AIBU sleeping arrangement

[strawberrylemons]

I’m visiting my parents this weekend, as are my 2 sisters (we’re all adults 23,29 and 32). I’m bringing my husband, sisters are going alone. I’m currently 19 weeks pregnant with twins, this is relevant.
all the bedrooms have a single bed in them, prior to pregnancy id just share with my husband and we’d have a bad nights sleep but get over it. Now im pregnant sleeping is a bit more uncomfortable and I need a pillow under my belly etc. so someone has to sleep on the sofa. I can’t make hubby sleep on the sofa because the living room is the walk way through to the kitchen so he’d have no privacy. So the options are for pregnant me or my sisters to go on the sofa. I’ve asked both my sisters if they’d give their bed up for me, they’ve both said no. My one sister even had a tantrum over it and said she just won’t visit if I’m going to take “her” bed (bear in mind she hasn’t lived at my parents house for 7 years).
I’m feeling a little disappointed in my sisters and that they wouldn’t let their pregnant sister have a bed for a weekend. My parents have offered their bed to my husband and I as a result but it doesn’t seem fair as they are both older and need the bed too.
Am I being unreasonable expecting someone to give up a bed for me? I would never ask at any other time in my life, it’s just one weekend during my pregnancy.

OP can afford - she just doesn't want too/ see why she should hence the martyring I'll sleep on the sofa behaviour

If everyone including him is happy for him to take the sofa then I don't see what the issue is. You don't think it's appropriate but neither he nor the hosts mind so it's fine.

But if that's not possible, and a tent's not possible, and a hotel's not possible... then I guess you'll need to stay home.

I read it as being the sister's wedding?

surely your husband is no longer a guest but part of the family at this point? So him on the sofa is no different than one of your sisters? In fact I think my husband would insist that he was on the sofa and the girls in the rooms. If anyone wakes him up in the morning I’m sure he can squeeze in with you for an hour or so! Let me guess your the first sister to be pregnant???

Just get a small airbed - the sort that you use for camping. There are ones that are 70 cms wide. you can't tell me that the room is less than that - especially if the original room was wide enough to warrant 2 windows and your parents followed building regs when getting the partition done. Even if you both have to launch yourselves into the beds like you are playing Jenga if will solve the issues....

Bring a blow up mattress for the husband.

I don’t understand how the rooms fit camping beds but not a single inflatable mattress.

Mmm. You started this thread, and you said it was impossible for your husband to sleep for a few nights on a sofa bed in a house owned by his inlaws who he must know quite well, and that there is no solution except for your sister to give up her room and she's being mean not to. And now you are saying that other posters are being silly to get so invested in it when you're absolutely fine. This is getting a bit convoluted.

OP's parents are not happy for him to sleep on the sofa, and I don't think anyone has actually asked DH what he thinks.

You don’t need a bed, you have one! It’s your DH that needs it, stop framing it as you’re being refused a bed!

I couldn't be arsed with all the hassle.
Just go a different time?
Your sisters dont sound that nice anyway, focus on your little family.

I mean, either way

im not putting my husband above them in anyway, I’m just trying to make sure he feels welcome and has a private space

But you are @strawberrylemons .

You are unilaterally making a decision about your husband with no respect for anyone else in your family.

Why does your DH deserve a private space but one of your sisters doesn't?

Why is it your decision about what makes your DH "welcome"?

Let’s not forget the sisters are also travelling to see a very ill relative so it’s not unreasonable of them to want to sleep in a bed and get as much sleep as possible is it? I wouldn’t give up a bed for an able bodied adult in the same situation

I would leave your DH at home and go and see your parents and sisters alone. This sounds like the most easier option, other than a cheap hotel room.

Just take a single airbed and share a room with your husband

OP's parents live in a paradox

Or book a premier inn 🤷🏽‍♀️

If only the parents are hosts then all the sisters are guests and couldn't possibly sleep on the sofa.
If the sisters are hosts too then they should get equal say in how they host.

OP has created a weird "guest" rule that means she should get what she wants. Her sister's shouldn't question it because they aren't hosts, but also can't avail of it because they aren't guests.

OPs creation and implementation of this rule puts her in position of host though.

Why dont you just go seen as though no other partners are?
Make it a family thing?

i would put husband on the sofa, or probably what I’d do is bring a single airbed/self inflating mattress for him. And he can just sleep on the floor in my room.
i wouldn’t ask anyone else to give up their bed in this situation.

How bad is the sofa to sleep on? I sleep on ours a couple of times most weeks due to health issues and its quite comfortable.
Would it be any worse than sleeping in a single bed for you?
Is your childhood bed really that much better?

I think OP's post is less about logistics and more about the dynamics in the sibling relationship. This is just the sort of petty squabble siblings live for 🤣🤣

There’s a really simple solution your husband doesn’t go. Unless you’re about to pop why does he need to go when your sisters are going on own.

another simple solution buy a blow up bed for the weekend and put it in your bedroom for him to sleep on.

Or he sleeps in living room.your all family he don’t need privacy for a weekend. Just make sure he’s got some pjs.

All right, job's fucked. She'll have to stay home.