in absolutely loathing a horrible eating habit my DH has and demanding he stops?

[fallingdown]

I've tried over and over again to hint that he stops........it drives me fucking mental and I hate eating with him when he does it. He didn't do it when we met....took a while before he does it to this extent but ow does it every dinner time.

I've even been sneaky in trying to get himto stop it but he always finds a way. AIBU to demand he no longer does it in my presence?

I would say that the children need to understand we eat with cutlery. I would even pretend they've been doing the same thing when out.
I would also explain that seeing a meal I've worked hard to make being eaten with your hands makes me feel like it wasn't worth the effort and I should just give you a cheese sandwich. It's convention to use a knife and fork and it is the connatation of a more formal meal where we take our time.

yeah but they didn't eat the bread if they were loaded they gave them to the peasants.

Serve him soup (pureed kind, no visible lumps) until he agrees to stop. Lets see him try sandwiching that

Weeeell, he is free to eat his meals the way he wants, he's an adult.
I couldn't accept that though, it's kinda gross.
You're going to have to sort something out as neither one of you are being unreasonable (so long as he only does the bread thing at home)

Tell him the extra carbs are making him fat!

Does he understand basic nutrition - pasta is a carb and so no need for chips and I'm sorry it just says cheap pub meal where they serve the same veg and chips with everything - lack of respect for your cooking again!
My dh won't eat soup or tomatoes, but now I see that that's a minor irritation!

My DH wants lasagne with chips too!!! but i always just do a salad and if he doesn't want any he doesn't get any!!

He wouldn't do it in a restaurant, at a dinner party, at the house of my mother/ sister/ friend. If we were hosting a dinner party he wouldn't do it.

Just does it for normal family meals. It used to be with kind of appropriate food like casseroles but he has gradually started doing it with everything.

He does understand nutrition but just says he likes to have some of his meal in bread. He doesn't eat the whole meal in the bread....just 2 or 3 slices worth and eats the rest with cutlery.

I get serious rage now when he does it. The bread bin clicks open and I can feel the rage building and cant enjoy my meal until he has had his bread.

is he a Yorkshireman? My dh used to do this too - he pretty much gave it up a few years ago thankfully. It's now restricted to a breadcake with fish and chips.

I used to find it mostly perplexing really but can completely understand you feeling pissed off - I would if he was still doing it. Not being British, I thought that maybe it was some kind of national habit .

What really took the biscuit though was when I suggested that we have side salads with meals occasionally and he flipped, saying he wasn't cooking so I could fill myself up with salad . He did at least feel a bit stupid when I pointed out his bread habit to him.

Ok, now I think YABU, a bit.
I've just had dinner and put some mash in my bread
I wouldn't have bread with things like curry or spag bol though.
Can you not just add the proper accompaniments like naan or garlic tear and share for those meals?

yabu in my opinion, at least he eats his dinner, my dh is so fussy he wont eat things that are remotely brown [burnt in his opinion] wont try anything new and is just generally a pain in the arse

fallingdown I'm so sorry, I can understand your ever increasing rage, but your post

"tonight I gave him bread and butter only. Then I felt a but guilty as he was genuinely perplexed by it"

was very very funny.

what did he say?

Shoving your meal into bread and butter is tasty
but
he shouldn't be doing that every mealtime. He should only do that when he is eating alone. Tell him to stop. Hide the bread.

Why don't you just put his food directly into a sandwich? Every time. When you serve his cornflakes between 2 slices of Hovis, he'll surely get the message?

lol @ cornflakes in hovis. Maybe you could elastic band a couple of slices around his mug of tea/pint of beer/sherry glass.

stop cooking for him until he agrees to limit doing it to once a week.

I just had a rude thought about bedtime in your house.

Getting coat.

He puts bread round her fanjo before he goes down Hecate?
Or just what my mind came up with?

He's an adult, what the F does it matter how he eats? How in the world does it possibly affect anyone else? I'm truly baffled, thought you were going to say he picked his nose or ate with mouth open or added heaps of salt before tasting the food.

If this is all you have to complain about on personal habits, you are SOOOO LUCKY.

Muggle! I'm shocked! What a suggestion!

er, yes that's it.

LOL Hecate.

Give him a sandwich for EVERY meal

i really fail to see the problem.

i think you are sounding uptight and a total pita. sorry!

that's nothing compared to what my DH does!!! he actually licks the plate after he's finished eating (if there's gravy or sauce left over - til the plate is clean.). He doesn't like food to go to waste.