Should I stop chasing?

[Coffeeandtv86]

Myself and my best friend have been friends for 20+ years. Each know eachother's families and have been through a lot together and supported eachother.
I moved a good 2.5 hour drive away 10 years ago with a partner and had my son. (Have separated now) and even with the move, I still made regular visits back home and always made her a priority as well as family and we talked at least twice a week on the phone.
Around a year ago I made the decision to lose weight for my health, confidence and well. I really was too big!
And with that also made the decision to start dating again.
In that time I have lost 7 stone and I am now in a happy relationship and I am enjoying life again but she has never been supportive.
The more weight I lost, the more distant she became. I was used to her never celebrating with me when I posted a pic from my Slimming group or anything like that. I just accept that but it's now got to the point where messages, txts and phone calls are being ignored by her.
I have got to the point now where I don't want to chase anymore and just let her contact me if and when she wants to

I’d maybe call her and just be honest to say you feel like she’s stepping away from the friendship and ask her if you’ve got that right or is there something else going on.
bur after that, if there is no feedback that sits well with you then conserve your energy for where it’s better placed

For such a long friendship I’d want to query it with her rather than just drift

7 stone wow ! Perhaps she is jealous of your weight loss and new self ? Or maybe she has some stuff going on that you don’t know about.
I would just ask outright is she ok or just purposely distancing herself from the friendship - and then leave it at that. Don’t waste energy on people who aren’t happy for you and your success.

She liked having a fat friend and you're not fat anymore, so you no longer meet the essential criteria for "friend".

Congratulations on your weight-loss and good luck with your new relationship. 💐

Asking her is the obvious action but when none of my calls or messages are even being read i can't see that helping.
I don't know what to think really

These nothing to do she’s clearly doesn’t want to be your friend anymore .

It sounds like she’s distancing herself and more likely than not it’s to do with her life - not yours. When you lose weight and diet a lot of your attention and cognitive load are fixated on that, but other people don’t care even half as much as you do about your weight. She is her own main character.

Well done on your weight loss!

This may be a case of jealousy on her part, or natural drifting away. Send her one last message with how you feel and saying you will leave the ball in her court and if you get no response then you have to let her go, you've done your best.

I think you should message her and say exactly what you've said here or maybe something along the lines of .

I notice that you are not answering my calls or reading my messages.
Is something bothering you? Is it something I've done? Why not tell me..

If I don't hear back from you, I will assume it is because you no longer want to continue this friendship. I hope I'm wrong, as it would be a shame to end a 20 year friendship with no explanation. I never imagined I'd be ghosted, but if that is what you want I will comply with your wishes.

And see what she says. .. In fact... I might even post it too.