Ok so I’m just going to be blunt and ask you, especially those of you who are in relationships and have teenagers/adult kids in the house. How on earth do you manage a decent regular sex life? Honestly there is always someone in our house if it’s not one of our kids it’s another and they all have different sleep patterns due to school/jobs/uni, working night shifts etc.
Me and my husband are going through shall we say a dry spell, more like a drout, and it’s super frustrating. Both of us overheard our parents at it when we were younger so we both agreed that our kids would never be subjected to the same. I mean they know we have that kind of relationship they’re not stupid and they know that it’s a completely natural thing but we cannot switch off and get in the mood when they’re trudging around the house.
We live in a 3 storey house the kids are all on the top floor, our bedroom is on the middle floor with the living room and kitchen being downstairs. Our daughter (20) who is directly above our room tells us she can hear us chatting (actually chatting nothing else lol) and laughing when she’s in her room and we are in our room say watching tv or just chilling, so we are very conscious of the fact if she can hear us talk she may hear other things. She is also at home at the moment about to start her third year of uni and all her friends live miles away apart from her football friends but she only trains with them once a week and maybe goes out every two weeks of an evening.
Our eldest child (22) works from home (doing cyber/stockmarket/finance work) and his hours are usually at night Tuesday-Friday. Whilst he is respectful of the fact we all work in the day and need to sleep at night he obviously eats and does other things on a different schedule to us so is always about at some point doing one thing or another.
Our youngest child 14 year old obviously goes to school but he’s at that age that come the weekend he wants to stay up later and he’s autistic so he’s a bit up and own and wants company at odd hours lol.
Then there’s the fact our house despite sounding big ish in fact isn’t and despite us all having our rooms there feels like there is little privacy especially for me and my husband. We used to be intimate around once or twice a week which I know may not sound much to some but it was enough for us as we have busy lives, but now it’s like once a month if we are lucky.
Apart from booking nights away which we do but obviously can’t afford to do all the time what else can we do? If he books a day off work there’s always something that crops up eh or our eldest ends up staying up until midday and then by that time we’ve started doing other thorns eg round the house or our daughter has finished uni early and comes home a bit earlier than expected. I feel like we just can’t relax and have a normal intimate relationship and it’s getting me down. Plus I feel like my husband has sadly gotten used to it now and isn’t quite as bothered anymore, although he says this isn’t true, so that makes me feel really upset. AIBU to ask for suggestions on what we can do to improve things.