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AIBU to expect air freshener in toilets when visiting friends?

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HangryBrickShark · 09/09/2026 23:11

Is there an expectation that people's toilets should have an air freshener in? Like a spray air freshener?

We always have air freshener in both our toilets in case friends or family get caught short when visiting us or even to freshen the bathroom after having a wee if necessary, so I hate it if I go to a friend/family members house and they have none.

I get some people may be affected by asthma but surely if you had asthma you wouldn't use it?

We have a glade air freshener at work that sprays into the space where the wash handbasins are for example.

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Nighttimenoise · 10/09/2026 09:08

carry a box of matches with you and if you have used someone's loo, light a match afterwards and let it burn , it will eliminate smells better than air freshener

BabblingBiddy · 10/09/2026 09:08

AngelinaFibres · 10/09/2026 08:14

Generally, when you visit people, you use their downstairs toilet. Hell would freeze over before I did a poo in someone's toilet that opened into a hallway area. Since menopause I have to make sure I poop before leaving the house in the morning. If I don't my body will decide ,in the afternoon , that it is going and it is going NOW.

You do know that plenty of people only have 1 bathroom right? Id say its a 50/50 split with my friends and family. And of the 50% who only have 1 bathroom, most of them are downstairs.

BrezhnevsLuxuriantEyebrows · 10/09/2026 09:10

PussyGaylore · 10/09/2026 08:31

I really dislike the smell of air fresheners. We have windows in our bathroom so I tend to leave the transom one slightly ajar. In the downstairs loo where there is no window, there is an extractor fan. I also have Aesop poo drops by the side of the toilet and these work well.

I wonder how Aesop would have felt if he'd known that, some 2,500 years after his death, he would still be remembered both for his magnificently-crafted fables intended to communicate wise moral truths to humankind through the ages... and also latterly for an association with bottles of floral perfume designed to change the stench of shit into a stench of tangerine, ylang ylang and shit?!

Aabbaas · 10/09/2026 09:11

I hate the smell of air fresheners, they all give me headache. Yes, YABU. Use them in your bathroom if you like but you can’t expect this to be the standard in everyone else’s home!!!

BlackRowan · 10/09/2026 09:13

I personally don’t want to smell anyone’s shit including my family members. People who think a reed diffuser, a candle or an open window deal with the smell are delusional. Yes they do, EVENTUALLY. For someone who walks into a toilet shortly after you and has to deal with the smell - ewww.

there are a variety of air sprays and not all of them are aerosol based.

Boomer55 · 10/09/2026 09:13

Air fresheners and a toilet brush are always in my bathroom. 👍

BrezhnevsLuxuriantEyebrows · 10/09/2026 09:13

Nighttimenoise · 10/09/2026 09:08

carry a box of matches with you and if you have used someone's loo, light a match afterwards and let it burn , it will eliminate smells better than air freshener

Even more efficient, just curl it straight into a metal bucket and then light it and kill it with fire at the source.

Spidey66 · 10/09/2026 09:15

isitfridayyetttt · 10/09/2026 07:20

I rarely need to poo that bad I can’t wait for an hour or 2 if I’m at someone’s house. How embarrassing and gross to have to do a smelly shit when a dinner guest.

Edited

The delights of IBS. I couldn't wait.

BrezhnevsLuxuriantEyebrows · 10/09/2026 09:16

I can only assume that the people who firmly believe powerful artificial smells to be the solution to natural noxious niffs have never walked within half a mile of the entrance to a Lush shop.

Additup · 10/09/2026 09:17

hotmumshit · 09/09/2026 23:13

Yanbu tbh

Theres this tiktokker who i love and think is amazing, but she refuses to have a toilet brush! I'm like, what if someone (usually a man) has no choice but to poop in your toilet and finds he cant clean it?! 😩😩😩

What am I reading? Why would it be a problem if someone pooed in your loo ? It's what a loo is for. A loo is definitely my place of choice to do a poo.

As for toilet brushes, imo they're nasty and unhygienic imo. I clean the loo with my hand and a tissue/cleaning fluid.

isitfridayyetttt · 10/09/2026 09:19

BrezhnevsLuxuriantEyebrows · 10/09/2026 09:13

Even more efficient, just curl it straight into a metal bucket and then light it and kill it with fire at the source.

stick the match up your bum, no smell at all then

runnerducky · 10/09/2026 09:32

Nothing nicer than hearing someone liberally spray air freshener around thus announcing they have done a rancid shit, then opening the door to the fruity aroma of artificial flowers and pine mixed with faeces. Just give me the shit without the fanfare and without the chemical flowers, it’s all gross. Or stock VIPoo instead. It’s the only thing that actually works (or one of the various alternatives).

