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SassyCrab · 02/10/2026 08:17

Me and my ex had a big argument and told me he’s not paying cm, so I went through cms but when properly investigating I’d be so much worse off they’d give me roughly £300 less and he still paid me cms even after the threats so I thought I’d be better off just closing it and reopening it if it comes to it? I just feel like I’d be shooting myself in the foot, he earns good money and barely pays bills etc where he lives at home still. Did I make the right decision? I’m on holiday and feel like the whole situation is annoying me.

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Meadowfinch · 02/10/2026 08:21

You do whichever gives you the best outcome, regardless of what anyone else thinks.

If your ex will contribute more, reliably, without expecting anything unreasonable in return, then that is the way to go. Your only priority is to get the best outcome for you and your shared child.

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