Is the trans kids trend over? Aibu to wonder what happened to the kids caught up in it in the 2010s?

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As we know the period from the mid 10s to early 20s has been described as “woke 1” and is apparently “over”.
When I was at secondary school in the 2010s, there were four trans kids in my year group (3 FTMs and one mtf) the one mtf was autistic and in foster care. I was always nice to them and kept my views to myself but I’m wondering what’s going on with them now, they’ve completely dropped off the radar. None of them have social media accounts and no one else I went to school with had heard from them.

My daughter has just entered year 5 and doesn’t know any trans kids or even what one is, my neighbours teenage children don’t know any either and they’re the age I was when four classmates transitioned.

I know there’s a lot of teachers on mumsnet would this be your experience too?

Ive tried googling this but everyone seems to have moved on from it I think there may be a forgotten generation who’s lives have been ruined

I have a friend who is in the heart of it as a professor in a woke US university. He said it has really calmed down in the last couple of years, from having about 8 trans people in a class and lots of pronoun focus, to just one or two trans people.

I just had a look at how David Tennant’s son is now identifying. I always wondered how hard it would be for him to backtrack and just be a ‘boy’ given his parents’ intense focus on him being trans (non-binary) from the age of something like 9. His son is now about 14, has changed his name to something gender neutral, has long hair and fairly feminine clothing (in a Harry Styles type way). So I guess he has found a way through.

My niece (nearly 20), autistic, went through a dilemma for a few years, was she she, they etc. her dress style changed but not masculine. Being autistic, she does mask a lot. So she was simply copying her friends at the time. She is now firmly a she.

My nephew (18), has a MTF friend. I believe they are on medication.

From what I observe around where I live, it seems to be a type of person, if that makes sense. My other nephews (on husbands side) similar age group, not autistic, completely different interests and hobbies. They have no friends that have become trans or non binary.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5566286-ipsos-pride-report-2026

Global report on 'LGBT' has some insights on 'trans'.

The large majority of people who say they are trans identify as non binary. And almost all of them are white.

I'd say that the phase of gender issues being fashionable has passed. Its very boring now, and the BBC's weird drag queen obsession is about as edgy as Benny Hill. Teens mostly eye roll at it.

Unfortunately vulnerable children are still being embroiled in it, well funded organisations like Stonewall, LGBTYS, Gires, Mermaids still exist and rely on maintaining the narrative to keep going.

Plastic surgeons and private healthcare set ups are still making money and its still seen in industry reports as a growth area with considerable profits to be harvested.

Care experienced children, those with abuse histories and ACEs, those with ASDs, and those who will go on to become lesbian and gay adults are still most at risk.

Its not over yet, although it bloody well should be.

I’m a GP. In about 2018-2019 I had about 20 girls all from the same year, same school come to see me as they were “trans” and wanting referral. It was definitely a social phenomenon. I only see one every few months now. Funnily enough the FTM vastly outnumbered the MTF I saw.

Loads of adults querying ADHD now tho, I see an about 8-10 a month.

But not so many new candidates.

Definitely a thing.

Bizarre. And also Scotland which is still more captured than England. Not least bizarre because all children in care homes have their own bedrooms already in England so I can't imagine a scenario where they don't - but please bear in mind the number of looked after children in care homes is very small compared to the wider looked after population.

I'd quite like to live my life with privacy and dignity too, thanks.

Unfortunately people who think you can magically change sex, want to use me to validate their identity. They don't want to 'just pee'. They could do this in third spaces but they go out of their way to protest about this not being acceptable

At this point due to the lack of respect, I have no time for this type of demand and the behaviour demonstrated when the word 'no' is used.

Thank you Arabella.

Yes I agree - but when 25% of a patient list ia made up of a less than one percent segment of children something has gone drastically wrong.

These children have had such adverse childhood experiences and the answer is to render them infertile, harm their sexuality and mutilate their genitals.

Utter madness.

All of my contemporaries with non-binary transgender non-conforming bisexual children and grandchildren have all quietly seen it dropped and life has gone on. Showboating nonsense on the whole.

I was very surprised to meet a 5yo recently on holiday who checked whether my child's pronouns were he or she! I expressed surprise to their parents and they said the child had been taught that at school where they had a few trans classmates! In Reception!

I don't know of any cases like that where I live so I wouldn't be surprised if it's more common in some areas of the country than others.

All of this is very well documented on the feminism board. The one that was set up by MN as a separate "naughty corner" because lots of other MNers didn't want the topic discussed/ didn't want to hear about it. Many of these people wanted concerned and worried parents sharing their experience and knowledge of this dangerous ideology silenced. They even managed to get some of them banned.
This ideology has gained huge traction by silencing, threatening and cancelling people who speak up.
Go over and read.

Fascinating thread OP. Thank you.
The positive news is that the new KCSIE safeguarding guidance mentioned upthread & the DfE guidance on Sex / Relationships and Health Ed bring to an end the opportunities for trans lobby groups to gaslight children that their bodies can be wrong but a sex change will "cure" that.
Children must no longer be taught that that gender identity is a fact and SRHE must be factual and age appropriate with resources shared with parents.

