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Soft play showdown

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ThisWildHedgehog · 30/09/2026 10:09

Sorry this is long; if you make it to the end, you deserve a medal for patience and probably a biscuit. 😂

I took my toddler and baby to soft play yesterday to meet a friend with her two little ones, who are around the same ages.

Now, before anyone tells me “you knew what you were walking into…” YES. I absolutely did. I understand that soft play is essentially a mum’s version of full-contact dodgeball, complete with sticky hands, rogue socks and the desperate hope that ear defenders will be a trend for fall 2026…

HOWEVER, yesterday was particularly unhinged.

We were all sitting on a baby sensory mat when my baby started crawling around. A two-year-old girl came over and immediately grabbed him by the leg from underneath him, causing him to flop onto the mat. Thankfully, he was completely unbothered. I picked him up and she came back and tried to grab his leg again. This time I was holding him, so I moved him out of reach and said, “That’s not kind. We don’t pull other people.”

She then came over again and tried to kick my friend’s baby. We blocked her because, by this point, we were starting to see a pattern.

A little while later my older son was happily shovelling sand from one section of the indoor sandpit to another when she grabbed the shovel and tried to wrestle it away from him. I stepped in again and said, “We don’t snatch. That isn’t kind.”

At this point, I was getting a little fed up with spending my playdate supervising a child who wasn’t mine, so I went to find her mum. She was stood about 30 metres away, around a corner, in the café area.
I approached her and said, “Have you got a daughter in a pink top?”
She immediately replied, “Oh no, is she being naughty?”
I said, “I think she’s needing some supervision.”
She asked what had happened and I just said, “She just needs someone with her.”

So Mum came over and stood outside the sandpit.
In the most monotone voice I have ever had the displeasure of hearing, she repeatedly said:
“I told you no sandpit. Come here.”
The child completely ignored her.
This continued for what felt like the length of the first Avatar film.
Eventually another mum in the sandpit actually offered, “Did you need someone to pass her to you?”
Honestly, I nearly applauded.
Eventually Mum got hold of her and wandered off muttering “You are a good girl” to her.

Fine. Situation over. We can all go back to enjoying our children.

Except… apparently not.

We then noticed Mum going around speaking to the owner, then the mum who had helped her retrieve her daughter and, finally, she approached my friend.
It was essentially an investigation into the alleged crimes committed by her two-year-old.

She wanted to establish exactly what her daughter had supposedly been accused of, followed by the declaration that “her daughter would never do those things.”

Okay. 🤷‍♀️

Nobody was trying to cause a scene. We just wanted her to stop kicking/grabbing/snatching from our children.

But then she came over to me and repeated the same bizarre assertion, despite not having witnessed any of it, that she was absolutely sure her daughter hadn’t done anything.
At this point I said:
“If you had been watching your child, you wouldn’t have to interview the entire soft play to find out what happened.”
She replied:
“I can’t watch her 24/7.”
She also said “it’s hard to teach a two-year-old right and wrong.”

Yes. I agree.
That’s generally why we… supervise them and teach them.

The conversation was becoming heated and I didn’t want to stand there arguing in front of my children, so I ended it with:
“I politely came to get you, I was respectful and calm with you, and you are making a mountain out of a molehill. Please leave us alone.”

And then came her closing statement:
“Well, I won’t have my daughter apologise for something she hasn’t done, so I take back our sorry.”

There was never even an apology to retract…

At this point we just wanted to get on with our playdate without either her or her daughter bothering us.

The owner then came over, apologised to us, invited us back for another playdate and explicitly said that, of course, children need to be supervised.

And the other thing that really struck me was the layout of this place. There were loads of stairs, raised platforms and areas where a two-year-old could quite easily get herself into trouble.

So even putting aside the behaviour towards other children, I genuinely don’t understand how you can be 30 metres away around a corner while your two-year-old is roaming around a large soft play independently.

I completely accept that two-year-olds grab things, snatch, push, kick ect. I don’t expect toddlers to behave perfectly. I do expect their parent to be somewhere nearby when they’re doing it, though.

Right, where are those biscuits? 🫣🤣

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RampantIvy · 30/09/2026 13:39

dingbat5 · 30/09/2026 13:13

If she enjoys writing she should have written it herself surely? I promise you, that third paragraph is pure AI slop. You can spot it a mile off.

How do you know?

As I don't use AI I wouldn't recognise a piece of AI writing if it hit me in the face.

