Cancelled on friend due to illness, she wasn't happy

[ThatLovingNavyLion]

I was meant to travel to see a friend for the day about 1.5 hours away. I rarely get ill touch wood, but typically I got a sickness bug the day before I was meant to meet her! I was being sick multiple times, no appetite and felt weak, like my limbs were stiff and I couldn't walk much.
I had to cancel sadly, there was no way I could travel in that state. I hate doing this but I had no choice, and I told her I could do the next couple of weekends so that she knew I still really wanted to see her.

She was cold in her reply and didn't agree to the other weekend, so unfortunately I think she thought I was lying/couldn't be bothered. I've never done that to her before so it's not like I've got form for it. I asked another friend for advice and she said "Yeah I can completely see why she's pissed off."

If i kept cancelling I could see that, but it was my only time. Sadly they think I was lying, there's not much I can do. Was I supposed to go and throw up on her? Do feel bad but unsure what else to do.

I sent something similar to a friend just a couple of days ago when she cancelled. I was in the middle of doing something else when I got here message. I sent a follow up the next day when I realised it might have come across as rather blunt. I wouldn't read too much into it for now.

I would understand her being disappointed that you couldn’t meet up, I can’t understand why your friends would suggest she’d be pissed off though. It’s not like you chose to be throwing up, it can’t be helped

Unfortunately, people get sick. But by the same token, your friend is allowed to feel disappointed. Likely she'd been looking forward to this visit, and it's now not going ahead. I think being a bit cool in her response is to be expected.

It's just one of those things.

People get sick. Maybe a follow up text next week are you free any evening. If she being flaky just leave it at that

If she just said ok no problem I think you are reading way too much into it atm. Maybe she’s just disappointed and needs some time. Maybe she’s gone and done something else anyway as she’d planned to be out. Id also be suspicious if my friend bailed on me for being sick and then preceded to expect a text conversation. You are supposed to be sick I think you are feeling guilty and wanting her to make you feel better by rearranging straight away.

I wouldn’t see the “ok no problem” as cold in and of itself but if there was no follow up then that’s pretty uncaring.

She might be extra disappointed because she’s going through a difficult time or something. I’ve had friends cancel when I’m already feeling down and rather than make them feel bad, I might just send a brief reply and then wait until I’ve got over the disappointment to send a proper reply.

I used to have a friend who would cancel a lot of our meetups. It was always a stomach bug. I was always sympathetic but after she supposedly came down with a stomach bug the night before we were due to go away for a weekend break together, I just stopped contacting her. Haven’t heard a peep from her in approx. 8 years!