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AIBU to do nothing after receiving a letter for the previous owner

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Onemoret1me · 01/10/2026 21:28

I came home tonight to find a handwritten envelope that had been posted through Royal Mail, signed for delivery.
we hadn’t signed for it, it was just through the letterbox and had my address but no name in

opened the letter and it’s a letter addressed to the previous owner, a male who must be at least early 60’s ( not lived in the house for approx 7 years)
the letter is from a potential child of theirs saying they’ve been informed previous owner may be their biological dad and asking if he would get in touch

The letter is signed with first and last name but no contact number or address

would I be unreasonable to do nothing? I feel if I start trying to see if I have previous owners forwarding address still then I’m sticking my nose in something that doesn’t involve me.
equally, I feel if I do nothing then this person will assume previous owner has received the letter and chosen not to reach out.

what would you do, if anything?

OP posts:
Pinkissmart · Yesterday 23:30

Why wouldn’t you try?

AmnesiacDream · Today 01:44

Pinkissmart · Yesterday 23:30

Why wouldn’t you try?

She's explained in the OP. To spell it out for you - she has no idea how welcome such a letter would be and feels if she forwards it she would be partially responsible if it caused distress.

chocolatestodgeandcustard · Today 08:44

AmnesiacDream · Yesterday 22:49

I just realised that when I first responded I had misread the OP. And many others seem to have too.

The letter was sent to OP - not directly addressed to her but sent to the house for the people currently living there and asking them to forward the enclosed letter as the sender knows the believed father no longer lives there but, presumably, has no knowledge of his new location and hopes current owners have a forwarding address.

So YANBU OP. I would be reluctant, even if I had the forwarding address for the previous owner. The lack of any sort of way for the believed father to get back in touch with the letter writer seems like if could be quite distressing. Not sure I'd want to be a part of that.

"The letter was sent to OP - not directly addressed to her but sent to the house for the people currently living there and asking them to forward the enclosed letter as the sender knows the believed father no longer lives there but, presumably, has no knowledge of his new location and hopes current owners have a forwarding address."

Unless I've missed a post, OP has not said that the letter was "sent to the house for the people currently living there and asking them to forward the enclosed letter as the sender knows the believed father no longer lives there".

All she has said is that a signed for letter (which she had not signed for) had been put through the letter box.

That the envelope bore the house address but had no name on it; that the letter inside was addressed to the previous owner; that the letter contained no contact details for the sender. That the author asked the [previous occupant] to reach out to them.

So I don't know where you've understood the author of the letter was asking the current residents to forward the enclosed letter from - unless I've missed one of OP's posts.

If it were me, I would not attempt to locate the previous owner, I would not approach the conveyancing solicitor or estate agent to ask them if they would be prepared to forward an already opened letter that has no name on the envelope. OP could tuck the letter away, do nothing and see if any more letters arrive.

It still strikes me as peculiar that someone would go to the trouble and expense of paying for a letter to be sent as "signed for", but omitting the recipient's name from the envelope and omitting their own contact details.

An elaborate phishing operation? Malicious intent? Genuine, but wanting to let the man and his family know, but not making it easy for him to respond? Who knows?

I think we all love a mystery, but this is not something I would want to make myself a third party to.

And if OP did send it on, the previous owner will know that you and others in your family will have read the content of the letter - a situation, if genuine, that could potentially have explosive implications for him and his family and their financial plans.

AmnesiacDream · Today 08:48

chocolatestodgeandcustard · Today 08:44

"The letter was sent to OP - not directly addressed to her but sent to the house for the people currently living there and asking them to forward the enclosed letter as the sender knows the believed father no longer lives there but, presumably, has no knowledge of his new location and hopes current owners have a forwarding address."

Unless I've missed a post, OP has not said that the letter was "sent to the house for the people currently living there and asking them to forward the enclosed letter as the sender knows the believed father no longer lives there".

All she has said is that a signed for letter (which she had not signed for) had been put through the letter box.

That the envelope bore the house address but had no name on it; that the letter inside was addressed to the previous owner; that the letter contained no contact details for the sender. That the author asked the [previous occupant] to reach out to them.

So I don't know where you've understood the author of the letter was asking the current residents to forward the enclosed letter from - unless I've missed one of OP's posts.

If it were me, I would not attempt to locate the previous owner, I would not approach the conveyancing solicitor or estate agent to ask them if they would be prepared to forward an already opened letter that has no name on the envelope. OP could tuck the letter away, do nothing and see if any more letters arrive.

It still strikes me as peculiar that someone would go to the trouble and expense of paying for a letter to be sent as "signed for", but omitting the recipient's name from the envelope and omitting their own contact details.

An elaborate phishing operation? Malicious intent? Genuine, but wanting to let the man and his family know, but not making it easy for him to respond? Who knows?

I think we all love a mystery, but this is not something I would want to make myself a third party to.

And if OP did send it on, the previous owner will know that you and others in your family will have read the content of the letter - a situation, if genuine, that could potentially have explosive implications for him and his family and their financial plans.

Edited

I've misread it again? Must drink more cofee or something. I took this bit "saying they’ve been informed previous owner may be their biological dad" as them saying to the current owners they'd been informed the previous owner may be their dad. But may be not?

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