AIBU to be disturbed by comments excusing abuse of boys?

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Every time there’s a news report posted on SM regarding a female paedophile abusing teenage and young boys. There seems to be an ever growing amount of men replying with ‘lucky boy’, ‘I bet they weren’t complaining’, I wish she was my teacher/stepmother’ etc etc.
I’m absolutely grossed out by it and find it horrifying that there are so many men out there that think this is acceptable. It makes me feel physically sick to think how many there are out there and honestly scares me 😵‍💫

You’re right. It’s disgusting and the toll it took on the two now men in question was enormous and very long lasting. I feel for them terribly.

You're not being unreasonable. I read one blurb talking about a woman 'grooming and seducing' young boys. No, grooming and sexually abusing, same as if it had been men doing it to young girls.

Mrs Robinson is often mentioned. Without acknowledging Dustin Hoffman was a graduate, i.e., an adult. So not comparable in any sense.

Where are you reading these comments OP?
I read news stories from news sources such as newspaper websites or the BBC or similar. I can't envisage using any news source where such disgusting comments are posted .

Which comments OP?

Abuse is abuse regardless of the sex of the perpetrators. The terrible effects on victims lives with them their whole lives. It’s just awful.

It’s appalling. But there are always people who excuse/justify it. There are also always people who use it as a “women are just as bad as men” argument to minimise the overwhelming majority of abusers who are men.

There's a Tortoise Investigates podcast about Sally-Ann Bowen. It's called Lucky Boy because that's what the men who were abused as children were told over and again when they realised that the "relationship" was abusive. It's a horrible idea that young men and boys just want to shag and can't be exploited or groomed. The men who spoke yo are clearly very distressed by what happened to them

Yeah – Benjamin, having graduated from an American college, would be around 22.

YANBU, OP. I do want to note, though, as someone who’s spent the past few years studying child sex abuse, that female teachers who sexually target teenage boys are usually what’s called situational abusers, as opposed to actual pedophiles, who have a preference for prepubescent (not adolescent) children. They target teenage boys because that’s who’s available to them, not because their ideal sexual partners are teenage boys.