AmethystDeceiver · 30/09/2026 13:40

takealettermsjones · 30/09/2026 13:37

I don't read the reactions that way at all.

I read, "wow, it's in that annoying and affected style that is now everywhere; it must be AI."

💫 Key Takeaway 💫

It's not about jealousy. It's about dismay. 😞

(Sorry. I couldn't resist 🤣)

😂😂

67789d · 30/09/2026 13:40

Storybroad · 30/09/2026 12:27

It's not because it's 'perfect' that we can tell it's AI. There are several absolute giveaways:

  • the use of bold text for emphasis. This is something humans very rarely use in their writing and which was virtually unseen up until recently, but which is a very common AI trope.
  • Errors like saying 'fall' instead of 'autumn'.
  • Rhythmic monotony. Your story doesn't have the natural variation and inconsistency of human writing, it has that odd, unchanging cadence which is very typical of AI.
  • Odd details which don't actually make sense. 'The owner invited us back for another playdate'. What soft play operates by invitation? Surely you can go anytime anyway? AI doesn't known how soft plays work so didn't recognise this as an odd statement. In real life if an owner felt you had been inconvenienced they might offer you a free or discounted session, but they wouldn't invite you back to a place you're free to go to any time. Also the fact that in this story you were able to immediately identify the mum or the two-year old, despite her being 30 metres away around a corner and not supervising her child. AI doesn't realise that this doesn't read as plausible. And the sentence 'We blocked her because, by this point, we were starting to see a pattern'. Surely you would block her because you wouldn't let any child kick a baby? It has nothing to do with spotting a pattern, does it? This is just one of those oddities that arises from AI not actually being human.
  • the overly commanding tone. ChatGPT has given you the voice of a town mayor, but of course people don't really speak like that in day to day life (it would be toe curling if they did). This kind of authoritative pomposity is very inhuman, and very typical of AI (which is trained much more on written text than on video or audio of real people having normal conversations).
  • so many ellipses.

I obviously don't expect you to fess up here, you'll maintain a firm denial that this is ChatGPT, but you and I both know the truth. Next time try writing it yourself - I promise it will be more rewarding for you, and more engaging for your reader. AI is infinitely more irritating and monotonous than human writing.

That is a massive amount of effort you have put in (almost as long as the OP) for something you can, you know, scroll on by

OP - well I for one enjoyed your post, the other mum was a total lazy nutter IMO

Anothercake · 30/09/2026 13:43

Wishingplenty · 30/09/2026 12:59

A common theme on similar Mumsnet posts is that people are extremely ignorant of what a two year old is capable of doing or understanding. A lot of people despite the numerous literature that is out there, expect a two year old to behave like a 4 or even 5 year old. Well there not going to and yet people keep being surprised at this.
If you choose to venture into a public space that is frequented by other children at all separate stages of development, then you must accept what comes after. The good and the bad. You cannot control an outside environment.

A two year old doing what you describe would not phase me one iota. I would interact and explain to my own child that two year olds sometimes hit or kick because they are learning and exploring and this is a normal stage of human development. I would then demonstrate to the two year old how to be gentle.
I would certainly not hunt down the mother and have a fraca over it in public, because frankly that is for the uneducated and ill informed. Grown adults arguing over young children's behaviour is pathetic and yet we expect so much more from children themselves.

😂😂😂

You're explaining to a baby that a two year is developmentally normal?

No. Just no.

Two year olds need parenting, and the parent needs to be actively supervising their child in order to do that.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 30/09/2026 13:43

“If you had been watching your child, you wouldn’t have to interview the entire soft play to find out what happened.” 😂

Hat, taken off.

Storybroad · 30/09/2026 13:43

67789d · 30/09/2026 13:40

That is a massive amount of effort you have put in (almost as long as the OP) for something you can, you know, scroll on by

OP - well I for one enjoyed your post, the other mum was a total lazy nutter IMO

I'm happy to do it. As I said upthread I think we all have a general interest in challenging AI output which is being passed off as human, and sharing some of the tells might one day help another person recognise when it's happening.

Ilikebluewhataboutyou · 30/09/2026 13:44

I've been to a few soft play sessions with my grandchildren in the past (they are beginning to age out of them now). It always seemed to me that the vast majority of parents failed to supervise their children most of the time. Almost the only ones actually with their kids were parents of quite young, non-walking babies. Was at a park playground with DGD once when she was about 2 and a very young toddler fell off the climbing frame, screaming his head off and obviously bleeding. Mum was nowhere to be seen so I just said in a loud voice 'does anyone know where this child's mother is'? and one of the older kids obviously did know and went to find her. She was sitting with a group of friends at the far end of the playground not watching him at all. To be fair I think she had quite a number of children with her so it must have been a bit hard to watch all of them, but I was a bit shocked at how young he was and left completely unsupervised. She didn't say anything, just scooped him up and walked off.

