Friends mocking my engagement :(

[UpShitsCreek]

My fiance proposed to me this week after 3 years together, just a day after our 3 year anniversary!

He had planned to propose in his home country when we visited a few months back but it was very busy seeing all this family (his mum is British before any comments about wanting a UK visa!).

We had a stressful time coming back and I had been prepping for a new job interview. He came home from work around 9, told me to put some shoes on as he wanted to show me something…

He drove me to a road and got out and said “this is the first place I ever said I loved you” and then proposed, with a gorgeous delicate ring!

I was on cloud 9, so happy. I always told him I didn’t like big proposals and I’d been embarrassed if someone saw, so this felt perfect and quite romantic.

Saw my best friends today. Both of them were saying how cheap it was, how it was thoughtless and that they’d be sick if they were proposed to in their pyjamas (like I was), and that he could have done something more romantic. They were laughing about it as well.

It’s made me really really sad. Aibu to think that the proposal was quite thoughtful… the first place he said “I love you” is quite sweet?

Congratulations. It was a heart felt genuine proposal. I don't get the modern trend for these competitive oneupmanship engagement events, where it's style over substance.

Mine didn’t propose to me at all 🤣. It had been 4 years, and we already had our son, so we went ring shopping together and after waiting a few days for him to propose I said, can I just have the ring now please.

Together for 22 years, married for 16…your friends are dicks

Congratulations on your engagement 💍 Wishing you many happy years together.

You need new friends. Luckily you have a thoughtful husband to be.

Surely an engagement should be thoughtful and personal, not just pics for the gram…..

My husband proposed as we drove down the A13 in Dagenham. No shade on the ‘Nam’ but you could not get less insta worthy🤣 He had just bought the ring and could not wait to propose. Married 21 years this year, very happy together, weathered storms, couple of kids. All the important stuff that partners in life do.

OP it sounds like a wonderful and thoughtful engagement. My DH proposed in our bed at home it was perfect 🥰 it was low key and very us and relaxed.

ignore your friends they reek of jealousy! (Would reconsider if they were on your bridesmaid list) 🩷 happy engagement!

Proposal sounds absolutely perfect to me, no offence but it sounds like those arseholes friends are more concerned about showing off for social media than the actual proposal. Congratulations on your engagement 🥰

Ignore them!!!!
It sounds absolutely perfect!!!!

Aww that sounds lovely. Your ‘friends’ are not. Congratulations

Congratulations.
Their remarks are so nasty
Absolutely NOT normal.

Do not involve them in your wedding in any way.
They do not wish you well.
I would be putting distance between you and them.
I would fill your mother in.
These are not people to ever share joy with again
They are not your friends.
Wishing you well.

Your post reminded me of this article, I’ve just found it. I absolutely love this story

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-africa-50351433

I think it was very romantic, lucky girl!

Congratulations! 🥂 I never got a proposal! My boyfriend said, do you want to get married? Shall I get you an engagement ring? He did and we got married a few years later.

Don't be sad, your proposal sounds absolutely lovely and romantic - and thoughtful. It was a genuine and private moment between you and your fiancé that you'll cherish forever. I think it sounds sweet that you were in your pyjamas, and there's something real about it because it was all unexpected.

Your friends sound like a bunch of Instagram bitches that want a staged, fake proposal to display on social media. The kinds you just scroll over when you see them because they're so obnoxious and fake.

Err….. that was a proposal, wasn’t it? One person proposes (suggests) to the other that the two get married, or asks the other if they are willing to get married. That’s what a proposal is.

An engagement is a celebration of your love and personally I think what your partner did was very romantic. Please ditch the mean girl friends, they sound utterly horrible. Congratulations on your engagement 💕

My husband proposed to me in our local village, next to the river, cos it was a pretty spot! Over dramatic is over played and not needed for everyone, I would have been mortified with a big deal in a restaurant or something!

Sounds like he knows you a lot better than they do. Flashy proposals for the Gram may be some people's idea of romance. I am far more a fan of simple and heartfelt. Staged faux proposals are not going to get anyone through the challenges of a long term relationship. Honesty, integrity and a rock solid base are what you need.

Congratulations!

That’s sooooo lovely, OP.

(Your ‘friends’ are a pair of bitches.)

Congratulations on your engagement.
Mine was very very romantic, me and DH were in bed chatting and he asked about my thoughts on marriage and more kids, I said been there done that, he then said so you wouldn't marry me then, I said well I suppose I would so he said well let's get married then.
We have been married 30 years we have had some tough times but we worked through them he really is my best friend, and I wish you a long and happy marriage.
Ignore your friends as it's not about a ring, clothes or a location is about wanting to spend the rest of your life worth that person and working together through the hard times no matter who caused them.

Congratulations, that's a beautiful proposal from the heart, I expect your 'friends ' would want something more performative. At least you know there's 2 people not to invite to your beautiful wedding day.

Obvious jealous bitches are obvious.

Congratulations @UpShitsCreek

congratulations! 🥂 It sounds like you have a great man there, all the best for a wonderful life together

feel pity for your friends they are sick with jealousy

It’s a damn good job your future husband knows you better than your ‘friends’. Bin them off and find people who actually care about you.

You had the sweetest and most sincere proposal ❤️ congratulations!!
Those are not your friends, don't invite them to your wedding.
They are not princesses and I feel sorry for any guy they hook up with as they will never be enough.
Enjoy your engagement'

What your fiance did was romantic. It seems like he thought of it himself, whereas elaborate proposals are probably stuff people have looked up on the Internet.

THIS. It’s romantic and meaningful for you and your fiancé. That’s enough. Not everyone wants a choreographed, set designed, Instagram friendly event. Your friends may prefer a Hollywood proposal, but that’s their taste, not yours. And there’s no guarantee that a movie perfect proposal or wedding ensures a lasting marriage.