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AIBU to discuss A level success without private school spending?

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Absorbthecost · 14/08/2026 10:32

Parents/carers who have not spent a penny on Educating their children and they have just received great A level results.

The sacrifices made all the struggle,

I’m interested to discuss families where the child has succeeded without need for private school

https://www.gbnews.com/money/private-school-fees-soar-vat

https://www.ft.com/content/091b214d-231b-414a-8f3e-9ef9fc021926?syn-25a6b1a6=1

Those who did pay,

presumably to secure great results at A level

The same kids off to Uni, placements easier to secure as less international competition. Uni the playing field evens.

And now time to pay for Uni,

https://inews.co.uk/news/education/university-tuition-fees-11000-2030-4705197?srsltid=AfmBOorss52PSHD6xJzisWMdeNxcXDen3IrCGS49nnGH1ZyDnmvTOh_k

A child who did outstanding (without spending a penny) the same result as a family who spent £250k + The above article is a low estimation for a selective U.K. day/ boarding.

The kids holding the same result off to the same Uni, How are families feeling!?…. Did you save to help towards the Uni Fees/accomodation.

Private school fees soar to £216,000 amid VAT raid

A private day school education from reception to A-levels now costs an average of £216,189

https://www.gbnews.com/money/private-school-fees-soar-vat

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Sidedoors · 18/08/2026 11:05

BananaPeels · 18/08/2026 11:03

Are you saying that currently none of the 94% go on have any success? What does prioritising the 94% mean? A huge amount already do just fine- what more do they need?. Don’t your mean prioritising the maybe 20% of schools who do need extra support?

Edited

Do you mean

They weren’t prioritised by the conservatives and still managed to “do just fine”

Fine.

BananaPeels · 18/08/2026 11:09

Sidedoors · 18/08/2026 11:05

Do you mean

They weren’t prioritised by the conservatives and still managed to “do just fine”

Fine.

Exactly. Grades have been getting higher and higher over the years. Teaching has improved. The proportion of state getting into top universities has increased. Sounds like a. Good job done honestly.

Pittachip · 18/08/2026 11:12

BananaPeels · 18/08/2026 11:09

Exactly. Grades have been getting higher and higher over the years. Teaching has improved. The proportion of state getting into top universities has increased. Sounds like a. Good job done honestly.

To the detriment of mental health, SEND, creative subjects,school buildings, teacher recruitement….

Pittachip · 18/08/2026 11:14

And let’s not forget the amount of young people not in work or education, students fleeced by loans comapnies and the lack of alternative routes into skilled jobs.

Sounds wonderful!

BananaPeels · 18/08/2026 11:16

Pittachip · 18/08/2026 11:12

To the detriment of mental health, SEND, creative subjects,school buildings, teacher recruitement….

Ah well that’s different. This thread was all about academic success and congratulating those who got top grades in state schools. that is measure of success currently. If you want schools to be measured in other ways such as creativity the. You need to campaign for that!

Pittachip · 18/08/2026 11:17

Anyway we’re a long way off the OP.

Sidedoors · 18/08/2026 11:33

BananaPeels · 18/08/2026 11:09

Exactly. Grades have been getting higher and higher over the years. Teaching has improved. The proportion of state getting into top universities has increased. Sounds like a. Good job done honestly.

Or the shift in University trend is merely backlash in academia. Outraged at the 14 years of austerity for state school kids? Under the conservative government.

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 18/08/2026 11:48

I'm just thankfull it's finally been leveled up. For far to long wealthy family's have been buying into the best schools to ensure they get their kids into a good university. Now it's going by grades and the kids themselves and the wealthy parents are realising they carnt buy intelligent kids. State kids are getting in on merit and the wealthy don't like that. To bad. Then they want to get their kids into state 6,th form to have a better chance of getting into uni and whine when most places are taken by kids already on the role. If you opt out of the state system don't expect special treatment to jump the queue. It dosent work like that. Even if the private kids do manage to get a place in state 6th form it still doesn't guarantee a place at university, you are competing against the best at state school who have worked for their place and not had everything handed to them.

Araminta1004 · 18/08/2026 12:01

Labour aren’t levelling up and have been in for over 2 years. They are adding more unfunded SEND into the state system. Start with funding every penny of SEND, for a start. The reason state schools are crap with SEND is because the state expects to fund the initial amounts which is huge in poorer catchments typically. So of course it is relevant. And the Gove curriculum was good for academic state kids without SEND overall - hence why attainment is up and top uni entrance is up too.
The state school sector is largely hugely disappointed in Labour. All they got is the shitty divide to conquer attitude - shafting private schools. How would that help the state sector?