JustMyView13 · 30/09/2026 13:44

This is actual contraception in a thread, but I’m here on the promise of a biscuit 😂

Anxioustealady · 30/09/2026 13:48

Credittocress · 30/09/2026 12:26

Doesn’t matter that you think your 4 year old looks harmless, anyone with half a brain cell will know that a parent with a baby doesn’t want them anywhere them.

? I only have a baby and was not happy older girls were jumping around my baby, and i said they should be parenting their children, but I was thinking perhaps it doesn't look as bad to parents with older kids vs me with just a baby. I can try understand people without thinking they're right.

DinoLil · 30/09/2026 13:51

Beautifully recounted @ThisWildHedgehog !

Reminds me of an occasion at soft play when my DC (now late 20s) were 18m and 3y. I saw two other 3y olds shoving and pushing mine around. He was very upset. I went to wade in but, before I had a chance, my 18m had jumped in, had one 3y in each hand and they were both screaming. I had to shout 'drop them!' as I rushed over.

The first and only time my youngest has shown any such tendencies. Saved me doing it though! And no, no sign of those parents either.

Screamingabdabz · 30/09/2026 13:52

Wishingplenty · 30/09/2026 12:59

A common theme on similar Mumsnet posts is that people are extremely ignorant of what a two year old is capable of doing or understanding. A lot of people despite the numerous literature that is out there, expect a two year old to behave like a 4 or even 5 year old. Well there not going to and yet people keep being surprised at this.
If you choose to venture into a public space that is frequented by other children at all separate stages of development, then you must accept what comes after. The good and the bad. You cannot control an outside environment.

A two year old doing what you describe would not phase me one iota. I would interact and explain to my own child that two year olds sometimes hit or kick because they are learning and exploring and this is a normal stage of human development. I would then demonstrate to the two year old how to be gentle.
I would certainly not hunt down the mother and have a fraca over it in public, because frankly that is for the uneducated and ill informed. Grown adults arguing over young children's behaviour is pathetic and yet we expect so much more from children themselves.

If they’re old enough to independently walk up to a baby and make a decision to kick it, they’re old enough to be told to stop. A 2 year, like a well
trained dog, can understand parental disapproval. It doesn’t need to have a thesis in moral philosophy to be taught what behaviour is good or bad. Or at what age do you start to teach them? When they’re 5? 7? 11? 15?

The point is the parent wasn’t around so the op went to call her to do some actual parenting. It is not OP’s responsibilty to parent randoms. The ‘fraca’ was entirely down to the dipshit lazy mother who couldn’t bear to take any criticism.

Atriangleabout · 30/09/2026 13:54

Storybroad · 30/09/2026 13:43

I'm happy to do it. As I said upthread I think we all have a general interest in challenging AI output which is being passed off as human, and sharing some of the tells might one day help another person recognise when it's happening.

So it wasn’t a copy and paste job??

Atriangleabout · 30/09/2026 13:55

As for the Mumsnet post, I was trying to write something funny

oh dear @ThisWildHedgehog !

ruethewhirl · 30/09/2026 13:58

dingbat5 · 30/09/2026 13:13

If she enjoys writing she should have written it herself surely? I promise you, that third paragraph is pure AI slop. You can spot it a mile off.

I don't agree with you, and I've seen a lot of AI-generated text. Certain writing styles are now often assumed to be AI, but AI gleans its data, including its writing styles, from people. Of course people write in the style OP has done.

ruethewhirl · 30/09/2026 14:00

AutumnClouds · 30/09/2026 13:33

The key giveaway is the ‘owner’ of this gigantic softplay which houses a sandpit 30m away from a cafe appearing out of nowhere to ‘invite’ an irritated parent back for another ‘playdate’. None of that quite lines up with how things work in reality. Owners of large businesses do not mill around resolving the kind of disputes that occur daily. Customers are not ‘invited’ on ‘playdates’ although perhaps might be given a voucher for a visit if the upset had been more significant. There is also the casual certainty about details that wouldn’t actually be known in that situation, like the girl’s age, as well as somehow knowing which woman to approach in the 30m distant cafe. It’s a very recognisable tone and it’s not beautiful hilarious writing, it’s formulaic and hollowed out writing that sounds like observational comedy but is actually one step away from reality.