"Schools should avoid language and activities which repeat or enforce gender stereotypes. Schools should be mindful to avoid any suggestion that social transition is a simple solution to feelings of distress or discomfort"

There's been concern for many years about the "school to gender clinic" pipeline with some schools handing over this area to activist teachers and lobby groups (who've earned a lot of money from this). That should come to an end and in the small minority of schools who still push this, parents finally have legislation and guidance to challenge them.

The children caught up in all this in the last decade are highly vulnerable with the data showing that they have countless other challenges - eating disorders, anxiety, self harm and ND. It's been unforgivable that we've failed to safeguard this vulnerable group but hopefully this will change with schools being compelled to prioritise safeguarding rather than promoting gender identity.

Link to the guidance if anyone wants to bookmark it

https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/6970e7e67e827090d02d42e0/Relationships_education_relationships_and_sex_education__RSE__and_health_education__for_intro_1_September_2026_.pdf

100% agree with that, I'm a social worker and I see the impact of neglect and abuse on children and of course those who were sexually abused as children want to transition to be 'safe', or those who were emotionally abused and have zero self esteem want to change themselves to a whole new person, or are simply more vulnerable to grooming because they are sad, neglected and overlooked. Add to that the higher numbers of autistic teens both identifying as trans and coming into care as teens there is another demographic impact. The lack of questions being asked by those in charge about what this data means is shocking.

You know this is not ok and honestly the school could well fall foul of being accused of pushing ideology with changes to guidance.

Five year olds should understand sex. Its not something you can just pretend.

Yes.
A thing.
Like the number of people who are chronically ill has increased since covid.
People diagnosed with POTS, a ‘side effect’ of catching covid. Which makes people feel dizzy, faint etc… (die to an inability to regulate blood pressure and HR btw)
The same POTS that can make you walk like you were drunk (loosing balance).
Yep, that must just be a trend. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Oh btw, if you need mobility aid, esp as a young person, can you explain why it can’t be decorated? Colourful? Why it has to be gray, sad looking and associated with being elderly?

That is not a new trend unfortunately. It’s pure ableism.

My current horror are these ‘pray away the gay’ bills coming in across England and Wales and Northern Ireland.

It’s free rein to ‘trans away the gay’.

The bills say gender identity is whatever you say it is (so xenogender, genderfluid inc) and the only way not to be a criminal is to affirm.

So they introduced gender ideology as settled law and also criminalise people who may actually care about the children and do watchful waiting.

The real harm of trans is when it becomes mediclaised and the harm is irreversible. Yet that is not going to be addressed in the legislation.

My friend’s youngster is FTM, turned 18 yesterday and has been on the hormones around 6 months.

But I haven’t worked in a school since 2013. However, I have been working in Child Services the last 2 years, and the number of Trans kids seems disproportionately high to gen pop.

I have a Ftm, born in 1999, 6ft 3, size 12 feet. Went through psychological counselling before any treatment. Receding hairline the same as his 4 brothers. It's not an easy journey & certainly not a tad for the majority.

OP, for those of us who have had family members caught up in this, to the extent of having surgery, drugs, and a full rewrite of their entire childhood (although I refuse to agree that my sister-in-law gave birth to a boy because I was there in the first few days, and I helped to change, feed, bathe, and love a baby girl), unfortunately, this will never be over.

What my niece has now are all the mental health problems, autism, and lesbian-denial issues she had previously, plus now probably irreversible physical health problems due to the ruination this "trend" has made of her body. And, yes, she is still occasionally suicidal.

And we as a family can no longer discuss anything around this because her parents' guilt prevents them from seeing what they have allowed. They will never admit they were wrong, and their daughter's life has been ruined.

What a great result! 🙄

So, although it looks as though the trend for younger children may be waning, there are still plenty of older (young) people who are dealing with the fallout. And plenty of adults who should know better (and do) who are still going along with this horrible "trend."

So, as @ArabellaScott says
Its not over yet, although it bloody well should be.

They grew up and realised that if they wanted to eat and have a roof over their heads they needed a job and would have to ditch the navel gazing.

Or they’re still living with mum and dad in their childhood bedroom and still insisting on being called whatever is their pronoun du jour, wondering why they can’t get a job.

I wasn’t aware of the walking sticks fad. I laughed at first and then was a bit torn. I’m all for destigmatising aids for hearing, mobility etc. But having looked at Reddit, find it really odd to find someone young describing their walking stick as a ‘cool way of accessorising’, though they say they do actually need it. I wonder how many actually need their stick though or will just find that they amazingly don’t need it any more in a couple of years when that fad passes.

TBH I am wondering how long it will be before one of the scolders comes along to demand that this thread is moved to said naughty corner.

I know two junior school children, mtf, who are being ‘transed’ by their Mothers, one is only five. Both of these Morhers ( two different mothers of two different families) have always been enthusiastic and vocal trans advocates and lo, they both have trans kids. So there will still be this cohort of kids who are transed by their indoctrinated Mothers.