gifts from ex girlfriends family

[Charltonstrek]

Would you deem it unusual for your ds ex girlfriends dm to keep in touch by way of still sending gifts for birthdays easter etc or any other time when no special event. this is happening with my ds and I think its a nice gesture but my partner thinks its a odd thing to do.

just to clarify the ex girlfriends mother is sending the gifts to ds

Did they have kids together. If so he’s the father to her grandchildren.

No not that odd , she obviously thought a lot of him

It's weird unless they were together for 50 years and he had a strong bond with his.MIL.

no children no

he was with his ex almost 2 years

they did appear to like my ds

she sends cards about what they been up to with the gifts even on a day out she sends a gift through the post as they live a distance

Not weird. If they were part of child's life and knew the child it would be pretty awful to just stop. Its a difficult as my view would be that it wasnt the child's fault so why shouldnt they get card and gift

I think it's extremely odd.

Gosh that’s very invested, especially if they are young and will go on to have more relationships before settling down. The odd text etc, fine, but presents?! Weird.

Do you send anything to his ex girlfriend?

I think it is unusual, much less so if it were just a card; but equally can't see what harm there is to it really, and doubt it will be something that continues indefinitely. These things have a way of petering themselves out naturally over time.

How old is DS? Does he have contact with them other than them sending him these gifts?

Assuming he's an adult then he can decide for himself what he thinks of it and put a stop to it accordingly if he so wishes.

My mum had all girls and when I met dh I think he became the son she never had but wanted ( she loved us very much tho) could it be similar?

I don't find it a bit strange. Is your DS an adult or a teen? Very very strange if a teen, less strange if an adult buy perhaps she thought very highly of him. It will likely just fade out eventually.

Does she definitely know their relationship is over?

What child?

How old is he? It’s a bit weird. My aunt used to do this with my cousins exes and it was because she preferred the exes to her own daughter and it was weird point scoring.

Very weird! How does DS feel about it?

Yes it's weird. How does her daughter feel about her doing it?

my ds is 24 i believe she doesnt have a son just daughters

my ds doesnt seem to mind he said the family are lovely

I dont know ive never kept contact with his ex and never sent her anything after they split