People have started being nicer to me since I started hrt - aibu to think it's related?

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Like I must be exuding some pro social pheromones as a result

I am certain it's not because my behaviour or confidence have changed

Scrolls back up to change my vote 😳
I thought this was supposed to be a light-hearted, sarcastic thread about our changing hormones, but then I realised it was probably rage bait a back handed way to attack women. Either that or an astonishing lack of self awareness.

You can choose your behaviours, always.

I don't agree. Some times your emotional state comes out in ways you can't hide.

If I'm in a bad mood, I develop what DD coined "the tone". I can have woken up in a bad mood about something completely inconsequential, know it's something inconsequential and that it's completely stupid, and be actively trying to not be in a bad mood about it, and yet "the tone" still gives me away and I get a "Whats wrong" from either DP or DD the moment I open my mouth to say "Shall I make a cup of tea". It's the first thing I've said that day, I've literally only just walked into the same room as them, and they've picked up on it within a sentance.

It's the same with DP. I can walk into the house after work and know she woke up with a migraine that morning, even though its been gone since lunchtime. Theres a little frown that she gets on migraine days, that doesn't disappear until the next day.

We give off a million little unconscious cues all the time that betray our emotional state. The people who know us best are best able to read them, no matter how hard we try to hide them.

Maybe you should increase the dose 👀

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It was light hearted but I am not going to just yeah yeah yeah suggestions that I can't control myself and can't understand my own behaviour. I know the average iq is only 100 but surely most women here are intelligent enough to manage themselves.

It is not in fact feminist to insist that female midlife is unavoidably about helpless languishing in immature and selfish tantrums

I do know what total despair feels like but it has never been my family's duty to just put up with "her moods".

I’m dying for something to help me with the abject misery that is perimenopause. I have just requested a doctors appointment and got one for 6th October 😭 😭 😭

People give back what you give them. I’ve been around call centres for years and the people who are genuinely lovely rarely get the ‘I want to speak to a manager’ calls. The sour faced misery always gets the ranty shouter.

HRT has made you more tolerant and nice.

Either you are being nicer to them or you are doing less overthinking and not noticing every little slight.

HRT improves the mood. You’re probably easier to relate to.

@Millytante theres lots of evidence now that starting HRT at any later age can bring a wealth of benefits - especially genitourinary but loads of others too - bones, digestion, mood - find yourself a menopause specialist GP and give it a go!

Aw, I think it’s so lovely and considerate of your hormones to have consulted with your IQ before deciding how to proceed with the process of perimenopause. Human biology will be delighted to learn it has been defeated by your superior intellect 😂

You clearly were a bit of an arsehole without realising, which is much worse than those of us who are self aware and try to be nice regardless :)

Surely if you have no uterus you're simply menopausal??

I’ve got a couple of mates who I wish would take hrt. They’ve become very negative in the last year or so. Can’t say that out loud tho!

An almost....perimenopausal grouchiness and lack of tolerance, one might say!

Lol, aren't you a delight?! Now attacking people's IQ. How lovely.

You don't seem to understand what causes menopause so I would suggest checking your self confidence in this whole area tbh.