Popping to the shop - which makes more sense?

[aperolspritzbasicbitch]

Am I going insane??

Two adults.

One is cycling in to the local high street for a coffee with child. Coffee spot literally across the street from M&S.

One is driving in to the same town centre to drop off a child at the library, will not be getting out of the car, but because of the layout of the road will have to drive past the back of the same M&S.

one adult suggests to the other that they pop in and pick up some rolls and cold cuts for lunch, as they will be feet away from the shop, bikes already chained up.

the cycling adult says they think the other adult should do it, they are driving right past it. Driving adult explains they have no intention of getting out of the car, so it would add on a car parking space faff/fee.

they’ve reached an impasse, as both adults think it makes more sense for the other to go.

thoughts please?

Obv I should have suggested aperol spritz given username, but idea still stands!

I'd just have a liquid lunch to avoid any of the palaver in that case.

Biker should go

Whoever said they wanted lunch from M&S should pick up lunch from M&S.

Otherwise have egg on toast.

I’m thinking of it more as a bike ride for some exercise/activity & the coffee shop has been chosen as a place to cycle too, rather than people needing to leave the house for a coffee.

To answer the OP. Either could easily do it. I would usually say the one with the car should get the shopping but if they’re going to struggle to park anywhere near, then maybe the cyclist should.

Order a pizza.

thoughts please?
I think if both adults are going to be near the vicinity of the supermarket, the adult suggesting the shopping should actually do the shopping. I don't think "haven't planned to get out of the car" is a valid excuse - it's not that hard to park your car, open the door and get out of your car. So, do it.

But, there are many factors that would make me not want to do the shopping even though it was my suggestion. If I'm always the one having to come up with lunch ideas and provide the lunch, I'd think it's fair for the other person to do this small thing. Or, if there were other things to eat in the house, and neither of us wanted to go to the supermarket, I'd just have what is available at home.

Or, if I'm particularly petty, only buy lunch for myself and my kids. But I'd only do this if my partner is overall a selfish person who never does anything, but takes a lot from me. But then again, I'd just dump him if that's what he was like, so...

Have lunch while you're out, let the cyclist feed himself and the other child.

This is the correct answer. Whoever wants it has the responsibility to get it

Bike

Haha. Yeah I'm not saying it's not. I've just not heard it in the UK before.

Library kid, already out the car and has a book bag

Can lazy cyclist be dropped off to go into shop? Then you don't have to park..

You should have added a poll...

🤣

First world problem.

Honestly either or! I’d err towards the driver because carrying on a bike once sent me into a bush😅😅😅

I call them cold cuts and I'm English.

My thoughts are; why are two adults arguing about something so petty?

Whichever adult is normally the laziest when it comes to planning, buying and making family meals should do it.

When I was married the responsibility of continually feeding people really ground me down. Then ex would do some sort of glory meal making core memories and all that shit. I used to have a secret curly wurly in Tesco car park just to get me through the days.

Now I am dating a nice fellow adult and in this scenario either of us would happily do it.

I would say the one suggesting the lunch does the shopping although it is not that much of a chore for either person. But it seems that neither can be arsed to go into M&S so don’t bother. Have lunch cobbled together from something at home.

Sell the car.
Buy a tandem and hitch a double child carrier trailer to the rear.
Everyone goes everywhere together and saves the planet at the same time. 😉

Best suggestion

Look, we’ve gone electric. There’s only so much you can ask of one family. Tandem is out of the question.

How much do you really want the bread and cold cuts for lunch??? Get out of the car and buy them yourself if you want them.