Sidedoors · 18/08/2026 12:20

Araminta1004 · 18/08/2026 12:01

Labour aren’t levelling up and have been in for over 2 years. They are adding more unfunded SEND into the state system. Start with funding every penny of SEND, for a start. The reason state schools are crap with SEND is because the state expects to fund the initial amounts which is huge in poorer catchments typically. So of course it is relevant. And the Gove curriculum was good for academic state kids without SEND overall - hence why attainment is up and top uni entrance is up too.
The state school sector is largely hugely disappointed in Labour. All they got is the shitty divide to conquer attitude - shafting private schools. How would that help the state sector?

Very sorry but it is not possible to compare 2 years of a new government to the 14 years of evidence we have to pick apart with the Conservatives.

Labour have been very clear they inherited a FINANCIAL black hole of overspending.

It will take years of trial and error to begin tackling the issues they inherited!

Sidedoors · 18/08/2026 12:27

BananaPeels · 18/08/2026 11:16

Ah well that’s different. This thread was all about academic success and congratulating those who got top grades in state schools. that is measure of success currently. If you want schools to be measured in other ways such as creativity the. You need to campaign for that!

Charge the parents until there’s nothing left.

Then we’ll tax the kids.
https://independentschoolmanagement.co.uk/news/school-to-give-pupils-digital-currency-for-good-behaviour/

Why don’t they just assist their start ups. Period.

School to give pupils digital currency for good behaviour | Independent School Management

Inspired Education’s Inspired Edge Academy, which is opening in Kensington, West London in September next year, will reward hard work and good behaviour with a digital school currency.

https://independentschoolmanagement.co.uk/news/school-to-give-pupils-digital-currency-for-good-behaviour/

PinkFruitbat · 18/08/2026 12:33

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 18/08/2026 11:48

I'm just thankfull it's finally been leveled up. For far to long wealthy family's have been buying into the best schools to ensure they get their kids into a good university. Now it's going by grades and the kids themselves and the wealthy parents are realising they carnt buy intelligent kids. State kids are getting in on merit and the wealthy don't like that. To bad. Then they want to get their kids into state 6,th form to have a better chance of getting into uni and whine when most places are taken by kids already on the role. If you opt out of the state system don't expect special treatment to jump the queue. It dosent work like that. Even if the private kids do manage to get a place in state 6th form it still doesn't guarantee a place at university, you are competing against the best at state school who have worked for their place and not had everything handed to them.

I am a private school parent and resent your accusations.

Of course Universities should choose on merit. However it’s not all about grades. For example do you have social, cultural, musical, or sporting talent you might bring.

Achieving solid A levels is all well and good. But has the child matured to into a socially capable young adult?

Parker231 · 18/08/2026 12:38

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 18/08/2026 11:48

I'm just thankfull it's finally been leveled up. For far to long wealthy family's have been buying into the best schools to ensure they get their kids into a good university. Now it's going by grades and the kids themselves and the wealthy parents are realising they carnt buy intelligent kids. State kids are getting in on merit and the wealthy don't like that. To bad. Then they want to get their kids into state 6,th form to have a better chance of getting into uni and whine when most places are taken by kids already on the role. If you opt out of the state system don't expect special treatment to jump the queue. It dosent work like that. Even if the private kids do manage to get a place in state 6th form it still doesn't guarantee a place at university, you are competing against the best at state school who have worked for their place and not had everything handed to them.

Why do you think private school children have had everything handed to them. The school DT’s went to was selective - fail the entrance exams and interview and you didn’t get a place regardless of your ability to pay.
And yes, DT’s both got top grades at school and 1st class honours from Uni - why - because they worked hard.

Araminta1004 · 18/08/2026 12:51

“Labour have been very clear they inherited a FINANCIAL black hole of overspending.
It will take years of trial and error to begin tackling the issues they inherited!”

@Sidedoors - there is no time. There will be an election in under 3 years. That is the deal for Governments. Nobody gets away with whining and blaming. You have a window to prove yourself and that is it. It is the same in most businesses too. You think if I am researching some new drug I am getting an infinite amount of time, I am not.

Also, Labour have done nothing to tackle overspending nor increased productivity.
Disincentivising the most productive in society via a punitive tax system is stupidity. And all Labour do is more and more taxes, stealth or otherwise.

Sidedoors · 18/08/2026 13:10

Araminta1004 · 18/08/2026 12:51

“Labour have been very clear they inherited a FINANCIAL black hole of overspending.
It will take years of trial and error to begin tackling the issues they inherited!”

@Sidedoors - there is no time. There will be an election in under 3 years. That is the deal for Governments. Nobody gets away with whining and blaming. You have a window to prove yourself and that is it. It is the same in most businesses too. You think if I am researching some new drug I am getting an infinite amount of time, I am not.

Also, Labour have done nothing to tackle overspending nor increased productivity.
Disincentivising the most productive in society via a punitive tax system is stupidity. And all Labour do is more and more taxes, stealth or otherwise.

So you must sit and observe and have the common courtesy to see what they can achieve with their term.