Do you not have any hobbies or anything?

Arlanymor · 30/09/2026 14:00

ruethewhirl · 30/09/2026 13:58

I don't agree with you, and I've seen a lot of AI-generated text. Certain writing styles are now often assumed to be AI, but AI gleans its data, including its writing styles, from people. Of course people write in the style OP has done.

Hence why I asked why she would use the word 'fall'. ChatGPT is American... if the poster isn't and she isn't in America then it's a dead giveaway.

PleaseDontTreadOnTheDaisies · 30/09/2026 14:06

SaltyandSweet · 30/09/2026 12:11

I think MN needs to have a policy that posters shouting "AI!" at every turn are treated just like those who troll hunt. I mean, bloody hell.

It's been awhile since mine were toddlers but I used to wind myself up terribly when faced with this sort of parent. OP, I applaud you being patient, calm, and really very reasonable with this batshit mother!

A thread the other day, something like "Aibu to think my DH's ex should just get over it and move on" - after about 800 posts, admitted that it wasn't a real thread, it was an AI experiment, used for research for a LLM to see how much people responded/ invested in MN threads. It said it had six other threads current, and various AI models in use. Other model's threads hadn't been clocked as yet. MN deleted the thread.

Maybe this was all a wind up too - but it's left me feeling very suspicious of obvious AI posts. Trolls are one thing, at least you're talking to a human - but AI research models are something else altogether.

Survivingnotthriving24 · 30/09/2026 14:07

It's absolutely insane how many parents think soft play is a place to ignore their children. Every time we go it's ruined by either having to parent other people's children or being latched on to by a random child that's realised you're a rare adult that plays with their kids.

dingbat5 · 30/09/2026 14:09

RampantIvy · 30/09/2026 13:39

How do you know?

As I don't use AI I wouldn't recognise a piece of AI writing if it hit me in the face.

It’s the tone, the style, the choice of words. It’s written in a way that is meant to be very witty and clever but comes across try hard. AI also uses a lot of the same sort of phrases over and over. It’s kind of hard to explain, I have used AI in the past for writing (not copied word for word as in this post) but for ideas into projects and it always churns out the same sort of material. I think when you’re familiar with it then it becomes very easy to spot which is why I would never use it in a post, correspondence, articles, anything else someone else might read basically. My writing might not be as ‘polished’ but it’s real.

I am also howling at the posters suggesting that anyone claiming it is AI generated must be jealous of the OP’s writing style. The sheer irony 😂

Storybroad · 30/09/2026 14:10

Atriangleabout · 30/09/2026 13:54

So it wasn’t a copy and paste job??

Nope. Typed it with my own two thumbs and everything 👍🏻

bettyboo9 · 30/09/2026 14:11

You dealt with it perfectly. It’s just a shame that these places also come with navigating all walks of life. It really shouldn’t be an ordeal that you are paying to attend. You sound like you kept a really cool head on you when so many others wouldn’t

ClairDeLaLune · 30/09/2026 14:17

dingbat5 · 30/09/2026 11:05

Posted before I realised anyone else had clocked the blatant AI paragraph 3 😂

Was it the word “fall” that gave it away? Maybe OP is in the US? But then it would be cookies not biscuits I guess…

dontforgetofeedthecat · 30/09/2026 14:17

there are 2 kind of parents at soft play

the lazy kind, accusing everyone else to be "helicopter parents" whose kids are either crying or causing absolute mayhem,

the minority of parents who actually look after their kids and engage with them, at least until they are in a group and old enough to be left alone.

The first kind is ruining it for everyone else but are actually amusing

Dollymylove · 30/09/2026 14:25

OP needs to teach her kids the rule od the jungle.
Kid pushes you
Push kid back
Keep going until kid gets the message

I'll get my coat....

stopbeingnasty · 30/09/2026 14:28

ThisWildHedgehog · 30/09/2026 10:52

To the people assuming this is AI 😂

I studied English and rather enjoy writing, this was my third draft so thank you for seeing it as PERFECT ✨

Although I would say I’m better at poetry, it’s fun to write up a story instead.

If you read my other threads you can see sarcastic humour is sprinkled throughout them all.

It just goes to show how stupid the average person is, and how AI is fucking up everybody's perceptions of reality!