Friends mocking my engagement :(

[UpShitsCreek]

My fiance proposed to me this week after 3 years together, just a day after our 3 year anniversary!

He had planned to propose in his home country when we visited a few months back but it was very busy seeing all this family (his mum is British before any comments about wanting a UK visa!).

We had a stressful time coming back and I had been prepping for a new job interview. He came home from work around 9, told me to put some shoes on as he wanted to show me something…

He drove me to a road and got out and said “this is the first place I ever said I loved you” and then proposed, with a gorgeous delicate ring!

I was on cloud 9, so happy. I always told him I didn’t like big proposals and I’d been embarrassed if someone saw, so this felt perfect and quite romantic.

Saw my best friends today. Both of them were saying how cheap it was, how it was thoughtless and that they’d be sick if they were proposed to in their pyjamas (like I was), and that he could have done something more romantic. They were laughing about it as well.

It’s made me really really sad. Aibu to think that the proposal was quite thoughtful… the first place he said “I love you” is quite sweet?

Jesus Christ, as my Granny’s used to say “if you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all”

Congratulations on your engagement, you have found a lovely sweet man. Now find yourself nicer friends.

It is so lovely for him to remember where he first said the three little words. I wish I could remember where we exchanged those words. I do remember my proposal. It was in the bath!!! Don’t tell my kids.

Yes huge congratulations from me too! I think what he did was thoughtful and special, and it has created one of your own private couple in jokes that they won't ever get.

May you have many more.

I hope your time being a bride to be and then a wife is wonderful and everything goes right for you.

Just be aware that you are embarking on a journey that people think they have the right to comment on, saying things that reflect where they are and what they think. They have nothing to do with you. You plan the day you want and tailor it to your selves where possible, and don't take what people say to heart. It is your life and your marriage and your journey and your time in the spotlight x

I just wanted to add my voice to everyone else and say it's a lovely, thoughtful and meaningful way to propose to you.

Congratulations! ❤️

Your friends are dicks.

Your DH (to be) sounds lovely. A beautiful intimate, romantic proposal that sounds like it was perfect for you. They are simply jealous!

It sounds like your ‘friends’ are money grabbing, materialistic and rude assh*les. That was a lovely, romantic proposal full of meaning for you both. Congratulations 🥰

@UpShitsCreek Time to change your friends.

They sound awful. We went to one of our favourite restaurants where we'd had our first Valentine's Day dinner together and DH proposed there.

Some younger colleagues were like "That was it??" with my proposal story. What more do you want, a song and dance routine?

I’m guessing noone is proposing to your friends, so their mean opinions are rather moot. You deserve kinder friends

Friends support each other.
If you and your fiance are happy thats all that matters. Congrats.

Your friends sound horrible! The proposal sounds lovely and personal to you. Congratulations!

Your friends sound shallow and possibly envious of you. Don't continue to let them try to pull you down to their level.

It was a lovely, meaningful, classy proposal and your " friends" are either image obsessed Insta queens, jealous or both.

I would HATE any proposal that wasn't absolutely private in the moment. It's about you two.

Congratulations!

It’s sounds like a beautiful proposal with extra special meaning behind it. Your friends are simply jealous and I wouldn’t consider them friends at all if this is how they behave. Many congratulations on your engagement.

At least he took you somewhere. My husband proposed in bed one afternoon after work, no ring, nothing special I was devastated, I said yes cos I wanted to marry him but all the things we'd done and places we'd been when he could have done and didn't. I should have known cos he used to mock people who did special proposal, his best mate did it at the top of the Eiffel Tower. Ignore your friends, he knew you didn't want a public proposal and he did it somewhere that is special to you as a couple. Congratulations!

I’ve been married 25 years and have two grown up DC. My DH proposed pissed in a club. These picture perfect or expensive proposals are for the gram. Idiotic.

Nasty, bitchy so called friends. Perhaps they are actually jealous green eyed monsters. I think your engagement proposal was so lovely especially as your partner remembered where he first told you he loved you.
He sounds a very thoughtful person.
Ditch those ‘friends’ and cross them off the wedding invite list for sure.
Congrats on your engagement.

They’re not your friends. Congratulations on your engagement!

It was a beautiful proposal. I was proposed to on a wet hillside in the middle of the North Yorkshire Moors, I was wearing a big black plastic raincoat and had a mouthful of corned beef and potato salad sandwich at the time.

That was 25 years ago. Its the marriage that matters. Forget your friends peevishness, the size of the ring, where he proposed… is he a good man who will have your back for the rest of your life? That’s all that matters.

If they’re your friends, who needs enemies! Your fiancé sounds lovely and thoughtful. Make sure you make them your bridesmaids and pick them something truly awful to wear!

Are you sure that these women are your friends? They sound materialistic and a bit bullying?? Are they quite young? I think the proposal is very sweet and very romantic. Definitely not thoughtless at all, marriage is about love not money!

Your friends are immature and shallow. With this kind of attitude they shouldn’t be invited to your wedding.
Congratulations to you both and I hope you have many years of happiness.

your friends don’t know what true love is if they think it’s a showy ceremony to propose rather than something personal and romantic like you had. My soon to be husband proposed at a gig, but to be honest we’d already booked the wedding (we own a house and have kids so just planned a wedding) so it was more of him giving me a ring (which I’d picked) than a real proposal. I love him to pieces and don’t need anything showy, nor do you and that’s all that counts.

why would it make you sad? deffo get new friends, ones who are not shallow dickheads

That's so sweet and romantic, don't listen to your unkind friends! They should be congratulating you, not bringing it down. They sound immature.

Huge congratulations!

It wasn’t just a sweet proposal it was thoughtful and very real! I love it, what a wonderful story.

They’d be ex friends for me. This was a huge and wonderful moment for you and whatever their thoughts they should have kept it to themselves!