If they can turn it around and deliver they may sit for 14 years+ too and U.K. will continue to level up.

strawberrybubblegum · 18/08/2026 13:15

Pittachip · 18/08/2026 10:49

I can assure you I’m not the OP!

Not you. Sidedoors.

Araminta1004 · 18/08/2026 13:15

Well no @Sidedoors - because like many socialists, Labour level down not up. And the smart people are fleeing. Conservatives were confused and incompetent and Labour are wokerati on Speed. There is literally no point in punishing private schools for the sake of it. It is just like Brexit, a complete affront to anyone who thinks both rationally and economically.

Araminta1004 · 18/08/2026 13:18

Imagine if Labour are now training the AI to influence public opinion or someone who thinks they can sell Labour a product! Quite funny really.

strawberrybubblegum · 18/08/2026 13:19

Sidedoors · 18/08/2026 10:40

Because priority in education for them was only ever the 6% of children.

They are entirely responsible for the inactive youth employability.

Labour will prioritise the 94% of all children and let’s see what they can turn out.

Even the Conservatives spent £112 billion per year on the 94% and zero on the 6%.

Sounds like you can't really complain about priorities there...

Pittachip · 18/08/2026 13:27

PinkFruitbat · 18/08/2026 12:33

I am a private school parent and resent your accusations.

Of course Universities should choose on merit. However it’s not all about grades. For example do you have social, cultural, musical, or sporting talent you might bring.

Achieving solid A levels is all well and good. But has the child matured to into a socially capable young adult?

Unis do not give too hoots re expensive extra curricular activities anymore and quite rightly so.They want to see your real passion for the subject, proof that you can think beyond school work, and clear reasons why you are ready for a degree. They look for specific examples of your independent reading or projects not a list of your hobbies or expensive jaunts dressed up as charity projects and paid for by mum and dad.

fuckeditupbadly · 18/08/2026 13:28

Pittachip · 18/08/2026 10:47

More than happy to pay more taxes and to claw back money from Tory waste eg

Major Scrapped and Failed Schemes

  • Rwanda Asylum Scheme: Cost roughly £290 million to £700 million in initial expenditures and legal preparations before being entirely abandoned by the incoming government.
  • Cancelled Infrastructure: Scrapping major road and rail upgrades—including portions of the A303 Stonehenge tunnel and eastern legs of HS2—led to hundreds of millions in wasted sunk planning costs.
  • Test and Trace: Billions of pounds were channeled into outsourced private-sector consultants and systems during the COVID-19 pandemic, widely criticized for poor cost-effectiveness compared to local public health networks. [
Procurement and Pandemic Spending
  • VIP Lane PPE: Billions were spent on personal protective equipment via fast-track "VIP lanes" for suppliers with political connections, with roughly £1 billion of that equipment later deemed unusable or written off.
  • Defence Procurement: Cross-party committees repeatedly labeled the Ministry of Defence procurement pipeline "broken," citing overspends and troubled equipment rollouts like the Ajax heavy armoured vehicle.
Whitehall and Card Spending
  • Government Procurement Cards (GPCs): Investigations into public sector credit card usage revealed thousands of pounds spent on high-end hotels, fine dining, and alcohol for diplomatic hospitality, which critics characterized as a pervasive departmental spending culture.

That and the ridiculous idea of spending precious SEND money on private fees for a tiny few whilst cuts had to happen for the majority with SEND to fund it.

Im not suggesting the government should pay private fees. The state offering should be good enough that its not necessary.

strawberrybubblegum · 18/08/2026 13:28

Araminta1004 · 18/08/2026 13:18

Imagine if Labour are now training the AI to influence public opinion or someone who thinks they can sell Labour a product! Quite funny really.

It's interesting that the argument has switched to pro-Labour, isn't it?

Araminta1004 · 18/08/2026 13:30

I still don’t understand how it got around the Talkguidelines with the second account.

Araminta1004 · 18/08/2026 13:31

It is never going to learn EI and establish “trust”. It will reel off facts and figures but it is so blatant.

strawberrybubblegum · 18/08/2026 13:35

Pittachip · 18/08/2026 13:27

Unis do not give too hoots re expensive extra curricular activities anymore and quite rightly so.They want to see your real passion for the subject, proof that you can think beyond school work, and clear reasons why you are ready for a degree. They look for specific examples of your independent reading or projects not a list of your hobbies or expensive jaunts dressed up as charity projects and paid for by mum and dad.

I think it's right for Universities to select purely on academic ability and supra-curriculars. University is education, for the student benefit.

Employers are concerned more with how the person will perform in their work, which requires much broader skills.

It's a shame you think extra curricular interests are worthless: they allow young people to develop their wider abilities. And a good way to show examples of their strengths and abilities at interview.

If you can't talk about it, there's no way for the employer to know what you're capable of.

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