Me and my ex have always got on, we still love each other, although mine is more practical, more grounded, deeper, I would say his is more romeo and juliet, more cinematic, as I approached retirement, he suggested we move in together, it would mean him paying the bulk of the bills as I have a very small pension. I made it clear it would be as friends, so we took the plunge and now have a very nice house, a dog, a garden, etc. He works 16 hour days, 7 days a week, just as he did before we all moved in, I am enjoying retirement, everything at the start was great.
However, lately, the financial pressures of being the sole income are getting to him, I want us to have a good friendship, I do have some saved money but he refuses to let me dip into my savings, and is intent on covering all the expenses alone, but then he burns himself out and he is starting to look to me to emotionally support him, I find this hard, I have tried, but its not something I am good at, and I have never been good at it, I struggle with it, sometimes he says he needs a hug, a kiss, but i know it will end up more, the more I give, the more I know he will want, and that is not what was the initial suggestion. He is trying to ignite our relationship again, and all I want is friendship. I am quite happy to move out and find my own way, I just dont know what to do, or how to move forward.
Should I try, or should I point out that he knew how hard it would be when he made his offer and put his big boy pants on and get on with it as he did before we moved in,.
Im in my sixties, he is in his fifties, I am done with all the love stuff, the arguments, the compromising, I just thought we would be two friends living together and doing our own thing. HELP.