To just despair at kids today?

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DD, 12, is struggling socially at school. We suspect she has ADHD and as social interactions have become more complex she’s struggling with it. While she’s generally empathetic and means well she can be impulsive in what she says which doesn’t always land great with friends. I get she won’t be everyone’s cup of tea. But what I don’t get is the nastiness. She’s been attacked at school, she’s been threatened to be beat up, she’s been frozen out by a group of popular girls who told everyone not to talk to her, she’s she then left them alone they pursued her relentlessly at schools with confrontations o er various accusations, including waiting for her outside the toilets etc. she’s been called a ginger cunt, regularly is told to shut the fuck up, told her parents should have used a condom, everyone hates her etc etc etc. the This is all over minor arguments.

DD is scared and now hates school. She’s miserable and stressed. School isn’t being particularly helpful is helping to resolve it, but that’s an entirely different post.

i remember arguments and bitchiness from my own childhood of course. Girls have always been mean. But the severity and nastiness is just so shocking to me. I feel like she’s completely unraveling and there isn’t anything I can do to help her.

AIBU to think that children now a days are just loads meaner than they used to be? Or was I just lucky and this is “normal”. Struggling with a decent reference point here.

😂explain how commenting that kids are pathetic nowadays is at all helpful to the OP or anyone else?

The comment was pointless, unhelpful and in fact, nasty because it insinuates that the OP's child (and anyone who is bullied) is in fact, pathetic; 'not robust.'

YOU are a problem if you do not stand up for what is wrong, disrespectful, nasty and unhelpful to others.

Yes, same here, my bullying through secondary school affected me for all my adult life in terms of lack of self confidence, difficulty in making friendships, difficulty in socialising, and also the resultant lack of school qualifications meant I had to take O and A levels as an adult thus knocking several years off the time it took me to establish a decent career and meant I missed out on going to Uni. Bullying isn't a victimless crime and it can often have life long repercussions for the victim.

My bullying happened in the 70s and 80s. It's always been a problem. I just think that in more modern times, it's talked about more, and it's different these days due to the internet aspect of it. A few decades ago, it simply wasn't talked about - you had to "Put up and shut up". Now people are encouraged to talk about it, report, it, etc., but still often nothing is actually done to stop it.

I liken it to "low level" sexual abuse, i.e. bum smacking, tit groping, looking up skirts, etc. It happened (a lot) back in the 70s and 80s, but it was just "accepted" that girls/women had to put up with it. Now, it's talked about more, reported more, and is less socially acceptable. I don't think it happens more today than it did 40 years ago, but it's reported more and more girls/women are prepared to call it out when it happens.