AIBU to say my mum cannot choose carers by gender?

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My mum is almost 80 and has been in hospital with a UTI.
She lives on her own and has been very confused, she's on the waiting list for the memory clinic and was sent home with carers going in 4 times a day to help with medication and meals.
She wants me to tell the care company that she won't allow any male carers to go in.
I've reassured her that they will do the same as female ones but she won't have it and is currently ringing everyone in the family complaining about it.

So AIBU to say she can't choose the gender of the carers?

My Husbands Grandmother had carers in towards the end of her life, for all personal care and general assistance she had female carers and would have found it very distressing if a man had tried to help her.
The agency were aware of the request and facilitated it, your Mum isn’t being unreasonable at all.
Edited
Just seen that you’ve managed to speak to the care company, hopefully your mum will feel reassured .

I stand corrected, I was concerned men in dresses would have rights.

Her choice. Why impose an arrangement she would feel uncomfortable with?

This is one of the most unpleasant aspects of all this. That elderly people, teenagers and the rest of society have been coerced and bullied into believing that it's unacceptable to want same sex care, same sex spaces when undressing or on a hospital ward.
It's been great to see so many posters stating clearly that of course it's acceptable for an 80 year old woman to ask for same sex care. As it is for the rest of us. Thanks OP for the thread.

Gender, no. Sex, yes
I can completely understand why an elderly lady living alone wouldn't want to have a strange man coming in to her house
YABU

I used to be a nurse and referred people for care packages. One of the questions was if they preferred same sex carers where possible. Your mum is being completely reasonable.

If she needs or wants the care she will have to put up with whoever arrives.

Assuming you refer to sex, then yes, you are entirely unreasonable.
Poor old sausage; what a ghastly thing to have to contemplate at her age, if she has made clear that she wouldn’t be comfortable with a man tending to her.
We all know great doctors can be male of course, but we also use sex-blindness spectacles for certain essential encounters!
But in one’s own home, amid her private environment and with her vulnerable privacy obsessing her, it’d put her on (more?) tablets in a week.
In old age we can let single cares assume vast proportions and consume us, gnaw at us, and it wastes what time we have left in pointless anguish.

YABVVVVU