Does anyone else have absolutely no hobbies or interests?

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I find almost everything boring, bowling is boring and games are boring, work is boring and tv is boring.
I go and visit friends or family and I am bored.

It’s not a recent discovery, I have always been chronically bored, even on holidays.
I have tried various different activities to try and find something I enjoy but everything I do I am bored and just waiting for it to finish.
Don’t tell Dh but even sex is boring if it lasts too long.

I probably drink a bit too much but that’s only out of boredom.

Anyone else just bored all the time? I think I am so inside my head that I have no interest in the outside world, even when people talk to me I wish they wouldn’t because I’m happy daydreaming.

We do what works for our family, I work evenings when Dh is home to save on child care. I have them while he’s at work in the day.

Drunk people are boring.

sounds like you have learned to rely too much on the booze

Do you have any friends? My mum said people who are bored are boring

When did you last have a meds review? Would be worth trying something different maybe?

That doesn’t sound like boredom to me, OP. It sounds like an untreated attention disorder, or one whose treatment isn’t working.

I’m not talking about getting drunk just one sip of wine and I can feel the fog disperse.
I think it must be a dopamine thing.

It’s worth say8ng that during a medication review. Honestly, OP. That’s no way to live.

so what do you daydream about that's so interesting then?

I find this interesting because I'm sort of the same - whenever I'm in a situation which doesn't really capture my interest (irrelevant work meeting, uninteresting conversation, long train journey etc), I go into a daydream - but I would say that because I'm got this escape route I'm never bored. But I would have to find things interesting in order to daydream about them, otherwise I don't see how you get the same escape?

I would probably say I never ever get excited by anything but have lots of interests and hobbies that I enjoy. And definitely don't have ADHD, when I get into something I can do it for hours.

Or it's psychological

Perhaps.

One thing stands out in your OP.
The fact you much orefer daydreaming. And for what I can gather it’s been going on fur a very long time (childhood? Teenage years?)

Now daydreaming like this that is becoming more important than RL can be dissociation. Or maladaptive daydreaming.

Have a look. I suspect you’d recognise yourself in dissociation if you look at how it can present (the definition itself might leave you 😵‍💫😵‍💫)

And only drink helps to lift this boredom?

I assume you don’t drive to work.

Are you allowed to drink shots at work?

Chronic scrolling on phone addiction?

Oh god ok well at least youre starting to open up about this

I can sort of relate too. I do have hobbies and interests, eg I read a lot, I run, go to exercise classes etc.

But I don't like games - I hate it when work or my running club insists on having activities for socials, I just want to go for a meal and a chat with colleagues and then go home. No table tennis or cooking or mini golf or quiz or whatever. I don't want to have to sing for my supper. I think there's an element of being too lazy to be competitive but I can't really put my finger on it.

I suspect from her mention of dopamine hits as well, probably doomscrolling has rotted any ability to focus properly, and therefore unable to concentrate enough to start enjoying something.

For all of us who grew up pre internet, boredom was part of life. So we worked out ways to not have to do that and that "training" sustained us.

The attitude towards drinking is concerning though. Maybe OP is always just in a mild state of hangover or waiting for her next fix, so nothing else gets a look in.

Yes, chilled out part of the country and the manager does it too.
It’s a functions bar so weddings, parties, private bookings, not open to the public.
I don’t drive to work as it’s a 10 minute walk.

I grew up pre-internet as well, I’m late 40s and didn’t ever have internet until I left home in my teens.
I don’t get hangovers from a couple of shots at work or a glass of wine at home.
Do you think nobody had any neurodivergence before the internet?

Yes I do, I’m not sure what causes it though because I can’t remember ever being any different.
I don’t remember any childhood trauma or anything I had a good upbringing.

Yeah I don't these days. I used to but for the last few years health issues and work have sapped me of everything else.

I used to, but I'm not interested in much if anything these days. Too expensive, too busy, cba. I'd rather go to bed!!

I'm like this too. Not a fan of the kind of bar games that exist these days. Colleagues are always trying to get us together to go a local fun bar and play shuffleboard or something else equally dull. I've also never liked boardgames. I think I find the slowness of it all quite dull, and I'm not competitive so I don't care if I win or lose, so there are no stakes.

Going for a drink and a catch up (or a meal and a catch up) is much more fun.

My oldest friend has no hobbies or interests yet is totally happy. She likes daytime tv and coffee with friends…end of.
She’s happy and a good friend.
And is confident in her choices.

Yeah same. Always been like it. Would probably have been diagnosed as on the spectrum as a kid if it was these days but nope just depression and anhedonia.

No interest in life at all. Last time I went abroad was 2011 and only because family wanted me to. It did turn out to be ok but I'd never be excited for something or want to do it in the first place. Music's about the only thing that I get any enjoyment out of. Unfortunately I don't have the energy levels to even do much if I wanted to-just as well I don't! Life's great if you like the mundane I guess.