DS’s sleeping habits

[wanderingwillows]

DS is 14 weeks old. At the minute, he still falls asleep in our arms in the living room where he stays until we go to bed (then we transfer to the next-to-me crib).
If we do try and put him down in his crib earlier eg 8pm (with camera on, it’s also a downstairs bedroom next door to us in the living room) he wakes and cries.
i’m worried that we’re creating bad habits by holding him in our arms in the living room so long. By this age, should we be encouraging him to fall asleep independently in his crib? Or is he still too young for this?

long and short - AIBU for holding him in the living room all night?

Absolutely not an issue. He shouldn't be sleeping in a room by himself anyway, even with a camera as it is the general noise and breathing of someone else that helps to keep sleep light enough to be protective against sids. So enjoy the cuddles and don't stress.

Hi, I’m a gp and mum of 3 smalls. He’s too young to be in a room by bimself
even with a baby monitor on
safe sleep guidance say small babies should sleep in the same room as you daytime or night time until a bare minimum age of 6months. Baby monitor doesn’t replace the safety of parental proximity.
enjoy the snuggles. Keep them in your arms. Babies don’t keep. Soon they’ll be a teenager avoiding hugs !
https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/baby-safety/safer-sleep-information/room-sharing/

Nah it’s fine. You can’t “spoil” a baby like this, he is tiny and needs to be with his parents to feel safe.
Don’t bother with starting a routine until 6 months and even then it doesn’t need to be strict

Babies need to hear your heart beat and breathing to regulate theirs. The being in the same room as you is not about being able to see them.

I have a 6 year old and an 11 month old and have held them both as much as they needed. My 11 month old can be put in the cot to sleep once he's been fed and he can sleep 7.30-10.30, 11-5.30, 5.30-7.30. We go to bed at 10.30 so this is some times a dream feed /only woken as we have come to bed. He has slept 11-5.30 since about 4 months. The 7.30-10.30 has been more recent.

My eldest slept in my arms at various times until 3! She was a high needs baby that needed a lot of support for comfort due to health issues.

My grandma used to always say, babies are meant to be held and you can't hold your baby too much

14 weeks is still tiny! It's fine to let baby sleep in your arms at this age. He's too little to be sleeping in another room on his own anyway, even with a baby monitor.