in absolutely loathing a horrible eating habit my DH has and demanding he stops?

[fallingdown]

I've tried over and over again to hint that he stops........it drives me fucking mental and I hate eating with him when he does it. He didn't do it when we met....took a while before he does it to this extent but ow does it every dinner time.

I've even been sneaky in trying to get himto stop it but he always finds a way. AIBU to demand he no longer does it in my presence?

I actually leave the room when he is eating horribly - I find that lifting my plate & saying 'I can't bear to watch you eat' generally gets the message across.

Jeez, get a life. He's not picking his nose and eating that between bites of your cooking, after all.

"Never marry someone from a different class, their table manners will drive you mad."

Don't know who said that, but it's absolutely true....dh and I aren't different social classes as such, but he was brought up with no table manners as far as I can see, and it drives me mad...making noises while eating, would eat every meal in front of the tv if I let him...it's hard getting the dc not to copy him.

I do think all men would do this without women around though - that and read the newspaper on the loo - we had a big debate about how disgusting this was in my office recently - all the men thinking it was ok, the (few) women all saying it was gross.

I do sympathise over the meal sandwich scenario...it does show a lack of respect.

What if you go on strike and insist he makes all his meals himself because it's annoying you so much?

I remember the first ( and last time) that DP got the HP out on my gorgeous lancashire hotpot...
a huge row ensued
I said I refuse to cook for you
and the killer
I gave up smoking for you....
needless to say...
I won
that would make me mad too fallingdown...
I'd cook things so as to subvert it
or change to meals like curry and use naan or pittas
French bread/garlic bread for bolognese/lasagne

Plate licking doesn't bother me.

Sandwiches do though - mainly because I am trying to teach the children to eat properly and they want to be like daddy! He loves it when I go away because I buy him chicken kievs and he is allowed to eat em as a sandwich

i cant see the problem?

my dp has to have bread and butter with every meal, no matter what i cook even if its a huge quantity, he says if he doesn't eat it he still feels hungry, the b&b fills him up.
I couldnt really care less, if he is happy and his belly is full whats the prob? Hes been out working all day, he can eat the whole loaf if he likes, however if he ate with his mouth open or slurped i would have to kill him.

My dh sometimes puts bolognese into a sandwich. And lets dd1 have some of it. I have no problem with this.

I love making sandwiches out of stuff. And I would eat bread with every meal if possible. Really can't see the problem.

(fish finger butties mmmmm)

I have been known to do this. Not with 'proper' meals as such but crap such as ready meal shepherds pie, supernoodles, tinned spag bol (yum!). It's bloody lovely!

yabu.

Ffs he can eat what he wants.

Stop treating him like a child.

YANBU I cannot stand bad table manners and IMO this is one of them. My dh used to do this a long with chomping and talking with his mouth full, MiL does all of these things.

Horrible and uncouth, he no longer does it BTW, maybe something to do with me saying I found it rude and distinctly unsexy

me and OH do this but not with every meal.

I really don't get why this would annoy anyone.

We have bread and butter with a lot of meals (not spag bol though) and I don't see why it's annoying. It's not bad table manners it's just eating.
Bad table manners are things like eating with your mouth open, smacking your lips and talking with food in your mouth all of which really do wind me up

I think it annoys me because its bad manners as far as I'm concerned. Also find it disrespectful as he only does it for normal family meals (which I have usually cooked from scratch).

Seeing him scrape a bit of jacket potato out and a bit of the salad and some cheese and putting it on the bread and then folding the piece in half makes me want to be sick sometimes.

He is a wonderful man but this habit is erksome to say the least.

Make a normal dinner stash it between 2 slices of bread all ooozing out and pour gravy on it then dish it up whilst standing over him with a fish slice, one brow raised and see what he says.

Sounds revolting by the way!

It could be far far worse so I don't really understand why you are getting so wound up. I cook from scratch every night and my husband covers everything in black pepper. It does make me think "what's wrong with the flavour of my food?". Then, I realise that he eats every last mouthful most of the time and that he simply loves the taste of pepper. Live and let live.

It probably would annoy me, but only as much as when I watch my DH put every sauce imaginable on every meal I cook for him....

But then, at the moment, I am putting capers on everything I eat, so I understand it. Have no 'disrespect' for the chef, just a bit of a craving at the moment.... (no, I am not pregnant, thank goodness!)

I know when my DH does not like something I have made (generally anything with lemon in it, or peppers.....), because he just won't eat it. I am not particularly offended though. Same as, he made something with an obscene amount of feta cheese in it once, I just couldn't manage more than a mouthful. Don't think he was offended either.

Sorry, rambling on. Point is, he clearly likes your food, so it's not necessarily disrespect, but it is perhaps a little childish and (l)oafish..... just ignore him and find an annoying habit of your own

TSAMarie---- sorry, had to smile at your "I cook everything from scratch"... I am sure most people contributing to this thread do, which is the point. Not really much point posting
"I de-frost/microwave my DH's readymeal diligently and lovingly every night and he goes and puts ketchup on it..rant rant rant..." Sort of pointless and hardly likely to get any sympathy.

I know, just bored this afternoon, not wanting to pick on you. Just seemed a bit 'stating the obvious' to me.

My DH insists on talking to me with huge chunks of food bunched into one cheek, like a hamster. It makes me want to poke my own eyes out.

My FIL is a Magistrate and works for the Church of England and yet eats like a disgusting pig. It is a stomach churning sight to see and those who haven't had to regularly sit with someone who so very gross have no idea.

I'm so very glad I don't have to see him anymore....my children were starting to question why does Grandad start before we are all ready, put his mouth down to his plate, slurp, spit, champ, gurn, induce vomiting in other diners...yuk.

I knew someone who used to buy a Hollands cheese n onion pie and a barm cake from the chippy- and make it into a 'pie sandwich' ew.

must say though, have heard that pizza sandwiches are rather nice although i draw the line at mash sarnies.

I agree with metal mummy, it isn't bad table manners its choice of food.