DH's attire on family holiday

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Just looking for some opinions as I don't know if I'm being weird about this!

On a big extended family holiday, all staying in the same house with aunts/ uncles/ cousins/ kids etc that we don't see that often.

DH (late 40's if relevant) is walking around in just the shorts he slept in in the morning whilst he is sorting out our toddler's breakfast etc. No one else seems to be doing this, everyone else is wearing t-shirts.

Is this OK/ normal?

It is warm, and I don't want to tell him to cover up if I'm just being a bit weird and prudish about it.

At the same time, I'm hoping people aren't looking at him and wondering why he's wearing only his sleep shorts from like 6.30-9am, socialising, playing with the kids etc, so it's not just popping down for a coffee. He's unshowered, messy hair etc.

YABU - It's fine, chill out, it's family (even though extended family we don't see)
YANBU - he should cover up like everyone else

Omg I thought you were going to say he was walking round the house with budgie smuggler style pants on.

The shorts sound fine, and if his body is toned and attractive then no tshirt required.

But no one wants to see someone in budgie smugglers with a hairy pregnant man belly.

Unsure about what, though?! What do you think the issue might actually be?

I would expect my partner to wear a tshirt and shorts, when he is with extended family. I wouldn't like to see another man half naked and therefore, would expect my partner to show similar decency.

If it’s his family and they’re proper shorts then it’s absolutely fine.

We were at a campsite in France where all the cabins on our little cul-de-sac faced each other.

French and German men seem to have no issue wondering around their verandahs in nothing but boxers in front of complete strangers first thing on a morning.

Its not your body so why do you need to think for him? If he is not bothered why do you need to be?

I've just smiled at remembering my (very fit, tanned and sporty) dad used to wander around the house with no top on quite a bit when it was warm (though usually in trousers, perhaps proper shorts in summer) and my grandad (Mum's dad) used to harrumph about it as he thought it was a bit common.

His body, his shorts, his family, don’t give it another thought and enjoy yourself!

Erm, what would you say if I asked AIBU about girls on the streets in bra tops and tight gym pants?

Or would that display be acceptable?

Of course its fine, he's around his own family and should be able to wear what he pleases.

People wear more revealing clothing around strangers.

Does your toddler sleep in on holiday?

if his body is toned and attractive then no tshirt required.

You are joking, I hope

Would it be called body shaming?

I can see why going around shirtless might potentially seem a little de trop; but if he's really feeling the heat, there's no middle ground for men when it comes to tops. Women can wear all manner and sizes of tops, whether full or minimal coverage or anywhere in between; but for men, the choices are either t-shirt or no t-shirt.

Top on for food IMO. If his sleep shorts are shorts not underwear id have no issue with a used tshirt over the top.

You're worried about him walking around the house with his top off? It's hardly revealing. Why are you so worried?

He's up early, he's sorting out breakfast for the toddler, he's playing with the kids.... He could do that with a g-string on, more impressed with him being a hands on dad!

I think we're missing the bigger picture here.

A man has put his children first. He has taken care of their needs before sorting himself out.

This is a relatively rare occurrence. Who cares what he's got on!

When my DH wears cotton/jersey type PJ shorts, there is a lot of…ahem…obvious movement and outline. Perhaps that’s just my DH but I’d be asking him to cover up 😂

That’s quite a low bar!

Tops should always be worn in a kitchen or around food generally. IMHO.

Ugh, I'm with you OP, I hate topless men, whatever the physique! Especially if it involves some sort of meal time, I don't care if I'm a prude, I don't want to see a mans bosom, chiselled or otherwise unless it is on a beach, by a pool or in bed. Imagine if all the women in the house walked around topless for 3 hours in the morning?! My husband is always walking around topless after exercise and our son copies him. They are not allowed at the dinner table topless.

My husband wears jersey type boxer briefs and his schlong is extremely apparent. If this is the case, it’s a bit inappropriate in company.

Bare top is fine unless he’s parading around a giant gut. In which case, put on a shirt.

Not if you're making hamburgers and don't have a press. Most holiday lets don't.

In this scenario armpits are a perfectly good substitute - as long as one shaves.

I think this is fine but of course everyone here is looking through the lens of how their own households are. We always wandered around in our underwear.

I remember a friend's dad nearly combusting when I arrived to the breakfast table as a teenager in pyjamas. I thought this was perfectly fine. I still get embarrassed thinking about it.

If they are his family they wouldn't be shy telling him if they objected?