don’t want to do back to school at all

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im dreading back to school

ds14 had issues last year with his behaviour and he got the most behaviour points in his year. he did calm down by the end of the year and he dropped classes he didn’t enjoy and is now staring his gcse options but he will have new teachers who dont know him and i worry they will be stricter compared to his other ones who probs did let him get away with stuff bt the end of the year as they knew him and knew he had turned most stuff around

ds11 is autistic and starting the same school with no ehcp which i need to sort and im stressed last year he constantly had a new senco starting and they werent much help they kept mentioning the ehcp process but it was never started i dont think and i worry how he will be in a big school he will also have to travel with his older brother on the bus which is another worry but i cant do it everyday and i dont drive either and he was also wetting hinself last year i think he was too scared to ask for the toilet as he had a new teacher after 2 yrs and i dont know what year 7 will be like

ds5 has no sen but he had issues last year with his behaviour he was biting and wouldn’t sit still on the carpet or listen and now year 1 is more serious than reception he won’t get away with it’s his first year in school

eldest is fine but is starting a new course because he didn’t enjoy his other ones and it’s health and social care and he will need a work placement and i think we have to do it

i’m overwhelmed with everything plus trying to apply for DLA and look after baby i just want to take my ds11 out of school but i know he will be best in school but will he if he has issues and is bullied he’s already anxious about staring as it is as he doesn’t want to go to a new school and he’s barely been sleeping because of it or eating

this is just the short version too

This is a lot for you to be thinking about, with a new baby as well.
Are these things you can discuss with your partner (although I appreciate he is not the older boy's Dad).
The eldest is old enough to look into what type of health and social care setting he might like a placement within. Get him to do the leg work, then maybe you can support him with getting in touch with places when he is back. College can also offer guidance.
The 2nd eldest would probably benefit from slightly stricter teachers, as something needs to change, especially where he may have been allowed to get away with a bit too much last year.
For the lad starting Year 7, I can fully appreciate how daunting this is (I'm AuDHD, as are my DC, as are my teen nephews!), but all you can do is support him as best you can - as only you know how - in preparing for this imminent transition.
Regarding the EHCP, email the school as soon as you can to requuest a date for a meeting with the SENCo. They get booked up really quickly.
You can actually apply for an EHCNA yourself, but you may prefer the school to do it. You're welcome to message me, if you need someone to talk to about the process.
Re: the bitey one (your 2nd youngest), just chill around this as much as is humanly possibly and just see how the move from YR to Y1 goes. My wild child (a girl, AuDHD, with very challenging behaviour) calmed right down once in Year 1 as a) she was being stretched more in her learning and b) the teacher understood her better.
Any worries, you can speak to the school if and when issues arise.
You're handling a lot and I suspect you are doing too much of the mental load on your own.
5 lads is a lot for one person to support (albeit one a babe in arms).
MN is not always the most empathetic place, but as I said, you are welcome to message me (long time user on a new account).
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