Fed up with how my nights have been lately. I wish I had a room of my own, even if it was just big enough to squeeze a single bed in.
I'm halfway through my 2nd pregnancy. Son is nearly 2. He had been pretty much sleeping through 8pm-6am or waking at about 5am and coming in for a normal cuddle. A couple of weeks ago, he came down with a cold and now wakes up anywhere between 2-4am, comes in, and is insanely clingy. At bedtime he falls asleep with me sat on the edge of his bed, but he seems incapable of doing that in the night.
This is how my nights go:
- sleep later than I want to because my husband gets home very late from work, and messes about with the light on, asks me questions etc
- get woken up by toddler, who can't have a normal side cuddle, but wants to flop about all over me, shove his hair up my nose, squish my sore chest, or crush my arm
- either try and share our bed (and feel like I have no room) or go back with him to his room and he refuses to sleep unless I lay down
- try and fall back asleep. Fail for hours. Get bored after 1 hour and eventually look at phone. Maybe fall back asleep around 5:30. In the week, husband's alarm goes off at 6:15. If sleeping in our room, son never sleeps past 6:30 as our curtains are crap.
My husband snores, badly, which doesn't help with trying to get back to sleep. He said he would get surgery (his friend had it) when we moved to Japan, but that was over a year ago and he gets arsey when I nag him about it. He also tries to cuddle me in the night when I'm already being touched on the other side by our son and I hate it.
I try to lie there reframing it as "you are so lucky to have a child and a loving partner and a baby on the way; some people are dying to have that" but it just makes me more grumpy
I just want some space! No snoring husband, no clingy child! Just some space before this 2nd child arrives and is glued to my tit 24/7
AIBU?
(Gonna put down phone and try and sleep again now, it's 5:05am and he woke me up at 3:35am)