AIBU sleeping arrangement

[strawberrylemons]

I’m visiting my parents this weekend, as are my 2 sisters (we’re all adults 23,29 and 32). I’m bringing my husband, sisters are going alone. I’m currently 19 weeks pregnant with twins, this is relevant.
all the bedrooms have a single bed in them, prior to pregnancy id just share with my husband and we’d have a bad nights sleep but get over it. Now im pregnant sleeping is a bit more uncomfortable and I need a pillow under my belly etc. so someone has to sleep on the sofa. I can’t make hubby sleep on the sofa because the living room is the walk way through to the kitchen so he’d have no privacy. So the options are for pregnant me or my sisters to go on the sofa. I’ve asked both my sisters if they’d give their bed up for me, they’ve both said no. My one sister even had a tantrum over it and said she just won’t visit if I’m going to take “her” bed (bear in mind she hasn’t lived at my parents house for 7 years).
I’m feeling a little disappointed in my sisters and that they wouldn’t let their pregnant sister have a bed for a weekend. My parents have offered their bed to my husband and I as a result but it doesn’t seem fair as they are both older and need the bed too.
Am I being unreasonable expecting someone to give up a bed for me? I would never ask at any other time in my life, it’s just one weekend during my pregnancy.

She has a bed though, so that's not the question. She keeps saying it is, but it isn’t. It’s her husband who doesn’t have a bed.

Since when do they have a sofa bed? OP mothering her husband doesn’t mean he’s a nightmare, he doesn’t even no what’s going on

How are you going to afford twins then?

So your shocked people think she’s unreasonable for saying her husband can’t sleep on the sofa…. But then you’ve just said he should sleep on the sofa?

Why can't your husband sleep on the sofa, floor or mattress. It's not your sisters' faults that there isn't room fir you and dh to share.

Try reading the replies, she’s answered this about 4 times.

There comes a point in life where staying in your childhood bedroom doesn’t work anymore. You have reached that point.

You have to start budgeting for hotels.

Even a typical box room would fit a single air mattress on the floor. It’s abnormal that out of 3 rooms this couldn’t be accommodated.

Haven't read anything else yet, but came here to say something like this. Everyone sleeps in their old rooms. As no rooms have a double bed yet, husband sleeps on the floor of yours. Mattress/cushions/airbed whatever.

I'm assuming it was a 2/3 bed bungalow and they put stud walls in. Which is why it's mad to try and squeeze in 6 adults and several dogs.

Wait what? What happened to “but the family will get up in the morning to let dogs out etc”? How many dogs are there going to be in the house, or are the dogs that “the family” were going to have to get up early to let out actually his???

In which case where’s the problem? Let him sleep on the sofa, dogs nearby (bedrooms all being tiny) or if you really insist, have them in your room, then you can either let them out and they’ll go downstairs themselves- or absolute worst case you take them down then go back to bed - and he lets them out?

What on earth is the issue there? Or does your “esteemed guest service” extend to kennelling for the guest’s dogs as well?

Op I have to agree with many posters on here that you are BU. You keep insisting that your dh cannot sleep on the couch due to privacy but where is your sisters privacy? You and your dh would be taking up 2 bedrooms, where is your sister meant to get dressed, leave her bags have some personal space during the day if your dh has taken her bedroom? That's the difference in my opinion. If your dh sleeps on the sofa he still has a bedroom he can go to, yours! He can have a quick nap there if he didn't sleep well on the sofa, he can go there once everyone is up and using the communal space. He can go there for quiet space if everyone is still up and chatting. It is completely unreasonable that you and your dh would commandeer two of the bedrooms leaving only a sofa for your sister.

I just don’t think your sisters should have to give up their rooms for your husband because you’re pregnant.
I’ve been pregnant twice and would never of expected my siblings to do this.
Get a bloody hotel and stop moaning!

It doesn't even have to be single bed sized.

Sharing a 90cm bed means that even a 50-60cm width space on the floor with cushions gives him more personal space than sharing the bed with a pregnant OP. I've actually shifted to a sofa from a double air mattress many times before when sharing with my husband because it was more comfortable.

I find it hard to imagine three single bedrooms without 60cm*180cm floor space.

this seems ridiculous, your husband can take the sofa

Just ask your husband to sleep with one of your sisters. Problem solved.

OP it sounds like you might get there and when your DH realises you’re on the sofa he might insist he sleeps there instead?

I think OP's parents should convert one (or more) or the rooms along the style of one of those Japanese capsule hotels. They could have different sized pods to completely utilise the space. That way, one of the small bedrooms could be used to accommodate 3 adults, 6 children and at least 4 dogs.

Exactly. A camping mat would fit. But i think the floor space is reserved for the dogs.

😂

Problem solved

Don't go then - what's the problem? Go another weekend.

You've had every possible solution suggested and if none are possible - don't go - or husband stays at home. It's not rocket science or the end of the world is it?

Slightly insensitive given the very unwell family member

If you're all in this much of a pickle over sleeping arrangements already, what on earth are you all going to do once the twins are born?!

Your husband stops being a wet blanket and sleeps on the sofa, obviously. If he's too precious to do that, then book a hotel room. It's really not OK to kick one of your sisters out of their rooms because your husband is being pathetic.