkinlovesme · 15/10/2026 15:52

Why would it be occasionally “not possible”? If he had booked a flight and been unable to get extra leg room AND pay to be seated next to his wife?

Has this scenario ever been the case @Applestroodle ? Where you haven’t been with your husband and he hasn’t been able to book extra leg room?

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