To ask if my boyfriend doing this last night is ‘normal’?

[Helenaslide]

I was having a bath last night and he came in and used the loo (no.2). I shouted and asked what he was playing at and he said he has always done this with partners and vice versa as have plenty of people he knows. He stayed for a couple of minutes until he had finished and left laughing.

For context - together 4 months, he was staying at mine last night.

He has said he won’t do it again but I feel a bit humiliated by it tbh.

Oh lord no, he has to go

Who the fuck takes an im in charge poop, that's unhinged

Hahaha - this is exactly what I thought, but I couldn't put it so well 😂

Oh that would give me the major ick, I would absolutely be binning off the relationship for that, how gross! 🤢

No not normal. He is a disgusting animal. No respect. I would bin this one of quick, just ugh.

Can't believe this is news for people! It's the same with urine. I have been with my husband for nearly 30 years, and I have never urinated or pooed in the same room as him, and we used to have one toilet for many years; it's disgusting. I couldn't look at someone the same if they did that to me, and the fact that he chose to do that in a house with 3 loos is unbelievable.

My neighbours do this without a qualm. The subject came up because she said she was sitting talking to her husband while he was in the bath. I said how nice that you keep him company. She said no, she was doing a poo. I said what, while he was in the bath!? She said yes, they both use the toilet even if the other is in the bath.

I can't imagine thinking this is ok. Ever. Well, unless one was really taken short, but then you'd still have a bit of warning to jump out and get a towel. Never happened here though.

I’m married and my husband would never come and use the loo whilst I’m in the bath or shower and vice versa. Sorry I find this totally strange

Been a while since we had a poo thread.

So he did it on purpose! I suppose to see how far he could go.

I voted unreasonable... Then read you had 3 toilets. Gross.

Definitely not normal. 25 years married, and DH and I have never used the toilet in front of each other (apart from one instance, when I was desperately ill in A&E and the poor bloke had to put me on the toilet for a wee.

He's testing your boundaries @Helenaslide

He wants to see what he can get away with, what you'll make excuses for.

Get rid. (Fwiw my domestic abuser father used to have similar power plays around bathroom and toilet access. It's a thing.)

Whether you find it gross or not it appears he was testing your boundaries to see how much of his nonsense you will tolerate. At least you have only wasted 4 months on him.

Like I said, a baboon shitting to mark "his" territory.