Cleaner having her children whilst cleaning

[MissMatchy]

Just after some other perspectives. We have a regular cleaner, for about 8 months. She's pretty good tbf although sometimes doesn't fully do the 3 hours we pay her for. No biggie. She came round this week, and whilst she was here our ring doorbell camera notification went off a few times so I logged on to see why. It turns out someone dropped her young child off (presumably after school?) and she let them in, then they were picked up about an hour later.
She didn't check this was ok with us, nor did she mention it had happened. I'm pretty pissed off about it tbh. Surely common respect should be used here? What was the child doing whilst she was cleaning?

You mean child was therefore half snow hour. Give the women a break

I’d let it go but if she does it again I’d have a word. It’s ok to do it occasionally but she should tell you.

i had a childminder who I paid well to look after 2 of my children when they were small and she used to sometimes come with her niece’s 4 yr old daughter. I should have said something the second time it happened but she seemed to have her for the summer and tbh I didn’t have the courage to say anything.

these situations get more difficult if you don’t deal with them before it becomes the norm.

The cleaner didn't let somebody else into your home. It wasn't some random off the street. It was their child. Who must be quite young if they needed to be there with her

Did she do her job? We're there any issues? I'm guessing not. So why make issue where there is none.

When I had childcare challenges, I took my child into work with me. A huge American company corporate office. The legal team. I didn't ask anyone. I didn't explain unless asked to. My view was - I have children, and sometimes things happen.

My child sat with her books and colouring pencils and pads. Colleagues would set her up at a spare desk with a monitor and keyboard. Not even switched on. She'd pretend she was working. She drew pictures for people. I had no choice. My manager and team knew I had no choice or I wouldn't have done it. Happened more than once

If someone I was employing did this, I'd assume they had no other option. Who wants/would choose to bring their child to work and have them bored for an hour/all day!?! Nobody

You took your children into a corporate office? Was this recently?

I remember a cleaner I used to use brought her child along. She didn’t ask but it was a one-off. I gave the child some juice, snacks and toys to play with!

Yes, I did. Was that not clear?

And no, not recent. Over a decade ago. But I'd do it tomorrow if I needed to.

Yes, i assumed it was not recently. I thin you'll find you wouldn't get away with it tomorrow actually.

My favourite post on this thread by far was the woman who doesn’t need a cleaner but employs one purely as an act of charity.

I wonder if the cleaner herself knows she’s considered a charity case ?

FWIW OP I am with you - I wouldn’t mind but I would expect to be asked - just a quick text nothing more - it’s basic politeness.

Want do you think the child would be doing . Ffs is a child not a wild animal ! Your snobism can be smelted a mile away .

Rubbish. My children have been into work with me (magic circle law firm) no problem.

For a day of work? If you say so.

It definitely wouldn't be allowed at my workplace. You aren't even allowed to WFH without childcare.

(Tech).

No, you are right - I just made it all up 🙄.

But seriously, yes for a day of work. And it was absolutely fine

1 - what the OP earns is irrelevant, you aimed your comment at @x2boys assuming they earned much more than £20p/h unlike poor cleaners without apparently realising that the majority of people don't.

2 - okay....I would say who cares but trying not to be rude I'll go with not sure what that has to do with anything....the thread isn't can I afford to hire a cleaner.

3 - soooo - does that mean YOU earn less than £20 p/h at work now? because, you know, it is actually quite a high hourly amount?

Maybe it wasn’t arranged before hand and your cleaner, didn’t know, so therefore couldn’t ask you if it was ok.

Well if you didn't notice anything they'd been doing whilst they were there whys that an issue?

How would the person dropping off the child know OP's address?

They could have phoned OP’s cleaner, said they was a problem and they needed to drop the child off and asked for the address!

So time to ask OP then.

I used to clean a 3 storey house with a 3 year old and a baby in a car seat for £12.50
Give her a break 💔

@MissMatchy what would you have said if she had rung you???

My kids have been with me at work last week , also a law firm .

I think you are massively over reacting. If it was a man maybe 🤔 but a child for God Sake.

There's a huge, seething amount of jealousy on this board when someone mentions having a cleaner. Mind you, at least you're not claiming she's a housekeeper 😂

Yes, she should have told you what she'd done. It's clearly just a kid sitting on a sofa for an hour or two, but she should definitely have mentioned it to you. She knows you've got cameras surely? So I guess she just thought you wouldn't mind.

Good cleaners are hard to find, I'd let it go tbh.

Our cleaner once brought her child without asking. She sent him up to DS’s room to play where he dismantled the Lego Hogworth’s Castle DS had got for Christmas. DS never managed to fully rebuild it (bits had got lost). I dispensed with her services shortly afterwards, she wasn’t even apologetic.