NerrSnerr · 10/09/2026 09:33

LuckyTraybake · 09/09/2026 23:14

i totally get this!!

I would not want to use a bathroom for a poo if there was no air freshener!

I don’t think it’s weird at all! More weird to not care if people smell your toilet deposits imo🤣

You know everyone poos right?

Netcurtainnelly · 10/09/2026 09:36

We have air fresher. Thought everyone would. Who wants a shitty smell in the bathroom or toilet . It's kind of nice for the next person not to go in when there's a smell.
Yanbu.

ClearFruit · 10/09/2026 09:40

BMW58 · 09/09/2026 23:12

You are, quite frankly, weird.

FPNI

PramsEar · 10/09/2026 09:40

@HangryBrickShark you asked “I get some people may be affected by asthma but surely if you had asthma you wouldn't use it?”

My asthma is triggered by strong sprays like air freshers. The smell isn’t contained within the bathroom.

Even if I don’t use it, if other people do it still triggers my asthma.

Much rather people open the window, shut the loo lid and close the bathroom door.

BrezhnevsLuxuriantEyebrows · 10/09/2026 09:41

Netcurtainnelly · 10/09/2026 09:36

We have air fresher. Thought everyone would. Who wants a shitty smell in the bathroom or toilet . It's kind of nice for the next person not to go in when there's a smell.
Yanbu.

Do you ever go out in the rain and become utterly astonished when you get wet? Why would anybody be surprised to go into a toilet and find that it smells like a toilet?

If the possibility of encountering a bit of a lingerer in the air bothers people so much, send your butler in first with an industrial hoover.

Tortephant · 10/09/2026 09:44

if your wee is that smelly then you should change your diet or speak to your doctor.

BlackRowan · 10/09/2026 09:48

NerrSnerr · 10/09/2026 09:33

You know everyone poos right?

I know everyone poos but I don’t want to be smelling it

MrsShawnHatosy · 10/09/2026 09:53

Usefuladvice · 09/09/2026 23:14

YABU.
And not to be that person, air fresheners are awful for the environment.

They are not brilliant for people to inhale either. We don’t have one but we do have a window that anyone is welcome to open should they think it necessary.

WaneyEdge · 10/09/2026 09:57

hotmumshit · 09/09/2026 23:13

Yanbu tbh

Theres this tiktokker who i love and think is amazing, but she refuses to have a toilet brush! I'm like, what if someone (usually a man) has no choice but to poop in your toilet and finds he cant clean it?! 😩😩😩

You can get things that fizz and foam up. Like a bath bomb for a toilet. We have them, do still have a loo brush though!

venus7 · 10/09/2026 09:59

Happyjoe · 09/09/2026 23:49

So you use a brush - how do you clean the brush? How do you clean the bacteria in the loo? How do you stop dribbling bits of poopy water all over the seat while you put the brush part back in it's container?

Lift the seat, of course. What do you mean by 'clean the bacteria'. Kill it? You're not drinking it, there will be some bacteria around. The bathroom is not an operating theatre.

backformoreofthesame · 10/09/2026 10:00

Open a window and give your lungs a break
and go and read the research on how all these chemicals are harmful

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 10/09/2026 10:00

grumpygrape · 09/09/2026 23:16

Carry a box of matches with you. Brilliant for neutralising any nasty nifs.

It's like a tip in Vizz but they suggested masking the smell by setting fire to the hand towel Grin

<Don't Try This At Home>

ThisDandyWriter · 10/09/2026 10:01

hotmumshit · 09/09/2026 23:13

Yanbu tbh

Theres this tiktokker who i love and think is amazing, but she refuses to have a toilet brush! I'm like, what if someone (usually a man) has no choice but to poop in your toilet and finds he cant clean it?! 😩😩😩

I would never, ever have a toilet brush, ever.

I think they are the most disgusting and unhygienic things ever.

If there is a skid, someone can use toilet paper to wipe off their own shit from the bowl (or aim better).