Aibu to think boyfriend was with his brothers girlfriend?

[erinS93]

So does anyone else find this odd? I’ve been with my partner a year. And I haven’t met his brother. He told me a story of how they randomly stopped speakin and don’t even have each other on any social media anymore and how they where really really close etc. my boyfriend told me he is nearly sure his brother slept with his ex wife. (My boyfriend and his ex wife have been split for 3 years) he told me how they used to go out all the time and there was one time he seen a picture of his ex’s boobs in his brothers phone. So he said she obviously sent the brother that. But then I’m over thinking that the reason that they don’t speak is something to do with my boyfriend sleeping with his brothers girlfriend? He maybe done it on badness if he thinks he was with his ex wife. Aibu to overthink this? Aibu

without any evidence im not sure how you could reach that conclusion. You could always ask his brother though

Why do you think he's done that?

Does it matter?

Eh?

Your boyfriends brother maybe slept with your boyfriends now ex wife and you think that your boyfriend slept with his brothers girlfriend as retaliation?

Sounds exciting!

Isn't it more likely the brother slept with his wife? There's nothing there to say your partner slept with his GF.

So you think he is deflecting because he was the one who actually did the dirty, à la Bridget Jones? That’s quite a reach but you clearly don’t trust your boyfriend to be honest, do you trust him in other areas?

What is it about your brother than makes you think he's a liar and a cheat?

No, you're being mental. There nothing suggesting the massive leap you've taken.

You must have been treated really poorly previously for you to turn this around to your boyfriend being a cheater.

Or this isn’t the full story.

YABU because you haven’t given a single shred of detail that could possibly indicate this happened. Unless you have forgotten to add the crucial detail I think probably your boyfriend hasn’t done anything wrong. That said, if you really have just imagined up an entire reverse with zero cause to do so you probably need to end the relationship.

You are going to need to explain how you got to that conclusion I'd you want any useful advice...

Cos the info you have given is either missing a massive chunk of the story (there is NOTHING you have said that implies that) or you have some massive trust issues that need therapy before you are doing to be able to be in a healthy relation.

This entire thing sounds completely mental.

Yeah nothin he has spoke about her before etc and said she’s a nice girl and that’s all he’s mentioned. But he just randomly said him and the brother stopped speaking. But the brother just follows him on insta

And?

I’m bored, let’s go to therapy 💁🏻‍♀️

So what makes you think he's slept with her? You've got nothing except your own paranoia!

Tbh even if your bf did sleep with his brothers gf, so what? Presumably it was before you met 🤷‍♀️

It would mean he’s a scumbag? If he can sleep with his own flesh and bloods girlfriend. And I wouldn’t wanna be with someone like that

Is your boyfriend Ryan Giggs?

I'm not the gossipy , drama loving type but to ask what does it matter sounds a bit obliviously above it all.
I would be curious, so I could avoid future bs and possibly breeding with ferals.

I know I can’t believe girls saying what does it matter. It matters cause I don’t want to go with a scumbag Even if it was a million years before me 🤣

Need a diagram, with arrows and stuff.

Right… so you’ve just made this possibility up in your head and there’s absolutely no real-life evidence for it?

Do you not want more out of your life than this, we are told women are highly inteliigent capable beings why are not seeing more of this?