not invited to SIL Hen Party

[Sosleepy66]

Aibu to feel upset about not being invited to Hen Party? My DH's brother (my BIL) got married recently. DH was invited to the Stag Party. I had no problem with him going to his brother's stag. It was the same day as the Hen Do and both parties merged in the evening. My DH was the only person not with their partner in the evening. I was not invited to any part of the Hen Party. I only found out by chance the next day. I do not get along with BIL, or his now wife, so I never expected to be invited to the Hen Party, but everyone in the evening was a couple except my DH. Would it have been respectful to invite me? I wouldn't have gone anyway, so why do I feel hurt?

We all went to the wedding, which was a very small event (as we're not a big family) but it was so awkward and very unpleasant, even DH and MIL agree.

Errm
It would be normal to invite a brother and would be odd if your hubby hadn't been invited.
It would NOT be normal to invite a SIL and certainly not one you don't get along with. It would have been really odd if she had invited you.

You are being completely unreasonable.

You say you wouldn’t have gone anyway. You don’t get along with her or your BIL so I think you are giving it far too much headspace. Personally I would have felt it a merciful release that I didn’t have to send a decline as I hadn’t been invited 🙂 I would have taken that as a win. The bride can invite / not invite whoever she likes which may or may not include in laws.

I wouldn't overthink this, you don't like them, your DH only tolerates his brother, and presumably they feel the same about you both.

Going forward, if you don't particularly want them coming to something that you organize, don't invite them. Life's too short to spend with people whom you don't like!

Why would she invite you when you don't get on?!