AIBU not to take DS2 to a family party?

[Robin781]

DS2 is 9mo. Hardly any of my extended family have been to visit us/see him since he was born. When DS1 was 4mo, we had a ‘welcome to the world’ type party at our expense, where close friends, immediate and extended family were invited for a full meal and met DS1. However, a lot of the same friends and family also came home to visit us and meet him before or after. We are attending a ‘big birthday’ party next weekend for an extended family member. AIBU to not want to take DS2 to this - for extended family to meet him for the first time - when they haven’t made the effort to check in or come and see us after he was born? No backstory, it just feels like people just haven’t made the effort. We have made the effort to visit elderly relatives with him who may not have been able to come and see us otherwise.

Honestly they won't give a toss about not seeing her if you're thinking is that you wilp
"punish' them by not bringing her. I'm sure post of them would be delighted that there is one less baby there to make noise

Christ you sound petty.

I doubt many would be arsed if you don’t take the baby.

if it’s that important to you that family come and worship at the temple of baby, why didn’t you do one of your ‘welcome to the world’ parties for DC2?

How old are you as you sound exceedingly juvenile?

Batshit idea, no one is interested in your second baby.

if you wanted them to come you should have thrown a second party. Even you don’t care about your second kid as much as you didn’t throw a party 😬

I’m afraid I think most people are excited for your first but not as excited with subsequent children

Agree.

Silly and attention seeking.
No one will notice or care if your ds is not there op, it is someone else's event.
Heavens above. Self absorption to a whole new level.

And the welcome to the world party with a 'full meal' sounds insufferable when he is 9 months old and all of the family had met dS1. Very bizarre.

You sound like a nightmare op tbh. The whole world is not revolving you and your offspring.

You don’t get the fanfare for the second child.

Why do you need it?

No one will care if you don’t take them, all you’ll do is isolate your child from their family.

So you did a welcome dc1 party but not to dc2 - but also pissed off that people didn’t come and meet no 2

maybe as you didn’t do a meet him party people thought you didn’t want them over

to not take him to meet people when have a chance is petty

Yes, maybe people were waiting for Welcome To The World 2.0

What will you say when people ask ‘where’s your baby’

‘I didn’t bring him as none of you showed much interest in him when he was born’

You are going to look absolutely insane.

if you go you go as as a family - which includes your baby.

leaving him at home to punish your wider family is genuinely one of the craziest things I’ve read on here and let’s be frank there is a lot of crazy stuff on this site!

This! Feels like you want people to say 'oh thats a shame, I was looking forward to seeing LO'...

By all means leave with GPS if its better for you but your reasoning seems Perry and childish

Think is bonkers

This all sounds very high maintenance, you had a baby amillions of people dpo this every year they are not the centre of non parents universe life goes on

go or dont go but your reasoning is plain weird

Throw a welcome to the world with a full meal for DS2

Well, that’ll show them!

The entire clan will go home shaking their heads, choking back tears, and saying ‘I am a sadder and wiser person who should have visited that baby, and brought gold, frankincense and myrrh.’

You are being very childish. The reason family visited the first time is because you had a party. Since you didn't have any this time, no one has particularly gone out of the way to come over. Nothing wrong with that. I am sure you would have received congratulations messages, if and when you announced the birth via whatsapp or social media. So what else are you expecting? You visiting elderly relatives is different because that is about respect due to their age. Take both your children to the party, have a good time, and don't create issues out of nothing.

Spot on. What extraordinary attention seeking!

Is this a reverse?

This is petty and attention seeking.
Sounds like you expected them to all dance round you and come and visit you - why couldn't you visit them?

I’ll look forward to your follow up post when you don’t take him (that’ll learn them) and not one person queries why you haven’t or even notices. They are very clearly not that interested op.

Your whole post op doesn’t make you sound very pleasant. Remarkably self absorbed.

Your comment about "at our expense" re the party you threw made me laugh. Of course you'd be paying if you were throwing a party.

Why didn't you have a party for your second child?

With the greatest of respect, you need to get over yourself! Your son is not a Royal Prince. You sound like you’re withholding him from your family to punish them for not fawning all over you when you first had him. That’s more than a bit ridiculous. Plus, if they’re not that fussed in the first place, your petty act will not even have the effect you seem to want it to.

Nobody will care. People are only interested in other people’s kids for 10 minutes max. They would be more disappointed if you’d promised to bring a Colon the Caterpillar cake and then forgot it. Do whatever is more convenient for you and don’t worry about anyone else.