My father moved to a foreign country some 11-14?hrs away from UK when I was in my early 30s. I’m now 50. He divorced my mum due to her affair and remarried a woman he’d met on the internet who was 25yrs younger and moved to be with her. He also got 3 small step children as part of the deal. He moved away for a new life and I was left with a dad shaped hole in mine. He tried to keep in touch with phone calls and stuff and they visited a couple of times but not regularly. I tried to visit him as much as I could and latterly tried annually. He recently died of neutropenic sepsis. I worried about him getting older and suffering from lymphoma and I know his wife struggled with him getting older. ( don’t get me started on why she didn’t rush him to er as soon as he got a low grade fever 3 weeks post chemo) . He was almost 80 and she is 55. I rushed to be by his bedside as he was dying and she made it very clear that he’d left nothing to me, it is all in her name, and although he wrote a will he never signed a will. SHe showed me a printed copy of the eulogy that he wrote that doesn’t name me and just mentions in a sentence that he missed his daughters. AIBU to be wraught with grief and anger? AIBU to be angry with her. She has made multiple snide comments about me suggesting he preferred his stepchildren who rarely saw him and made no effort.