To get my DPs and sons names tatood on me? Anyone any opinions? All welcome

[Kaedsmum]

We're getting married next year, we're not going to split up or anything and I think he's getting mine tatood.

I'd quite like to get his done in a nice discreet design as I don't like tatoos in general.

And my son will always be my son so no harm in getting that done.

What does everyone else think?

I sort of dislike tatoos because I tend to think they look gaudy and yucky, but DP has a lot and I like them on men. I'd like to make sure mine is very carefully and discreetly done.

sorry, i should have said that obviously mners are far more refined than my description of the flower of british woman hood! The point is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder - some of us love well executed tattoos and enjoy comparing and sharing our artwork - there are obviously degrees of what we, as tattooed people, think is well executed, beautifully done and someone getting 'property of above their pubic bone.

giraffes can't dance - i hope you get your tattoo, I think it would have great significance to you

I have 3 of my DC's names on me which is nice tattoo but I now think its quiet an odd thing to do.
Why woudl I need to have their names written down on me to remember them? Even if something dreadful happened I'm never going to forget them am I?

I have 4 Dcs so I couldn't not get something for DS4. I had just his initial done thsi time though.

As for getting Dh's name done.....no farkin' way. Not even if I had a crystal ball to see if we'd be together forever and a day. Never ever.

persephonesnape, fine if you like tattoos but the OP has said she doesn't particularly. Good enough reason to refrain, I think.

Each to their own, but tattoos aren't for me.

i just don't see the point.
do you think you are going to forget them? if so post it notes are cheap and it would be a lot less painful!

Go for it.

DH is getting our dc's names and dob's tattooed down his leg when dc3 arrives.

i will hopefully be getting the same done around my tribal tattoo on my back

I've got DD1s name tattood under a tiger cub on my arm, it does look a bit naff though really, but hey. Get them done where they can be covered up is all i advise. Now i am older and have DD2 (15yr gap) i sort of feel i want to get her name tattoo'd on me but can't get passed the image of women with lists of names on their arms and big hoop earrings.

Has anyone ever thought, 'well that Audrey Hepburn was quite nice looking, but cor! Imagine her with a whacking great tattoo!"?
Nobody ever looks classier or cleverer with a tattoo. Mind you, 'classy and clever' is not the look most are going for, I suppose. I really, really don't get the point of permanent body scribble.

i agree. i find the 'would audry hepburn do it' rule a great one to live by.

would she have a big tatoo of her lovers name? NO!

would she wear a thong poking out over her trousers? NO!

llareggub, no i do agree - if the OP isn't keen, then she shouldn't be talked into it - it is very much a question of each to your own. removal can be very painful and expensive. cover ups can be unsympatheic if carried out by someone who doesn't know what they're doing. the point is that it is her body and she shouldn't be railroaded into doing something that she isn't comfortable with by her OH, or by popular opinion (or unpopular opinion.)

What i don't like is people judging others by how they choose to portray themselves to the rest of the world. I imagine from some of the comments in this thread i would endure a few raised eyebrows or screwed up faces if I were encountered in public. No matter. I hold a responsible demanding job in public service and I'm a very good mum (if i say so myself) bringing up my three children to be reponsible, educated, caring individuals. Thats not because i have tattoos and it's not in spite of having them. They do not affect my ability to parent to the best of my ability or to help people in a professional capacity, who need my help.

would Audrey be so rude as to condemn what other people choose to do with their own bodies on an internet forum? probably not.

Love tattoos here!

If you don't want one though, don't have one. It's going to be on your body forever, you must love the design otherwise you will quickly grow to hate it.

Also:

Get names in another language - chinese/hebrew or something. Then if you split up with DP you won't have his name etched across your bum or whatever

Get it somewhere you can't see it! If it's not staring at you every time you look in the mirror you are much less likely to go off it. Also get it somewhere it won't be visible unless you want it to be. Shoulders/upper/back feel discreet but they affect what clothing you can wear if you don't want to show all and sundry

Maybe get the names incorporated into a picture/pattern that you really like. Just writing is a bit masculine IMO

Find someone who has lovely tattoos and ask them who did them. Don't just wander into the first shop you see

Echo Moondog, Malory and Others.

I think they're fine, it you want one. But you say you don't.

So don't do it.

I've got my DD's name tatooed on my ankle (its normally hidden as I usually wear trousers) but I would NEVER get my DP's name whether we get married or not.

Ultimately it's up to you though.

but if you get it written in chinese or hebrew then unless you speak those languages , how do you know it's been done correctly? for all you know you might end up with a tatoo saying 'pigbum' or something!

if you dont like tattoos then dont get them done

Someone has offered to pay me to design them a tattoo with all their children's names on. I find them so naff that I can't even do that, I keep making excuses.

If you have trouble remembering, write on a piece of paper and file safely.

Babelfish!

I know what you mean though. I just think it's so utterly crazy to have a DP name inked onto you.

I love my DH completely, sure we will be together forever, etc etc [cheesemongering emoticon]

But no way would I have his name emblazoned on any part of my anatomy. Not a big draw when looking for a new DP (god forbid). Unless you only date men with the same name and tell them you got it done after the first date as you were so confident it'd work out! That approach will surely attract some nice well balanced individuals!

Spend the money on a great photograph of you all at a studio instead.

But then that's just me. I think tattoos are really really vile and disfiguring.

Don't do it. Unless you have a poor memory.

In which case get your address done too, prefaced with 'if lost, please look after me' and put a marmalade sandwich under your hat.

mmmmmmm

I do have a secret fancy for men with tattoos. Your reasoning means nothing.

i love tattoos, i just fail to see why someone would get one done if they dont like them

I like tattoos, I've never had one because I haven't been able to come across something I like enough to say 'Yes, I want that picture on my body for the rest of my life'
Jeez, I take an hour to decide what colour nail varnish to wear.

IMO a tattoo should have meaning behind it, especially on a woman, men can get away with it. Women can't.

Think of something that 'means' DH to you, and have that done, small and discreet somewhere no-one can see it, or just don't have one done.

Tattoos are horrible - sorry. Don't you want the option of looking classy sometimes? Can you imagine Kate Middleton, a few years down the line, with 'Wills, Tarquin and India' tattoos? Thought not.

Don't do it.

Have a really nice photo taken of all of you & made into a canvas print for your wall. With the names, if necessary.