Is the trans kids trend over? Aibu to wonder what happened to the kids caught up in it in the 2010s?

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As we know the period from the mid 10s to early 20s has been described as “woke 1” and is apparently “over”.
When I was at secondary school in the 2010s, there were four trans kids in my year group (3 FTMs and one mtf) the one mtf was autistic and in foster care. I was always nice to them and kept my views to myself but I’m wondering what’s going on with them now, they’ve completely dropped off the radar. None of them have social media accounts and no one else I went to school with had heard from them.

My daughter has just entered year 5 and doesn’t know any trans kids or even what one is, my neighbours teenage children don’t know any either and they’re the age I was when four classmates transitioned.

I know there’s a lot of teachers on mumsnet would this be your experience too?

Ive tried googling this but everyone seems to have moved on from it I think there may be a forgotten generation who’s lives have been ruined

It's all walking sticks and ADHD now.

There will be an enquiry about the medical ethics of this. Cosmetic medical and surgical intervention for minors should never be approved. People can't get tattoos until they are 18 FFS.

Both of mine went through some gender questioning. They went to secondary in 2019 and 2021 respectively.

The youngest took it to the extent that she gave me a letter saying she wanted us to talk about us calling her by a boys name.

I didn’t give an emotional reaction at all just said sure let me know when you’re ready to talk. I almost felt as though I was being offered a role of the reactionary parent and then she could push back against that and all the teachers could make me the bad guy (woke school).

Without that reaction it just kind of fizzled out. She is now the most feminine, clothes interested girl you could imagine and she’s also been diagnosed with autism which gives me insight into why she might have been so prone to outside influence.

Totally agree.

My dc is in this generation.

of her friend group, those who changed names and became non binary have stuck to the changed names.

nobody did any physical transition so can’t comment on that.

we went to our local pride last month and there were a few trans people around. There’s a pub night for them in my local town.

My kids are very early 20s and ime queer and non-binary are more common now. The latter seems more popular with girls in particular although this might be a reflection on my children’s friend choices.

Not really the point of the thread but you must have been very young when you had your dd according to your dates.

I was a teacher by the 2010s and never had any trans students then - it was more in the early 2020s.

Walking sticks, what do you mean?

The wave seems (unsurprisingly) to be coming through a bit later in the university context. I didn't really notice it till after 2020 and it hasn't ended yet.

Young women and teenagers are using walking sticks. It’s a bit of a thing.

In the UK it was always predominantly white, middle class kids in more affluent areas. I have been hearing about the trend for teenagers with walking sticks though have yet to actually see it.

Yeah I was 16. Probably why I’m interested in this particular subject because I saw with my own eyes young kids transitioning and then had a child myself I was actually irrationally worried about it back at the peak when there were stories about kids being taken into care because their parents weren’t affirming their identity.

Seems incredibly silly now as the whole trend has fell off a cliff from what I can see

Not heard or seen this locally.

I’ve actually noticed a few young people with diamond encrusted walking sticks and with toys attached to them, assumed they had issues with their legs. You’re telling me that’s a thing now?

Adhd was pretty big even when I was at school though

AFAIK, women who take cross sex hormones go through early menopause which can include loss of bone density and mobility issues so they use walking sticks.

I think using one is the new version of blue hair to show you are a trans/ pronouns/queer ally type person.

I believe it’s moved more into the non-binary space…?!
The Pathways “clinical trial” has been used to approve the reinstatement of puberty blockers after Wes Streeting used emergency legislation powers to ban puberty blockers after the Cass review. For eg they want to counsel 8 year old boys on preserving sperm and yet they won’t be sexually mature then or able to produce samples to preserve. It’s very concerning on a wider basis. Meanwhile, the DSM on psychiatric disorders has re designated all of this as “sexual health” because the lobby groups didn’t want it to be a “disorder” anymore but most definitely did want NHS money to get stuff done on taxpayer funding so had to keep it in…intellectually seems quite dishonest. Look up Pathways.

WHAT!!!!!!!!

It’s a trend, like others; albeit a more dangerous and damaging one than most.

Most of them would never have had the idea to do this had one or more of their peers not been doing it. And yes I do think there is often a ND element.

One of my DDs (autistic) wanted to bind her chest as a teen; another (recently diagnosed with ADHD at age 30) is now queer and non-binary, having been (apparently happily) female up till recently. Meeting and having a relationship with a trans-man-turned-non-binary person changed this.
I’ve met two of her friends who have had some surgery. They’re lovely people. I hope they have no regrets.

Yes the new fad is to be non-binary.

But that may not be universal experience. Just something you decided to focus on to prove your point.
My school friend in the 90s was (is) trans. Yea, his hairline is receding but he is currently an officer in the reserve army, works in cyber security, runs a small business, travels the world, takes part in the mud runner annually and has a very happy marriage.

To give the other end of the timeline, I was teaching through the whole of the noughties. My last couple of years were in a very left-wing area, not far from a famous clinic. If it was going to happen anywhere, it would have been there! I was in a senior position so aware of issues across the school and coming into contact with teachers from other schools. Not once did I hear about, see or come across a child who was questioning their gender identity. It just never, ever came up.

I believe that gender-questioning in children does genuinely exist but is a very, very rare phenomenon and that the spike in cases was all due to social contagion in the 2010s and onwards, possibly following the CBBC ‘I am Leo’ documentary in 2014. The phenomenon was then enabled by schools being more aware of the need for equalities policies following the Equality Act 2010 (which I think was a good thing btw).

I am also old enough to remember the ‘multiple personalities’ wave of the late nineties and early noughties, that was strange…

Wondered what had happened to them. The dad was very odd.

Using sticks as though they have a physical disability or difficulty walking without one. I saw this recently visiting dc at university, the ones I saw were young men, in feminine clothes, all with walking sticks, I was surprised as I saw three in one day, it’s apparently a general trend.

I read a pretty crazy statistic this week that stopped me in my tracks.

At the Tavistock clinic 25% of their kids were ‘care experienced’. (This is a few years ago)

The rate of care experienced kids in the general population - 0.67%.

Now it’s being reported that if a child in care identifies as trans they should get their own room or animal. So of course if kids with nothing have an incentive for space or love why not access it? It’s unbelievable.

If 25% of kids with red hair became trans they’d be carrying out genetic studies - but if it comes from adverse childhood experiences we should celebrate it???

It ruined things for my child... diagnosed with autism but was sent a chest binder secretly from Mermaids. My child is still somewhat fixated on this. The school encouraged this massively and decided to call my child by another name without informing me or even asking for my consent. Caused enormous issues at home as a result.