in absolutely loathing a horrible eating habit my DH has and demanding he stops?

[fallingdown]

I've tried over and over again to hint that he stops........it drives me fucking mental and I hate eating with him when he does it. He didn't do it when we met....took a while before he does it to this extent but ow does it every dinner time.

I've even been sneaky in trying to get himto stop it but he always finds a way. AIBU to demand he no longer does it in my presence?

That sandwich thing would really, really annoy me too. It's so - oh I don't know - childish. No, oafish. (or should I say, loafish)
I wouldn't cook for him or eat with him if he did that. Really I wouldn't.
Mind you, I quite like the idea of chips with lasagne! I love greasy Greek places that do chips with moussaka...mmmm...

Stella - me too! But not the nice, homecooked lasagne i make. I want cheap crappy sloppy pub meal lasagne with lots of thin chips to mop up the salty sauce with.

SM007

If my DH did this he would be wearing the plate.

Yes definitely LOAFISH msDemeanour lol

That would reallllllly annoy me, fallingdown. My DH is OK with food but does have a very strange way of handling his knife+fork. Here in Holland lots of people seem to be not that bovvered about how you hold your knife and fork so I turn a blind eye but sometimes I can feel my blood start to boil when the fork turns into a sort of ripping instrument (TURN IT OVER AND CUT THAT MEAT WITH YOUR KNIFE is what I would like to mutter but sensibly keep quiet)

So no YANBU!

Bree, its ok, he doesn't do it in public places only at home. But that doesn't mean that it doesn't evoke the same emotions as the OP on her DH's eating habits. I empathise with her!!

whaaaaat? licking the plate is a sign of appreciation, no??

sorry MsDemeanor

he wishes he could lick the plate in restaurants but he manages to restrain himself somehow...
Plate licking winds me up, really can't stand it.

Bread thing is horrendous, but licking the plate???

I would bludgeon him to death.

Is he scottich - they have a thing for carb snadwiches don;t they? Carb on carb?

of scottish even

Is he overweight?
Can you play the health card?

my word you are all really uptight.

yabu - he is a grown man. if you dont like it eat somewhere else.

lol @ carb on carb

DH has started adjusting his eating habits after DD1 (who worships him( started copying him.
He drinks the milk out of his cereal bowl, which TBH amuses me as he never misses a drop, and his grandad taught it to him purely to annoy my MIL, but now DD is copying he doesn't do it.
(He also cannot eat out of a bowl on the table, he has to pick it up, until she started copyng him)
It wouldn't bother me, although I can understand it is winding you up, I think it is one of those niggly things that grows, but can you stop him by saying you don't want the kids to copy, tell him he can have the leftovers in a sandwich in teh kitchen when you have all finished so they don't see him...

My DH would love to do this but he knows he would get a .

Recently I got some of those heat up fancy french sticks and a joint of beef. I did the roast beef and we had it in rolls. It really does go against my religion to eat it like that, but it was worth it, his eyes lit up like it was xmas!!!

YANBU, if you do all the cooking, he should eat it as you intend it to be eaten. And comment on how delicious it is and what a lovely person you are for cooking his food. And then do the washing up and rub your feet for you. Tell him we all said so!!

My dh does it, although not every meal. Don't have a problem with it, tend to agree with amphibimum.

What about divorce? I think he deserves it.

Serve it in a sandwich with loads of very cheap spread, maybe stork, and only use the cheapest thin sliced white bread that would fall apart.

pmsl at the sex comments.

I can assure you all that there is no bread involved in that side of things

I know it's not a big deal in the grand scheme of things but it really really winds me up. Why can't he eat properly like an adult fgs?

I really do blame MIL.

yabu. this is pathetic he's a grown man and his habit has absolutely no adverse affect on you.bar you allowing yourself to be annoyed by it.

I have had this same problem recently. We decided we would stop eating in front of the TV and sit in the kitchen.

He did some f*cking disgusting things with spaghetti hanging out of his mouth etc....

I just asked him to eat more politely. I said 'you wouldn't do this on a first date would you?' Leading on to the 'lets not let ourselves go conversation' with 'I can manage not to eat noisily/like a pig/getting it all down my chin'.

He has improved now but I am really on his case.

He's eating out tonight. No idea why.

YANBU - this is a meal you have prepared for him - not a buttie from a greasy caf. I would be severely pissed off if this happened all the time. But I have my own fish to fry - my DH's table manners are grim.